My boyfriend broke up with me. We are both in our 30's and I thought I'd finally found the man I'd spend the rest of my life with. We didn't have a big fight or argument. It was a calm break up but my heart feels like it's been ripped in two. We decided to spend one last day together, yesterday. It was a great day! He asked me to bring my girls (I have 3) by on Saturday so he could talk with them and say good bye. It's going to be very difficult for all of us. My daughters love him. I'm not looking forward to it. Yet when he was leaving he smiled at me and told me he would talk with me before Saturday. Even after I told him that it would be too hard to keep in contact and not be together. I'm thouroughly confused! Part of our problem is communication. I don't know if he's wanting to try to make it work or if he's playing games with me. He hasn't been a game player in the past. I don't know what to think. Your opinions are appreciated! Thanks!
2007-02-23 01:06:58 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am so sorry that you are hurting, it is evident that this man respects and cares for you and your daughters, however he has
made a decision to move on, for now allow him to do what he has too, and you be careful not to become angry or bitter, try daily to concentrate on what will make your life better then take action, you cannot go against another person's will but you can take control of your own destiny, you are the example your daughters see, and you set the tone for their adult life because as a Mom the foundation of life is what you are teaching to your
children to make the best choices, to separate the good, the bad
and the ugly and how to overcome when things just do not work out. But real love always prevails, remember love them enough but love yourself more, so when its time to let go you can so bye! bye! but if they return its your option to say?
2007-02-23 01:41:56 · answer #1 · answered by Tennessee Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sure sounds like he's confused. Maybe he's afraid of a total commitment. I understand how you feel that your heart is ripping in two. My boyfriend did the same thing. But after a couple days he called and wanted to talk. We got back together and our bond is stronger than it was before. Sit down and talk find out exactly why he wants to break up and see if you can work things out. Where love is concerned there is always hope. When we find that special person we have to sometimes fight to keep them. But it will be worth it in the end. Good luck.
2007-02-23 01:22:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, you would want to let him down gently. So, find some quiet place where you two can sit and talk to each other. Begin wiht your problems, and mayb, while you two are talking, you might realize that breaking up isnt what you want. If thats not the case, tell him that you would like a break from him. Let the break up be mutual. Dont be harsh or else, things might not be good in the future. Whether or not you want to remain friends is up to you, but the best case scenario, would be for the break up to be mutual and have no hard feelings involved. Good luck!
2016-05-24 01:57:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say this but, he has someone else, he may have all along. He probably made a decision that was equally hard for him. He may have more time invested with this other person and wants to try to make that relationship work. Or maybe he just needs some space. How long have you two been together? E-mail me. A similar thing happened to me when I was younger, but at the time I had no kids. I was about 20 or 21 at the time. It really broke my heart, because I really like this guy. I knew that he had a girlfriend that he had a child with, but he told me that they had broke-up. Somewhere along the way they got back together and he didn't tell me. But I found out, because she found my picture in his bedroom, and she came to my block wanting to get physical with me. But my friends urged him to fess up. So he came to my house after she left my block and got down on his knees and told me that he decided to get back together with her because he was with her longer (4 years) but he still said that the time that we spent together was the best time he has ever had. He tried to get back with me a couple of years later, but by then I was married.
2007-02-23 01:21:43 · answer #4 · answered by Tonya W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you must be very confused becasue i got confused just reading it. I would suggest to talk to him alone in private about it all and see what his plans are so that you don't think something else and he hurts you more by thinking something that he wasn't feeling, it could work out very well for you guys and you may even get back together if that's what you decide to do, but try to talk it over. Good Luck!
2007-02-23 01:14:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
While his mind says you're not together anymore, his heart at least thinks you should be cordial, if not friendly. I think he was being good in front of your girls.
If he calls and doesn't respect your wishes, I would tell him that you aren't ready to speak with him yet as a friend and need privacy right now.
2007-02-23 01:14:08 · answer #6 · answered by Aimee L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he is trying to make it work but maybe needs a bit of time and space to give you (as a couple) a chance to get organized and work on your problems. I hope it works out. Good luck.
2007-02-23 01:13:39 · answer #7 · answered by H.B.K. 2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww! That's kinda sad. I'm sorry for your loss. Seems like a really difficult situation. If you really both wanted to be together, ask him if he would be interested in couseling together. Sorry about the loss.
2007-02-23 01:15:32 · answer #8 · answered by whatever 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and tallk to him, tell him how you real feel about the break upa and see if there is any way that you can solve the problem. good luck.
2007-02-23 01:13:58 · answer #9 · answered by misty blue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This whole thing seems bizarre. Why must you upset your girls? Why is he dragging this out and hurting you, even more than necessary?
I think it's time you got angry ....
2007-02-23 01:15:21 · answer #10 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋