There is this guy that I really like and he claims he loves me back but I'm not sure because our friendship/relationship started out w/sex. I was already taken at the time. I think he was waiting for me to get out of my relationship but I never did until two years later. Now he has an ex-gf which is his baby's momma. And I'm now single. I'm trying to figure out if he really means it when he says he loves me because all we do is have sex when we are together. We never used to see each other that much because we were both in other relationships. Now that I'm single he said that we can lift our boundaries. (We had stopped visiting each other for a while because I was feeling guilty.) I don't know if lifting boundaries mean getting in a realationship or sex. In the past he said that he don't want to get married until he's 30 (I'm 20, he's 21). I'm not sure if I want to get involved with him because he now has a kid from his ex-girlfriend. How do I find out if he really do love me or not?
2007-02-23 00:02:00 · 11 answers · asked by Silent Jay 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not sure if this information is helpful but him and I have been talking for over 3 years now. We have not had sex for over 2 months now and have only been talking to each other over the phone. The last time we were together we didn't do anything and that was a month ago when we decided to stop messing around until I figure out who I really want to be with. He hasn't been with his baby's momma for a while now. He stopped talking to her because he thought (she was visiting and talking to her ex) she was cheating on him. And when he found this out she was already pregnant. As for me getting pregnant, he had his opportunities to get me pregnant for over 2 years now. I think if he wanted to, he would have already done so. As for the baby, I would love to help take care (yes he takes care of his child) of it but I wouldn't want to have to deal with the mom. And my ex-fiancé would have had one also but it wouldn't have been with me because he cheated on me with another girl.
2007-02-23 00:15:54 · update #1
You need to talk to him and find out what he really wants if he really loves you and you love him then it should not matter if he already has a baby, If it is just sex he wants then tell him to go find it elsewhere because that is not what you want.
2007-02-23 00:07:22 · answer #1 · answered by butterflybaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt she'll accept you ever, the baby on the other hand she may since she has been trying and can't, he may feel so guilty for hurting his wife ( who he has not intentions on ever leaving) that he gets sole custody and they raise your child together as a happy family without you. Judges usually prefer 2 parent households for the child's best interest, be very careful how you deal with this. Walk away and forget about him or they may come after your child and could have been the plan all along (which they have every right to do in the eyes of the law). If he did love you he would have left along time ago and would not be planning on when she accepts in (HA HA) moving you in part of the week, he's just dragging you along (maybe cause they can't have there own). Walk away before you regret it.
2016-05-24 01:49:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear, I'm not being mean but he sounds like a bit of a womaniser. He is sleeping with women who are taken when he is taken too, telling you he loves you, when all he does is sleep with you. He's only 21 and he has a baby with someone he isn't even with anymore. He even has a baby when he doesn't even want to get married until he's 30. He doesn't want that because he has no plans on settling down with the one woman. I know I'm sounding self righteous, but I would stay well away! The way it sounds, you could do so much better. Don't get involved with somebody with so much baggage. He may be really nice in real life, but I get the impression he's a tart.
2007-02-23 00:09:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if all u ever do is have sex than he is in it for the sex only. he is most likely still involved and always will be with his child's mother. also if he wants to be single until he is 30, it means he is not ready for any commitment. sex should always be saved for a committed relationship, if not u are selling yourself short. u are giving something, but getting nothing. he is in this just for the physical part of it, and will be gone whenever the feeling isn't there anymore, or when he gets bored, when the honeymoon phase is over, which it never lasts, and if all u have is that physical attraction holding the relationship together, u got nothing at all. i would go find someone who doesn't have kids, who is willing to commit, and who doesn't only want sex off u.
2007-02-23 00:14:07 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drama and Karma! Its hard to say if a man really loves you. I dont like to get involved with men that have kids because like you said the babys mom will always be around. Always!!!!!!!!!!! And a lot of those females who have had kids with these men feel that they can have sex with the babys daddy whenever they want. Its like I had you once, i had your baby. Really people do feel that way. You will always be second to his child. It almost sounds like you see how the relationship is going to go. Especially if its a new baby. yeah that is too much drama. but ask yourself if you love him enough to take the baggage he already has.
2007-02-23 00:34:58 · answer #5 · answered by static1182 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made him wait 2 years while you were in relationship you were having your cake and eating it too well now hes doing the same thing back to you intentionally or unintentionally you two deserve each other its sick and i have doubts hell ever marry or settle down with you no offence but it seems you two are in lust not love!
2007-02-23 00:08:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you saying he is cheating on his present g-friend? Run away if he is!! Don't get involved, don't be a relationship-breaker. He doesn't have the morals or values, and doesn't deserve you. There are plenty of fish in the sea! Look for someone who is honest and has integrity.
2007-02-23 00:07:54 · answer #7 · answered by altes_jan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL THE FIRST STEP IS TO CHECK IF HE IS ADDICTED TO YOUR GOOD SEX (LOL), AND IF THAT IS THE REASON THAT HE WANTS TO BE WITH YOU SO YOU PUT HIM TO THE TEST GO OUT AND HAVE FUN WITH HIM THEN KEEP SELF CONTROL IN MIND AND DO NOT HAVE SEX WITH HIM TRY THIS AT LEASE 2 TIME IN ONE WEEK. THEN YOU WILL SEE WHERE YOU STAND ALSO KEEP IN MIND THAT THERE WILL ALWAYS BE BABY MOMMA DRAMA IF YOU LET IT HAPPEN BUT IF YOU NIP THAT sh@T IN THE BUTT ASAP THEN YOU HAVE NO WORRIES.
2007-02-23 00:10:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
And this is exactly what you need to tell him ,just like you did here . If he is the man you thought he is ,he will understand !
2007-02-23 00:06:46 · answer #9 · answered by silverearth1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. r u sure, is he the the daddy of that baby
2007-02-23 00:39:52 · answer #10 · answered by prabhakar_ace 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋