She is reliving my life, should i do whatever it takes to stop her from making the same mistakes or do i let her go hoping that she will learn from them?
2007-02-23 00:08:26 · 19 answers · asked by milo2angel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think you should guide her to a better life than what you have now, but never get too harsh. I'm saying that you should be there to guide her not dictate her, never live her life. I myself need my mom to guide me once in awhile; I need someone to remind me that I am wrong in order to make things straight.
2007-02-23 00:21:09 · answer #1 · answered by Its me! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best learning experienece is going through it. My 18 almost 19 year old son is learning some serious sh*t right NOW. There are so many things I drilled into this kid and yet he STILL thought he was smarter or it couldnt' wouldnt happen to him....He has seen the light and I'm extremly hapy that he is learning the lessons early in life and much earlier than I did. Be a guide to her but let her make her own mistakes
2007-02-23 08:14:37 · answer #2 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do whatever it takes to stop her. You are the parent. Pick your battles wisely though. Know what you will not tolerate and know when to let go. If she falls, pick her up and brush her off. But...it is very important to be a parent and do everything within your power to protect her and guide her so she does not make the same mistakes we did. She may not appreciate it right away, but in the long run, she will thank you.
2007-02-23 08:12:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't say how old your Daughter is so i going go with her being a teenager or older i think you should think back to when you were young would you have done it different if you were told you were making a mistake? when mine was doing something i didn't like i didn't say nothing thou i can tell you my heart was pounding , one day my Daughter said mum i don't think i should be doing this and i said whys that love and she said because you never said no and it didn't feel right if you had said no would have been better lol so in a way i had won and all i had to do was say nothing but watch her carefully to make sure she was OK the point is sweetheart none of us like being told what to do and if you don't say no you cant do that or this she will get bored and not do it so good luck and just be there for when she does need you
2007-02-23 08:20:42 · answer #4 · answered by one2treasure2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would sit down with her and have a friend to friend talk, about the thing that I did. I would tell her the good, the bad and the things that I did.
Talk to her in a normal voice, never raise it.
Tell her that you love her. The reason for this talk, Is so I can tell you about the Mistakes that I did. And what happen from those mistakes.
More than likely, she will do them anyway. Tell her that you will be their if she needs you. And again, Tell her that you love her and you want only the best for her.
2007-02-23 08:18:42 · answer #5 · answered by railroad_joe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you hide these mistakes from her? If she grew up with your guidance, you could have taught her how to make better choices. If it's drugs or some other illegal thing she's doing, you have lots of options! Tough love is a good thing. If she is already making the same wrong turns you did, she's probably beyond listening to Mama...
2007-02-23 08:17:32 · answer #6 · answered by janice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deepends on the mistakes, how about sitting down talking to her ... not in i made the same mistakes mode ... but normally talk out subjects that you see may go wrong advise dont ridicule or tell her what she can or can not due ...
there are no best answers ...
2007-02-23 08:12:18 · answer #7 · answered by join_my_world_of_ignore 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She won't do what you did. Life is so different now than it was when you were growing up and I am sure that you raised her well enough to know bad when she sees it. Trust her and love her just the same, no child wants to let their parents down.
2007-02-23 08:14:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this but she has to learn from her own mistakes, and just pray that she won't be hurt by it. you can always give her some advice if she wants to take it. good luck.
2007-02-23 08:13:11 · answer #9 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am re-living my mom's life as well. But I love my mom and I think she is a good human being. I would love to be like her, so I'm going to keep living the way I am.
2007-02-23 08:32:12 · answer #10 · answered by L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋