Weve been dating over 2 months...hes been nothing but sweet, sensitive, and honest with me. He ended up moving in bc his roomate kicked him out...i didnt want him here, i said wed end up being friends, but we are trying it. He went to central america 2 weeks for his job...he came back and i saw condoms in his little see-through travel bag...i confronted him, he said they were old and he hadnt taken them out, and did not sleep with anyone...they are old once i got to looking at them...he was also very busy on the trip his friends said and didnt even go out...anyway...i started asking about his past, the question popped into my mind and i asked, "did you ever sleep with prostitutes?" he said yes in high school and college, but it was meaningless sex...he is 34 and mexican...should i be angry/ worried? Is it more acceptable there? I thought i was an open-minded person, but man. I apologized last night for the way i have been acting and he almost cried, he said lets forget.
2007-02-23 00:55:38 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have the right to feel however you are feeling, so you don't need to apologize for that.
As HIV can lay dormant for 20 years, I would go to your family doctor for testing as a pre-caution.
A guy moving in with you for any reason after only being together two months is too soon. (I would want to know why his roommate kicked him out if I were you!).
If he is 34, he is a grown man and as he has a job, I see no reason why he cannot find a place on his own to live.
If he lives on his own for awhile it will help you get a better perspective on whether this is a relationship you want to be in long term or not.
The upside is he did come clean when you asked him and told you yes, he has visited prostitutes in the past. It sounds like it has been over 10 years ago since he used them, True, it is more prevalent down in Mexico due to a very depressed economy.
The downside is that he did treat another human being as a commodity and took advantage of their desperation for money by purchasing sex from them. It does say something about his character. He may have exposed himself, and now you to a fatal sexually transmitted disease.
If you chose to forgive him, that is you choice, but I would never forget as the past is prone to repeat itself.
2007-02-23 01:09:02 · answer #1 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think there are two main questions that need to be answered. First, is he disease free? Has he been tested?
Second, is he faithful to you now?
What he did when he was younger is largely just the past. If he's doing what he should do NOW then I think you are OK. Highschool was a long time ago...
2007-02-23 01:01:47 · answer #2 · answered by danl747 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its good that he was so open, if he hadnt told you and you found out by mistake it would have been much worse, my fella used to work in Amsterdam and admitted to sleeping with a prostitute but we talked it out and he was safe and clean, itd b much worse if he'd have hooked up with an unprotected slag in a bar! so get over it!
2007-02-23 01:06:46 · answer #3 · answered by scubazipo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having sex with a prostitute is the same as having sex with anyone else,except you pay for it,you still wear a condom..if you have had sex with someone before you got with him,then your in the same boat,forget his past and live for the future
2007-02-23 01:03:59 · answer #4 · answered by buddybottle_australia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to get tested for STD's and you will as well. Just so that way you know you both are clean and your not going to get anything from one another.
2007-02-23 01:01:24 · answer #5 · answered by Torey♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get to know him and trust him and make him earn you re trust . He must like you if he was honest . Be careful good luck .
2007-02-23 01:01:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I respect his honesty.
I don't think you have anything to worry about unless he gives you a reason too
2007-02-23 01:01:12 · answer #7 · answered by brenda4ever 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All i can say is make sure he wears a condom when hes with you, just for safety sake.
2007-02-23 00:59:33 · answer #8 · answered by terryodell42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sleep with him, he probably has at least 1 STD that you don't want.
2007-02-23 00:59:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go but keep an eye on him.
2007-02-23 00:58:53 · answer #10 · answered by Viking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋