he was supposed to be in 45 minutes ago i made his dinner for when he gets in and no sign of him so i phoned him up he is at the pub, i have spent all morning cleaning the house and looking after our 2 kids and making his dinner i am so annoyed and i know when he comes back i will not beable to hold my tongue how can i calm down or should i let rip or just ignore him for a while this is not on we could have had a nice afternoon with the kids while they are off school and he wants to spend his afternoons in the pub
2007-02-23 00:41:50 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i am also pregnant my hormones are going ape, feel like i could just smack him 1 but dont wanna do that
and the kids are out playing
2007-02-23 00:42:56 · update #1
ha ha funny my partner clever clogs
2007-02-23 00:45:54 · update #2
yes masterbation is but made me giggle anyway
2007-02-23 00:46:28 · update #3
Put his dinner in the bin and go to a friends so that you are not in when he gets home........see how he likes it
2007-02-23 00:46:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should run yourself a nice bath if the kids are out, chuck his dinner in the bin and have an early night. Then tomorrow morning get up at the crack of dawn before hubby gets up and take yourself to a nice health spa - spend the day relaxing - while your hubby calls you stuck with what to do with the kids, and work and you can say "oh sorry darling, just fancied going to the health spa" seeing as you "fancied going to the pub without a word" I didn't think there would be a problem. Revenge is best served cold!
Probably not good for your marriage but will make you feel alot better having a plan!
2007-02-23 00:54:35 · answer #2 · answered by LittleAnnie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Meditate - Calm down and just breath for ten minutes.
My opinion - If he is in the pub all the time and you have kids then you have a right to be angry.
If he is just an occasional pub goer you are being unfair. There is nothing more some men like just to go to the pub for a few beers and have a chat with old mates now and again. Don't deprive him of this essential bloke freedom or you will make him unhappy and he will rebel and probably just go to the pub more. I would hate it if my missus didn't let me go to the pub once a week and would probably end the relationship eventually.
Again, if he is in the pub all the time then he is trying to escape and you have a right to be angry / hurt so the second para doesn't apply. If it is just an occasional thing, then let him do it, you are being unfair. But make sure you do something occasionally for yourself while he looks after the kids i.e go shopping or to the gym or whatever you like doing.
2007-02-23 00:48:46 · answer #3 · answered by abluebobcat 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
been there hun!! Bloody men, they have no idea! I find that having a go at him will only make him do it again. Men do not respond well to criticism and being told they were wrong - in fact this makes them want to do it all the more. So I suggest when he gets home calmy pass over the kids and inform him you're going out - deliberately avoid telling him where. That way you can avoid confrontation and have the satisfaction of leaving him in the lurch a bit. Go and see a friend or your mum or just walk round to block a couple of times, you'll come back a lot calmer trust me. Then, not necessarily today or tomorrow but some time over the weekend, have a conversation with him about what happened today.
2007-02-23 02:42:44 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a guy and I may have the answer.
Men do not appreciate one subject of conversation when they get home. Your whole life is your kids and your pregnancy, men and women are different, men don't have the emotional changes that women have during pregnancy and don't understand your pre-occupation with your children. Stop and think and if you talk about nothing else except the kids and you pregnancy then he will go down the pub. Guys don't like surprises, tell him what you are cooking and when it will be ready before he goes out. Then if he's late give him hell.
2007-02-26 08:59:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to chill out. When you see him coming up the path have your coat on, don't say a word, if possible be in a room he will pass by so as not to be confronted by him then walk out the door to the car, bus whatever. You know now he's in to watch the kids. Have some ME time and really treat yourself to whatever takes your fancy, retail therapy, pampering salon, pictures, long walk, eating out, visiting a pal, gym whatever. Amazing how a couple of hours out the house will calm you down. When the kids are in bed or not around get him to listen and get this problem sorted out. I know the kids will miss out on this afternoon but it is only one and kids are easily amused with their toys, friends etc. There are lots more days to look forward to and better than them witnessing a big arguement when he walks through the door. Kids can amuse themselves in many ways but witnessing arguements can scar them for life. Take care.
2007-02-23 01:32:35 · answer #6 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hyper/loopy is a symptom of a deeper issue. i've got have been given a %. of now 4 (replaced into 5) and that i seldom see something like that. The actual working, leaping and what we call "the zips" is frequently and indication that your canines desires to have his workout point and psychological stimulation better. canines can learn how to be calm. one in each and every of my dominant adult males could get excited and chew the legs of the different canines, frequently too puzzling in heated play. This replaced right into a trademark that it replaced into time for the tread-mill. 3 miles later, he replaced right into a thoroughly diverse canines. and not for that day yet for 3 or 4. this could placed him in a much extra useful physique of concepts so he could be shown and learn that it replaced into an undesirable habit. over the years, he expired the excited component to that habit and now while he is going for the legs i will in simple terms snap my arms and he stops and is going back to mouth wrestling often.
2016-12-17 17:00:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you calm? nice bath listen to some music you like have something nice but naughty to eat.
Loosing your rag will not do the baby any good.
Over the week-end play on not feeling too good ie feet swelling or bad back and ask him to do a Little bit of housework for you.
If he cannot then you cant feel well enough to make his tea for him.
2007-02-23 03:32:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone for now until he gets back. Then, when he gets back, ask him whether he knew you were making dinner, in a calm way. If he says no, then maybe he actually didn't know you were planning it.
If he still wants you to make him dinner, then say you were angry because you thought he knew, and tell him to re-heat it or make his own for today because you're exhausted.
Stay calm with him and don't flip because it'll just cause friction between the two of you.
2007-02-23 00:47:43 · answer #9 · answered by ♥H] ッ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Letting rip will not make him wanns come home on time will it. Just explain you made dinner and he neds to tell you if he won't be home. He needs time alone and with his friends though, and it's guna be the pub really isn't it?
2007-02-23 00:46:41 · answer #10 · answered by CHARISMA 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would remain calm and not yell when he gets in. Wait till you've calmed down and then tell him how displeased you are with him. Sounds like you need a break. When he gets in you go out and see a friend or something and tell him to make tea!
2007-02-23 01:36:48 · answer #11 · answered by laplandfan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋