i have 4 kids and if they want food or drinks or to play out side they wont take no for an answer at all.
2007-02-23 00:11:22 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You're the parent. Stand your ground. Punishment for disobeying. They will learn to take NO for an answer. They won't be happy about it, but everyone else learns to suck it up.
2007-02-23 00:21:46 · answer #1 · answered by zippythejessi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I'm sorry for all of your rude answers. I have a SUPER 7-year old girl, only one, and still sometimes she's too much for me. God bless you for your patience and dedication to FOUR wonderful little people.
All that I can offer is what I do. I am "strict", according to my friends, but I have a very very low tolerance for taking crap from children - possibly why I only have one kid, and God gave me such a good one. ;)
When I say no to something she asks for, and then she asks again, she gets 1 warning - I simply tell her that I've already answered her question, and that it's not negotiable. If she asks again I send her to room for a few minutes. Sometimes then we talk about why the answer was no, so she understands my position. But I don't explain until after the time-out.
Basically I'm as fair as possible. So when I say no, that's it, and she knows now that if she keeps bugging me, the answer will be NO + a punishment. It will be hard for you to enforce at first, and will require a whole lot of will-power on your part. Possibly a warning meeting up front of the new rule change will help... good luck to you. God bless.
2007-02-23 18:19:16 · answer #2 · answered by ~Biz~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids need boundaries!!!!
The need a schedule.
Put a large poster board up with your routine on it. Then put specific times for eating chores and outside play. The kids will love it really. They love knowing when they can or cannot do something. They are very good at reminding mom too:) Don't forget to add some mommy and me time. Kids need individual attention.
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You have to be consistent & strong. Be ready for some battles!
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I have to add this. Some of theses answers are so RUDE!!!!!
There is no perfect parent we are not born knowing how to train our kids. This woman has four children and probably works her butt of taking care of them. This morning she reaches out to get some parenting advice, and you all attack her like she is an abusive mother! She loves her kids if she didn't she wouldn't be asking questions on how to help raise them!!!!!
Obviously a lot of your parents had issues too. Cause you never learned the lesson of, Saying something nice, or saying nothing at all!
2007-02-23 08:25:56 · answer #3 · answered by OMeganO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So far seems like people think your a bad parent so, I guess I should step in your boat. I have the same problem. I only have 2 kids, but my 5 y/o son doesnt take no for an answer and he talks back. I found out that smacking his butt doesnt help. Putting him in his room doesnt help either. So we started corner time and that has seemed to help, also we take cartoons away and toys that he really likes. I also sit him down and explain to him why this is heppening. So far its helping. we just started it a week ago. hope this helps.
2007-02-23 08:22:24 · answer #4 · answered by kristinad21 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're the parent, they'll take no if that's the answer you give. You just need to stick to your guns and not be such a pushover. Next time you tell them no and they refuse to accept it, give the another option. NO with consequences such as grounding or a spanking. They'll choose the plain old no answer every time.
2007-02-23 08:29:39 · answer #5 · answered by Angry-T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all I would punish them and try taking stuff away from them that they like playing with the most. If that doesn't work i would seek counseling or someone to help you with enforcing no. If they keep it up and not listen to no you will have a lot of problems.
2007-02-23 08:17:21 · answer #6 · answered by missy d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, I agree with the first answerer, who is the parent here? How can they not tkae no for an answer unless you taught them that no does not always mean no with you. You set the rules and until you realise that there is not much chance they will take no for an answer.
2007-02-23 08:19:11 · answer #7 · answered by Leeza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you haven't taught them to respect you. You have to be very consitant with what you say. Start by introducing the naughty chair/stool/mat, and when they don't listen, they have to spend some time there. Don't give in! Consistancy is the answer.
2007-02-23 08:22:08 · answer #8 · answered by altes_jan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry but your obviously not being firm enough. they walk all over u by the sounds of it. start with small ground rules if they stick by them reward them if they dont take thier most pressious toy away for a while but stick buy your desissions. when they can deal with small ground rules introduce another and stick by it good luck.
2007-02-23 08:18:29 · answer #9 · answered by nuttytart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spanking that is the answer you gotta spank the kids i had my butt swatted plenty of times when i was little and it works so next time they wont take no turn em around and swat>
2007-02-23 08:16:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋