Is there a good way to trust again after being broken-hearted and screwed over by the last 3 women I've given my heart to?
I've have always subscribed that being nice and cordial to your significant other is the proper way to go. If that is the case then why does being nice and openly trusting seem to come back to bite you in the butt. Maybe it's true; Nice Guys DO Finish Last!
If that is the case then what must a "nice" man do to find a woman he can truly trust with his heart?
2007-02-23 00:13:47 · 9 answers · asked by Michael N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sure, be nice and cordial and trusting, but make sure you don't let them take you for granted. When she starts showing signs of taking you for granted, make a small fuss... let her know. I don't know whether you already do this or not.
What must a "nice" man do to find a woman he can truly trust with his heart? I don't know the exact answer... but I for one am someone a man can trust with his heart, even the ones who confess they like me and I don't reciprocate, I still protect their heart as best as I can. If I try to think backward, how can someone find me? I guess that would be at places I hang out, such as work, with friends, church, the many invitations of house-warmings, engagements and weddings that I go to, art gallery, music concerts, etc. All he would have to do is to come up to me and start talking. I don't think there's too much you can DO to find a woman as you described, but you need to look in the right places, and also you need to have a good discernment of their character - perhaps by looking at how they treated their family members or their past boyfriends.
2007-02-23 00:23:01 · answer #1 · answered by Lilliana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like the nice guys get hurt when it comes to the ladies. Ever seen a 'mean' guy ask these sort of questions?
Don't give up just yet. They say love comes when you least expect it. Give yourself sometime to cool off and heal.
Not all women are cold, selfish, heartbreakers. Just a significant amount of them are.
On the flip side, I have had the same problem with guys. I act a certain way: nice, kind, honest, sincere, loving --all of that mushy stuff, and in return I expect them to act the same way. They rarely do for any length of time.
2007-02-23 00:16:53 · answer #2 · answered by white.sale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem a nice kind-hearted sort of guy. Be a bit more selective, maybe. Some people don't see kindness as a quality, but rather a way of taking advantage of your 'niceties'.
Plenty of fish in the ocean, and many, I'm sure, are asking the same question of THEIR ex-relationship.
Don't show your hand all at once - be nice but keep them guessing a bit as to what you are all about.
Go for it, man! Smile and be sure..., but also be aware.
2007-02-23 00:19:59 · answer #3 · answered by free n' dating 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what u mean. Its like ur so nice and honest and all the people u date with they walk all over you and it makes you think u need to stop being nice but truth being nice is within one you can't change that. It happens...in search of finding the right person we get hurt too but one should remember one thing remember good forget the bad and move on...i know its not easy but then life is not easy either. ...time heal everything...so don't worry trust me ur better without a person who cheat on u....don't think too much...keep ur trust and faith....i'm sure u will find the right person soon
2007-02-23 00:19:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel you on this one bro. Been there done that. Don't give up, keep being yourself. Wait for a nice lady to come along that will like you for who you really are. I know that sounds cliche but it's the truth.
For me it seemed like as soon as I gave up looking for the perfect one for me she just accidentally popped in my life.
2007-02-23 00:34:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW My question from a guy....
I have had nothing but heart ache.... cheaters..
my b-friend of 3 years just broke my heart.. i don't know if i could trust again it is hard and hurts so bad...... maybe we need time for ourselves,,
2007-02-23 00:21:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to give your heart to every women you meet just give it some months or a year before you do that
2007-02-23 00:17:44 · answer #7 · answered by T-Money 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most Green Day songs would fit that(;
2016-05-24 01:50:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
younger women are fickle...
just keep looking, the right one will come along soon
2007-02-23 00:16:59 · answer #9 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋