hi. i like this girl a lot but she is with another guy in a long term relationship. She likes me too. We all live in an apartment together. I have a strong feeling towards her. We even kissed when her bf was out of station. Now after he returned she is happy with him and i can not see them being together . their romance makes me jealous and i can not even sleep ...
i don know what to do... I like her not because she is hot, i like her bcos she is so nice to spend time with. i want her to be my gf. But i have no idea what to do. im confused ! my only hope is thi s place. Pleeeeease help me people...
Am i a bad guy? trying to get others guy's girl???? i like her a lot.
2007-02-22 22:36:38 · 18 answers · asked by ee2007 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Personally , I think you allowed to get yourself into a difficult situation.The most important thing for you to do is to find out whether she really does like you. the only way to find this out is by asking her if she actually willing to split up with her boyfriend to be with you? obviously we all have emotions and feelings, and we all make mistakes from time to time but im sure that you need to know where you stand. you dont deserve to be misled. I udnerstand it must be hard for you living with them however if you come to find out she is not willing to leave her boyfriend for you, then you just have to be strong and try and overcome the situation.Living in the same house as her and her boyfriend are definatley making matters worse for you. maybe you are just used to her company which has led you to belive you like her , when really you could jst be longing for a serious relationship for someone who likes you. what im trying to say is , sometimes we thnk we like someone , when in actual fact we dont. once you find out where you stand, that is the only time you can make a decision, personally , although some times its hard to control, I dont belive you should of allowed yourself to get to the stage of kissing her, not until you actually know that she genuienly likes you and wants to be with you. You even said in your message that when her boyfriend got back home she was happy with him, although this may sound harsh , but maybe you was jsut a bit of fun for her and just filling in her boyfriends position. you really need to think about this before things get deeper and any hearts are broken.
I hope this message is of help
2007-02-22 22:53:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a girl who is in a similar situation, i have been in a relationship for 10 years and recently my bf and i have not been getting along (about a year) She obviously kissed you for a reason. I was faithful for 9 1/2 years until i met this other guy, now i am really falling for him. You should tell her how you feel. You may regret it if you dont and it may leave you wondering for the rest of your life. The guy that i am seeing has the same feelings of being a bad guy as you do, but i dont think he is bad. If her bf is your friend, disregard everything i said, dont ruin a friendship over a girl. Hope that helps.
2007-02-23 06:56:32 · answer #2 · answered by goaway 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, First I'd like to say that you are not a bad guy. You are human, and you have a need for love. When we spend time, quality time with individuals our hearts tend to bond with that person. That is normal.
I have been in a similar situation before, and from experience, the outcomes have not been favorable. Get to know other people. Why settle for her when it is obvious that she has made her choice? You deserve better, and you can have better.
2007-02-23 06:49:21 · answer #3 · answered by Julia T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She kissed you so why shoudn't you feel the way you do. However i'm sure you are aware that people get tempted and aren't always as faithful as they should be i think the best thing for you to do is find somewhere else to live and get away from this girl otherwise you're going to drive yourself crazy, as you are not going to stop feeling like this until you rid yourself of her.
Just imagine wat it would be like if her bf finds out about the kiss or worse if things progress and he catches you two in the act.
2007-02-23 06:44:12 · answer #4 · answered by Jacz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm sounds like a the story to a movie. you should make a movie out of this, get rich from the box office, win an oscar and use all the fame and money to win her over, or pay her bf to leave.
2007-02-23 06:44:20 · answer #5 · answered by the Animal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rule One: Never hit on your best friends girl friend.
Rule Two: If you did, be honest to your friend.
Rule Three: If he hates you and beats you, accept that.
Rule Four: Now that all is done, get out of that apartment.
Trying to have something with her is use less.
I know you love her, but you need to put your feelings aside and look elsewhere.
2007-02-23 08:30:09 · answer #6 · answered by CG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you was with her could you trust her to be loyal to you. I know it's hard for you but u are going to have to move from the place you share and start a fresh. you are not doing yourself any favours by hoping for something you cannot have now if ever.
2007-02-23 06:46:43 · answer #7 · answered by lushmum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well great could their relationship be if she's kissing you when her boyfriend isn't around? She's obviously won't make a good girlfriend. I say move on and find someone else who is more loyal and single.
2007-02-23 06:45:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you friends with this guy?? If you are keep away from the girl. It's just not fair at all. How would you like it if someone wanted to take your girl away from you??But if she consents-Go for it then move out and pray for your life lol!!!
2007-02-23 06:42:22 · answer #9 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her go
she is not worth it
just stop thinking about her
just break ur relationship with her and tell her 2 get lost
according 2 me she does not understand ur feelings at all
i think she just kissed u 2 fulfill her own sexual desire
break apart dude before its 2 late
2007-02-23 07:07:25 · answer #10 · answered by Harkirath Singh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋