I am just wondering why people are so afraid of online dating. As for me when I am going to date someone from online, we speak of many things. I do not just meet the person before emailing for a while, talking, checking them out. I meet in a public place. He doesn't get my number, or home address. I think that most people who meet a person at the club, the bank, or just on the street and think this person is cute are more in danger of him being a phyco. Then they have this person come to their home to pick them up for a date, that is scary. I just met you haven't had a conversation with you, and now you are at my home. If done right to me, on line dating can give better results. My worse dates, have been from people I have met somewhere other than online. But I will add, there are a lot of dishonest people out there, but that is no matter where you meet them. So what makes you afraid of online dating? Have you ever tried it, or are you going from what the news said once.
2007-02-23 00:15:47 · 14 answers · asked by Mis I 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
After reading all the replies so far, I think that the ones against it has made my point. All of the things that has been said to why you shouldn't you could attribute to why it is dangerous to date a person you haven't even taken the time to talk to. I agree that you never leave your drink unattended, but that goes with any one you go on a date with. The good thing in that story was that just as she didn't have his address, he didn't come and pick her up and know hers either. That type of man could have come back and harmed her if he had been someone she had just met on the street and dated. My point is you should always be safe. Not just take a person at face value. Take the time to learn about this person before you meet to date, or give anything personal out including addresses, and telephone numbers.
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2007-02-24 20:58:17 · answer #1 · answered by Sumukhi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting HIV or another STD
Esquire magazine just did a survey and found that the number one fear for online daters is getting HIV or another STD. Many fear that online daters are "players" and more sexually active than most, because it's easier to meet people online. The STD problem among daters has become an epidemic even in the US. Now 1/300 people has HIV; 1/5 has genital herpes and most don't even know they have it. You should always be sure that your date has tested negative for STDs and you can use a service like CheckTonight.com to do that before you meet them. This way you can be sure that they are responsible and care about safer sex.
2007-02-24 22:01:25 · answer #2 · answered by AndrewU 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never know what you are going to get period. And meeting in a public place doesn't mean things aren't dangerous. You could be followed home. You could be jumped in the parking lot, there are a dozen reasons why you need to be careful. Sounds like you are being careful. But the media is just trying to educate people, it's easy to be taken in by someone who could potentially turn out to be a danger to you. Serial Rapists are often very charming, it's a fact.
You might also want to consider never leaving your drink unattended, a good friend of mine had her drink drugged after meeting someone she had met online. Luckily my husband and I were also at the club where she met him. He didn't realize she had someone watching her back and when she started behaving strangely I approached her like we hadn't known she was going to be there and were just bumping into her. It didn't take long to realize something was really wrong. She was not herself and when I spoke with the bartender I found out she had only had 2 drinks, no shots. She was not a lightweight. She can even handle patron so there was no reason for her to be wobbly, slurring speach, etc. He was trying to get her to grab onto him, oh he wanted to take her home, etc... I don't think so. When she kissed another friend of ours on the lips when he came to say hello. And then tried dancing really provactively with my husband I KNEW things were really screwed up. This guy acted so concerned. Had we not been there I'm sure he would have driven her home as the bartender was NOT going to let her drive. We took her home. This guy who was gorgeous and extremely polite in the club confronted me after I got her into her car to drive her home. He had followed me out. My husband had just pulled up behind her car, the guy didn't realize it. He punched me in the mouth for ruining his night. Because we didn't have his 'real' name and number we didn't get very far with persuing charges.
Just something to think about. Another good tip is make sure you have money for a cab. Even soda can get drugged. There are also little test strips you can get. It only takes a moment for your drink to get tainted and these drugs are far too easily obtained.
2007-02-24 08:35:29 · answer #3 · answered by Proud to be APBT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because lots of people lie about themselves. And like you said, you dont give away any information, so you can never find out the truth. Some people dont take their time as well. They rush and might end up in a mess. It depends on a person and their judgement... And how lucky you get when you meet that someone online...
2007-02-23 08:20:55 · answer #4 · answered by bangles121 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not so much afraid as, maybe, embarrased by. I think it's because people associate it with failure to meet people otherwise. Online dating is basically the same as personals. That said though, I do think I've met a lot of people online who're totally cool. So I would not write it off at all!
2007-02-23 08:47:47 · answer #5 · answered by riddler 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree! I have met the most wonderful person online. Absolutely nothing like some of the guys I've met other places or through friends. All you need is common sense an to trust your instincts.
2007-02-23 08:41:04 · answer #6 · answered by Angel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Online dating isn't a bad thing, you just have to be on your guard. Don't trust just anyone. Be really specific in your profile about what you want in a person, read their profiles all the way, and make sure they provide a photo of themselves. You want to be able to SEE who you're talking to. Oh, and if you're meeting this person face to face, bring a friend. Common sense, really, so I don't understand the ominous fear surrounding the subject.
2007-03-02 23:06:32 · answer #7 · answered by elix_ebonwolfe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not afraid of online dating i think it good meeting a new person who knows that can be the right one
2007-02-23 08:20:18 · answer #8 · answered by T-Money 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I agree. And it's like 1 out of 1,000,000,000,000,000,000,000... people that die from online dating because people they meet kill them. I think people are scared of too many things and they let that fear take over them. I think people miss out on the best people because they don't date online. I admit you should be careful online, but you don't have to not online date.
2007-02-24 16:37:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Amen sister! I agree, you have a bigger chance of meeting a stalker in a pub than online. I am 100% for online dating as it give you an advantage where character is concerned.
2007-02-23 08:19:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not afraid of it at all...the media has portrayed it as being 'desperate' and most people have played into that. I agree with you 110%. Common sense is all you need.
2007-02-23 08:32:44 · answer #11 · answered by brazenone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋