My fiance and I were going to get married in August with the money we recieved from our tax returns. My aunt and uncle offerrd us their beautiful home to have the wedding at. We went over the costs last night (right down to the glasses for wine) and we still have money left over. But then we thought about the things that we need done on this new little cottage house that we bought. If we didn't get married this year (and pushed it out a year) we could get these things done and even have money left over to pay off some debt. My inner turmoil is that my family knows about the wedding and I wonder how disappointed they would be if we told them that our home is in need of repairs and the wedding would need to be next year. Any comments?
2007-02-23 00:47:24 · 17 answers · asked by Sarah C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I don't know what you're planning to spend, but perhaps try cutting some corners. I know here there is a wine shop that carries locally made wines and they are fantastic, and cheap! Wine shops are also great about letting you test the wines they carry. Even with all of the wines my local shop has, my favorite is only $6 or $7. Try your local craft supply place for discount candles and all sorts of wedding supplies. I was looking for valentine's day stuff at my local one and was so surprised at the selection of wedding supplies at such low prices. I'm not saying leave out anything you want, but shop around for the best deals.
If you have already done that, then I say, go for your wedding. Use next years return for your home, it'll probably be more anyhow (yay for filing as a couple!).
2007-02-23 01:04:11 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I continue to have this conversation with my fiance (just had it again this morning) it is NOT worth going into debt to have a wedding. It's the MARRIAGE that is important, not the wedding. I would strongly urge you to put as much money into your home, that you will have a lifetime, rather than into a wedding that lasts a day. However, I wouldn't put the wedding off completely, you can go middle ground. Have a small wedding at your aunt and uncle's place - a nice intimate family affair where you can have a gathering in the backyard - and save the rest for the house. You can have an intimate family-only wedding for $2000 - less if you get family to cook their specialties and avoid using a caterer. All I'm saying is, you are on the right track - though in this instance you can literally have your cake and eat it too! Good luck.
2007-02-23 01:02:36 · answer #2 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is about you and your fiance. How do the two of you feel about waiting? I am sure there is already excitement and energy around the wedding...so you need to decide how disappointed you will be. Also, is the cottage falling down? I know that sounds ridiculous, but truly, there is always something, a car, a sickness, a job change... so make sure you are clear about setting the new date....as for the family...its not really a disappointment---they have more time to shop, more time to save $$ and they probably are not nearly as affected as you are thinking....
2007-02-23 01:32:31 · answer #3 · answered by Sweetserenity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would move the wedding. During planning the ceremony and the events afterwards, things come up and you may have to pay extra for extra things. Go ahead and work on the house while you have the money to do it. Save up until next year for the wedding. Explain the situation to your family, they will understand your reasoning for wanting to push the wedding back (they should, at least).
Good luck!
2007-02-23 02:47:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully you only get married once.
Have the wedding and all the memories (who knows what you will receive in terms of gifts...maybe money to offset some of the costs)
The cottage will still be there next year. Even if you do certain things to the cottage, there will always be something else that needs attention.
2007-02-23 00:53:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with the house, your wedding will incur MORE debt. You love each other, right? If you can wait a year, you can put yourselves in a better financial position which would benefit you both in the longrun. Plus you might even be able to squeeze in a nice honeymoon. I don't think your families would be disappointed at all at your desire to be more financially responsible. Good luck with whatever you guys do. By even asking this question, I think you're on the right track.
2007-02-23 00:58:29 · answer #6 · answered by mixedup 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to say have a smaller wedding and put the money into the house. Then down the road (maybe 10th anniversary) you should have more money to renew your vows and do something special.
Its not the size or cost of the wedding that is important. its the ceremony, the joing together of two people. I got married outdoors by a beautiful waterfall and it didn't cost hardly anything.
2007-02-23 00:56:49 · answer #7 · answered by K B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-14 03:50:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe if your family knows that your house is in need of repair they could chip in and get your house repaired as a wedding present to you and your fiance. If you wait a year you could probably pay off more debt and then begin your lives together debt free (or closer to debt free) If your family is understanding maybe they can pull together and pay for the wedding or help you out with your house repairs.
2007-02-23 02:18:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not get married by a justice of the peace and have a ceremony next year at your house (or your aunt's house)?
this way you will get married like you want and be able to fix up your home.
if people already know about the wedding and give you a hard time tell them that they can donate to the wedding fund - that will probably quiet them.
2007-02-23 02:20:30 · answer #10 · answered by Jenn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋