Am i crazy jealous or is he guitly?

Question

I have been in a relationship and residing with this man for two years now and lately i have noticed he is at a certain womans office alot almost daily he claims she has good legal advice and alot of knowledge about his legal matters, he hides alot of time he is there from me the fact they have on more than one occasion gone to lunch together also they text each other during the evening almost every night some times until 3:am which he denies of course.last friday night when he went to sleep i found a reciept where he had earlier that day went to the mall and purchased a outfit for $130.00 [the day after valentines day] when i woke him and ask about it he said "i didn't but a damn thing there you go with that jealousy again' and went back to sleep i went for a drive and while getting gas seen the outfit hidden in the back of the jeep i confronted him again and he said " i bought it for her because she helped me so much' and knew i could'nt tell you because your so jealous'

he has not spoken to me again except to ask what did i do with the outfit [ i will never tell] isn't that a bit much and way to personal to buy for a thank you gift, not to mention i also found where he had written her size's down size 10 and 38DD in the jeep as well ! Now tell me who is crazy me or him for thinking that story would fly EVER i plan to show him the answers so he will not say 'only you think that way'

If it walks like a dog, looks like a dog and barks like a dog then it's a DAMN DOG RIGHT?

Answer 1

WOW SOOOOO GUILTY! HUN GET OUTTA THERE!! they texy each other till 3 in the morning? hello who talks about legal stuff till 3 in the morning? and buying outfits.. outfits arnt a thank u . i could understand a card or even flowers.. but a 130.00 outfit is just crazy. he has a thing for this girl and if i were u id get rid of him. the fact that ur even questioning if ur jelous is crazy! and means that he got u thinking how he wants u to.. seriosly this guy dosent desurve u.

Answer 2

You have every right to be worried about this, because what is he doing buying this woman an outfit? He is is so happy about the legal advice she has given him, then you buy her a bunch of flowers or chocolates you might even take her out to lunch/dinner making sure that he tells you what he is doing and why. But you do not buy her an outfit.

Sorry to say this but I think that there is more to this that meets the eye, what is he doing texting another woman until 3am, that really just isn't on and you have every reason to be jealous. If I were you I'd keep looking for clues, emails, texts because this is very strange and he is up to something confront him and if you don't like his explaination then consider cooling things for a while.

Answer 3

Just find out if there is anything wrong that you are doing for your man to have an affair with this woman. I say affair because based on your explanation he is having an affair. If there is nothing wrong even sexually, then find out the backgroud of this other woman. find out if they were at school together or any information because that will help you understand if they are not continuing where they left off before you and those kind of affairs are difficult to deal with. After having that information then you can take the next step. Next step is to confront your man and if he denies ask him to give you permission to talk to this woman. If she is married get her number, send her a text from a starter pack that you will not use again and in a text explain to her that you are aware of what she is doing with another man and if she does not stop him you will blow it, you can send the same message to your husband but make sure you use alibi or create an e-mail address through which you can communicate with your man as somebody who is concerned. You can by so doing constrol him like it or not. Tell him his moves, the time he arrived home as if you are spying him. he will think twise

Answer 4

Sweetie, from the things that you are telling me it sounds as if this guy is totally taking you for a ride. If he was not cheating on you then I'm pretty sure he wouldn't have bought some other woman a dress, especially at that price, WOW!!! You say you have found her dress sizes and text messages...Honey that all can lead up to one thing: he is definately cheating on you and sleeping with this other woman, otherwise why would he have her number, sizes, and be buying her gifts? He should be buying you gifts and not anyone else and certainly shouldn't be taking another woman out to lunch. That is cheating!!!!!

Answer 5

Yeah right. I would confront the woman either face to face or by the phone. Face to face is better. She may not even know about you. If she does I would kick her ***. He is definatly up to no good. Don't be in denial I think you already know what he is up to. What is his excuse for all the txt messages. Sorry, but you just don't txt somebody that much or buy them a $130 outfit unless you are doing them.

Answer 6

what is cheating-I once lived in sin-and what is cheating-now i know and have the power to keep the rules---I repented and let jesus into my heart-John 3 repent and be born again to see the kingdom of heaven" Jesus---Now he is my best friend! Pryaing for you too praying===

when you dont have a marriage-and you have sex -you give it away for free-why buy the cow when u get free milk

Answer 7

i agree with everyone that he is DEFINITELY up to something. but what was the real tip of the iceberg for me was not JUST the outfit, its that guys CANT buy outfits for girls they only know in a co-worker kind of relationship. they need to know her style, her size, her taste, everything! thats something that a guy would and COULD only buy for a girl he's dating. im sorry that you have to go through this, but please get out now before he lies anymore!

Answer 8

Girl get out, he is in denial, but he wants her and he is not letting go , you are sensing it but asking him and acting this way is just gona drive him away, try meeitng with this woman, if she is hesitant then you know somethings cooking.
Final verdict, guilty.
Leave him and spare your heart.

Answer 9

knock knock he hides means he knows its wrong means something is cooking in the pot ,guilty and verdict is he is into her a lot

Answer 10

I would say he is cheating, hire a P.I. if you can afford, he will get you the answers