So I have been friends witha guy for around 5 years and the other night he came over to watch a movie. Well one thing turned into another and the next thing I knew we were being intamite. I am not sure how to handle this now. This is the first time I have ever done anything like this because I was in a realtionship for the last 10 years. It was awesome and I have rgrets but I am a little comfused now. We made out for like 2 hours before it even went any further then that. How do I handle this situation ? I text him to ask him if we were still friends and he said of course but I jsut dont know. Alaso what if he neevr wants to come over agian? I am new to all of this and need some advice!! Do i let him call me or do i call him? And how do I handle this siutation?? Let me also say that he is also friends with my ex although not close we all were married and got divorced around that same time. I have always crushed on him so now I am not sure what to do !
2007-02-23 00:18:42 · 18 answers · asked by kc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My girlfriend had the same thing happen. The bad part is, it feels like she is still in love with him. All she had with him was the "fun stuff" and not the everyday life things that actually make a relationship. She still would rather confide in him than me about things and it hurts. It would have been better to just stay friends because the way it is now... it feels like she's just settling for me out of convenience, and has a more real emotional connection with him, and probably always will. I love her, but am getting tired of feeling like a third wheel in a one-sided relationship. She tells me she was used by him, but keeps running back to him when she needs some kind of support. He won't let go because he might be able to "use" her again. Your intimacy will either put you together with him, or destroy any relationship you might have in the future with someone else, if you keep dwelling on it.
2007-02-23 00:51:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the situation has gotten out of your control. If you had sex with him, you cannot force him to like you, be friends with you or even be discreet about what the two of you did. The best thing to do is to give him the time and space to express his social feelings about you if he has any future intentions. If he does he will call you and not just let it drop. If you do not hear from him after you have called him at least once or twice. You should not expect anything else. Keep on being good to yourself and making new friends. Try not to let something like that happen again until you are certain about the intentions of your friend for seeing you. Best wishes.
2007-02-23 00:30:28 · answer #2 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had sex with a girl who was my best friend throughout high school. and i felt the same as you do now. but we both knew it would happen someday, (in high school we both always dated other people, so we had never both been single at the same time) and when it did, neither of us regretted it. it will take time for that awkwardness to wear off, but it will. I'm sure if you are good friends with this guy, he'll still come over to hang out with you, but like i said you might want to give it some time. your friendship will be back to normal in time, whether or not it goes further than that, only you and him really know.
good luck, hope it works out for you.
2007-02-23 00:37:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is, what do you want from him? Are you looking for more than just friendship? Friends with benefits type thing? Once you decide what exactly you are wanting from him, sit down and talk plainly with him. Find out what he wants. If what he wants isn't the same as what you want, can you still be around each other and remain friends? Start from there, and see how things unravel
2007-02-23 01:05:27 · answer #4 · answered by jon c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to get straight is how you feel about eachother. If you feel more than just friendship for him then tell him that. If you still feel like just friends then don't sweat it. Sometimes friends hookup. Whatever happens, just make sure that you are both straight and honest with eachother. Good luck.
2007-02-23 00:24:07 · answer #5 · answered by spencermurraygaunt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im the same boat as you except no marriage for us or divorce
please read my question and tell me what you think.I feel like the luckiest girl in the world having my best friend for love and at the same time unlucky since im wondering if ill loose both.So i read something which ill say it to you"you cant have one eye on heaven and one eye on earth with fear of not having both"its an old saying in east.hope things work out for you and him and you are both with your best friend and love of your life.i hope the same for myself and my man too.best of luck let me know how it goes.lets keep in touch drstarcrossed@aol.com
2007-02-23 00:26:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is now that he's gotten it he's going to want it all of the time. That's just how guys are so let the good time roll.
2007-02-23 00:23:53 · answer #7 · answered by Freddie C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can’t blame the guy, it’s their nature to be aggressive but then the choice is yours, whether to give in or not. Guys would go your way, either way and I don’t think your friendship will be the same.
2007-02-23 00:29:08 · answer #8 · answered by Its me! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he shows signs of wanting to be more than friends. Just think of it as a good "O" when yall do the nasty. Just have fun with it.
2007-02-23 01:18:36 · answer #9 · answered by halo_mastachief 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him do the calling...
Some tatics guys use... is to avoid contact with the other... To create tension...
Only when the gal keeps wondering when he'll be back, she would noe the importance of having him...
Whether I shld say this or not... I dunno, I feel sorry for some guys who kept this secret XD
2007-02-23 00:24:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anselmor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋