Please read we are best friends love of eachothers lives forever.He says he feels same way next he says not to get in touch says mean things.Yet he always get back to me.He treats me different from my friends.He calls his friends gf who is my friend yet doesnt call me he.He has his friend call me.He tries making me jealous it doesnt work.He needs attention,pampering its fine i give it to him yet i need attention,pampering myself.Like surprise phone calls,romance etc.What/how to get him to do it?We love eachother are bestfriends no idea how to get to next level with fear of loss of friendship or love.
2007-02-23 00:19:23 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
please tell this guy you want to take a break as he is giving more attention not calling emailing chatting saying mean things but still wanting you back by keeping in touch.Tell him he needs to meet you give you attention pamper you.You can tell him a date/time/place to meet after you two have chat/email/call.If he comes to meet pampers you two have proper dates without his friend and your friends then get into physical emotional marriage relationship say yes to his proposal if not move on to who youve known from past who gives you attention pampers you not other way around.i have feeling once you tell him whats wrong and take a break hell come around realising how much he loves u.
2007-02-23 11:43:23 · answer #1 · answered by docfreudianslip 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't want to hear this, but you are perfectly describing a codependent relationship. Both people in the relationship are using the relationship as well as the other person for thier own superficial needs. You both want things from the other, but niether of you provides those things. I would not try to force this for many reasons. One is that he sounds like he is very emotionally abusive to you. Trying to make you jealous and saying mean things... These are classic signs of someone who is controlling and demeaning. I would end it with this guy fast and try to avoid those like him. Be strong.
2007-02-23 00:30:39 · answer #2 · answered by spencermurraygaunt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's taking his girlfriend for granted. I guess he thinks he has to do the work with his friends more than you because you give him attention whenever he snaps his fingers. But he can't expect the same from his friends. He sounds childish to me and you need to stop doing whatever he wants, stand up to him and don't take all this nonsense.
2007-02-23 00:28:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really did truly love each other, you wouldnt be playing games !!....He certainly is from what you have said...you are wasting your time even trying the next level...It will not last....find someone who truly loves you for yourself and puts you ... first..before all others, as you deserve to be !!......Go, girl, get out there, your best mate for life may just be around the corner.........good luck.
2007-02-23 00:27:05 · answer #4 · answered by ozzy chik... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl what the heck is wrong with you?! Get your life right first and jeez he should be spoiling you not the other way around, but if you really love him then talk to him and tell him how you feel.
2007-02-23 00:26:12 · answer #5 · answered by kala15200 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing you can do if you treat him well...you said you give him all the attention he needs..and you dont get it back..thats not fair! you should have a talk with him and explain things how they are and how you feel...if he really cares he will understand his mistake ..good luck!
2007-02-23 00:41:50 · answer #6 · answered by chantelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you need to spend time with each other just you and him not any of your other friends and talk about these things
2007-02-23 00:23:18 · answer #7 · answered by T-Money 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you told him how you feel ? That is the first thing that you should do . Do not let him walk all over you like that . GOOD LUCK !!!
2007-02-23 00:26:19 · answer #8 · answered by Me777 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should come natural if you both love each other... No HEAD GAMES>>>>>>>>
2007-02-23 00:30:23 · answer #9 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋