I've read a lot of questions/answers concerning a cheating partner being given another chance, and things being "better."
2007-02-23 01:04:01 · 10 answers · asked by nunya 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would never give a chance if he cheated on me, that's my rule because I could never trust him again.
2007-02-23 01:12:45 · answer #1 · answered by Arianne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to my own experience, good and bad.
My ex cheated on me and we broke up for over a year.
I was in total shock and I just couldn't believe what he done to me. I tried to forgive him but could not. I still loved him very much. Even after he left I could not stop thinking about him.
Than year and half later, he came back. He said he was very sorry for hurting me and he still loves me. My motto was, once a cheatter always a cheatter. And I told myself not to take any cheatter back..no matter what!! However, as much as I wanted to control my feelings...I failed. I took him back. We were together for six months and we were even thinking about getting married and moving in together..and stuff. But back in my mind, I could not forget the day I heard he was with some other girl. I forgave him but I could not forget what happend. Than the day came, he asked me to give him a month to sort things out. I knew exactly what that meant. I agreed. Also at the same time I let him go and I moved on. I guess after the first break up I needed some type of closure in this relationship. I don't regret taking him back. I knew it from the beginning that it will not last.
So, think before making any decisions. Make sure if you decide to take him back you will not regret later. If there is regret don't take him back.
2007-02-23 11:08:13 · answer #2 · answered by Victoria78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People make mistakes. You'll never find a lasting relationship unless you can forgive. Usually, the people that get back together are those who really love each other and the cheating was a mindless mistake that meant nothing. Sex is sex at the end of the day. Saying that, if my partner cheated, it'd be over.
2007-02-23 09:10:17 · answer #3 · answered by kevinos_1982 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes ALOT of trust and effort. but it can work.
you need to tell this person that IF you two remain in a relationship for a long, long time YOU get say over what happens. you tell this person you don't trust him right now. If you want to know where he is, you get that privalige. if you want to look at his call log on his cell you get to do it...his email? yes that too. it's all justifiable since you're feeling so insecure and hurt. this isn't a forever thing, just until you trust this person enough again to know that they won'y be doing what they did again. YOU set the ground rules because YOUR the one taking this person back after the hanus act they pulled. If they really want to be with you and no one else they will have no problem agreeing to most of this.
2007-02-23 09:11:35 · answer #4 · answered by jedi46300 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I said I could not do this, but after 6 years I forgave the one mistake he made. I have never really gotten over it and it was never at the same trust as the early days. I don't think you can ever be where you were in terms of trust.
2007-02-23 09:11:08 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Beetle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love's a funny beast. You want to believe that "he" or "she" is really sorry, that you're not being rejected, that it is some other person's fault. Also, if you've got kids, you don't want to deprive them of a parent.
It's all to do with your own sense of worth. And the life you share with that person. Breaking up families isn't just a divorce - it's splitting entire families down the middle.
2007-02-23 09:10:00 · answer #6 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, one of my old boyfriends cheated on me and i would never go back out with him, but we're still friends. Another one cheated on me too..... i think but we're going out again and it's ok so i think it might just depend on the guy.
2007-02-23 09:10:00 · answer #7 · answered by hotchik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well really to tell you if someone cheated on me i would not take them back. The reason is if they really did care about you and really did love you they would not go behind your back.
2007-02-23 09:08:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they loved you in the first place then they would never cheat on you so whats the point in taking someone back that doesnt even love you in the first place
2007-02-23 09:12:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. Unless of course you have a very forgiving heart and you can make yourself trust your partner again. Good Luck!
2007-02-23 09:23:48 · answer #10 · answered by Cindy M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋