my 2 1/2 year old has been extreemly needy and whiny and non stop going on and on with "mama mama mama mama " all day im loosing my mind. hes very over dramatic about everything, and very clingy. he does not play with his toys or entertains himself much when he is home. when he is in daycare he is fine but when he gets home it is all about him, and its becoming very hard to do things around the house without him at my ankels.
being an only child im sure he gets lonely without his daycare mates and i give him as much attention as i can, but i have things to do too and cannot give him around the clock attention. how can i get him interested in doing his own thing and break this mama's boy cling!!
2007-02-23 00:10:32 · 11 answers · asked by ringsidediva 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
He whines so much because he's 2 1/2. You did it too. So did I.
Suck it up. 15 1/2 years to go!
2007-02-23 00:18:04 · answer #1 · answered by Chyvalri 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What stopped the whining at my house (at least most of the time) was simply telling my child "Mama can't hear you when you talk like that" This usually got the question asked in a regular voice. Also, does your son know how to play by himself? We take it for granted that kids know this, but if he has been in daycare and hasn't really had to play with just himself he may not know. So you may have to spend some time with him and his toys showing him how to play imagination and then do something else in the same room with him while he's playing.
2007-02-23 16:13:53 · answer #2 · answered by n2mama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably misses you because he's in daycare and wants your attention. Like most kids his age, he knows that using that whiny tone of voice gets your attention! The way you respond may even encourage him to continue using those tactics (because they work).
Try to spend some quality time with him after he gets home (I'm sure you already do that - but set an egg timer and tell him you will play whatever he wants for 20 minutes and when the bell goes off you need time to do your work) and when he whines, ignore him and tell him you'll only listen to what he has to say if he doesn't whine and if he uses his words like a big boy. Also, demonstrate to him what "whining" is. Some kids have no idea what we mean when we tell them not to whine. Eventually he'll start listening.... I know it can wear on your nerves. Hang in there!
2007-02-23 01:46:54 · answer #3 · answered by shanequinox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One becuase he's two. And two because of daycare. I know when I've been at work all day and I come home (my bf picks him up from daycare) all my son wants to do its play. My house isn't usually spotless but that's okay because I spend time with my son. Or if I have to things around the house I include him, it may take longer but he feels important. He helps me cook by stirring something in a pot or pan or I'll have him push the clothes in the dryer and push the button, or I sit him on the dryer and I'll give him a pile of clothes to throw in the washer and I let him put the soap in too. He helps my bf and I make the bed. If he's in the bathtub he'll even pretend he's scrubbing it. Of course I don't let him actually help me cuz of the chemicals. He needs to feel like he's included and little things like this help! Even if he wants to play while I'm doing housework I'll count to 10 and he'll go hide. Once I get to 10 he'll come running out (he doesn't get the concept of hide and seek quite yet) but according to him we're playing and that's all that matters! :)
2007-02-25 04:07:42 · answer #4 · answered by scootkat84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter does the same thing when she is not at day care, she is not an only child, but my other kids are much older than she is.
My housework does not always get done, because I spend so much time with my daughter. They are only little once.
I did buy my daughter a play kitchen that I put in our kitchen. So when I am cooking or doing dishes, I encourage her to do dishes and cook with me in her pretend kitchen. Boys can play with kitchen sets too!
It takes a lot more time, but have him help you. Buy him a toy vacuum, give him a feather duster, have him fold wash cloths. The more you incorporate him into your daily routine, the more he feels loved and accepted by you.
Other ideas are:
give him a chunky puzzle to do while you fold clothes on the table.
put him in his high chair with washable markers while you do dishes.
buy some baby Einstein movies, and let him watch a 1/2 hour program while you get some of your work done. (the Fly Lady approach may help you, I will enclose her web site)
Are you a single parent as well? Sometimes I dump the baby on my husbands lap and say, I just need to do this or that, keep track of her for 1/2 an hour please.
2007-02-23 01:15:29 · answer #5 · answered by Renee B 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a stage that almost every toddler will eventually go through, and in a few months, you wont here a whine from him.but what you could do now is get him some entertaining videos so he will be into them so much. Also maybe you could buy him some legos to keep him occcupied so he wont come bothering you for so long. Good Luck!!
2007-02-23 01:19:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my daughter is the same way and she has a little brother she was never really like that before and its not because she doesnt spend time with me im a stay at home mom im home with her and her brother all day so really i think its just the age im sure your son will grow out of it but on the plus side enjoy it cuz when kids get older and are teenagers they dont want to hang around thier parents at all then you will miss that clingy little boy who always use to be behind you the same as i will miss my clingy little baby girl when she wants to be with her friends instead of me good luck !!
2007-02-23 02:04:39 · answer #7 · answered by bellababi44 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 2 y/o daughter and she is the same exact way right now. She has a brother to play with, but it seems like he makes her worse by picking on her. So far I havent a solution. I try to spend more and more time with her, but it doesnt help. Guess its just a phase and we have to live through it. good luck
2007-02-23 00:25:14 · answer #8 · answered by kristinad21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just wants some Mommy attention and lovings from you.
My son loves to cuddle all the time and hold my hair while he sucks his thumb and watches t.v. (It's a closeness thing that I don't mind to do because one day I will not be able to hold him and hug him as often as I want.)
SO ENJOY IT> :)
2007-02-26 17:09:00 · answer #9 · answered by msheatherd28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he's 2½ and that's what kids do at that age.
2007-02-23 00:19:34 · answer #10 · answered by L A 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋