2007-02-22 21:06:54 · 19 answers · asked by amit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
TRY TO AVOID THE LUST DO ONLY LOVE.
2007-02-22 22:02:19 · answer #1 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I recommend this book called "Why We Love?" by Dr. Helen Fisher. She's an anthropology professor and human behavior researcher at the Rutgers University. She's well known for her research in love.
The theory is that there 3 phases of love:
1. lust - an intense longing.
2. attraction - an action that tends to draw people together.
3. attachment - a bonding progression.
"Generally love will start off in the lust phase, strong in passion but weak in the other elements. The primary motivator at this stage is the basic sexual instinct. Appearance, smells, and other similar factors play a decisive role in screening potential mates. However, as time passes on , the other elements may grow and passion may shrink — this depends upon the individual. So what starts as infatuation or empty love may well develop into one of the fuller types of love. At the attraction stage the person concentrates their affection on a single mate and fidelity becomes important.
Likewise, when a person has known a loved one for a long time, they develop a deeper attachment to their partner. According to current scientific understanding of love, this transition from the attraction to the attachment phase usually happens in about 30 months. After that time, the passion fades, changing love from consummate to companionate, or from romantic love to liking."
2007-02-23 05:45:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!!!
Love comes from your heart...
Lust is a desire for sth... If u check a dictionary you'll find it...
But when we link Lust and love together... It means you love having S** lols...
Love isn't about S** for your info... Its a feeling that no-one till now has an explanation...
The same as asking, "What is happy?"
Some would say a smile and such... But what and how do you define happy itself?
The definition of words like these have remained a mystery... Well until one day when someone can make a device to make people experience the feeling themselves... Feelings are hard to describe... So what is love? You'll noe what it's like when your time comes...
2007-02-23 05:25:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anselmor 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love and Lust are two different things.While love is spiritual and mental, lust is just physical, like a hunger that arises and dies to arise time and again. Love for God, parents, children, brothers and sisters is eternal and does not die like hunger to be born again. Between spouses too, love can be there without lust but lust alone may not have love too alongwith it.
2007-02-23 05:27:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is from the heart. Love and lust there are no comparisons with the two. Lust is something that is from the human necessity that we all need. Love is a sentimental feeling that makes us strong is all areas, especially the heart.
2007-02-23 05:20:50 · answer #5 · answered by George 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is the most complicated yet greatest feeling on earth. The word composed of merely 4 letters, "LOVE" is by far, the bigest understatement for the feeling.
Yes, there is lust in love. obviously, those two work together, you can have love without either one. You can't say you love someone if you dont want to touch them, you know, as in have lust for them, you just can't. If you love someone, then you won't be able to take your hands off the person. You can't just have lust, and love either, that would mean that you only want this person to make yourself feel good, that is selfish, and is deprived from personal needs. Sometimes it might be hard to tell if you truly love the person, or if you only want to have a 'sexual' relationship with them.
Above all, love is unselfish. You often times think about the person before you even think about yourself. You worry about that person, you care about that person, and ver often times you forget about your own feelings. For example, you might be heart broken, but that love goes on. True and Pure love is when you don't desire to have that person, to dominant them, to to make them a possession of your own, but instead, it is a feeling for which you do not wish to have back. As in, you would still love that person, if that person didn't feel the same about you. That is pure and true love.
Personalities of your own start to show, that you have never seen before, such as jealousy, the desire to be able to hold and touch that person (lust), and other personality traits to seem to come out of no where. That is what people call crazy in love.
Love is a whole different language. You start to understand what the other person wants or needs, even when they dont say a thing. You can read each other thoughts by looking at each other. And you start to understand the deeper meaning of the love songs or poems. For example, and heartache, you are able to realize that that word really mean, as in a physically pain, whereas before you might of had only a shallow view of it...
Im going on and on arnt I? haha cuz its just so much to that one question that its frustrating not to be able to show it. The importance of it is this, lust and love works together. Love is the emotional side of "love", and lust is the "physical" side of love, you cant just have only one, you need both. You can describe with words all you want how you feel about that person, but lust, and sexual experience, shows each how you feel, things that are indescrible in words, and impossible to explain.
:] Saphire
2007-02-23 05:19:29 · answer #6 · answered by Saphire04 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is a feeling of togetherness, while lust is desire. How can you connect them?
We love our parents, your siblings, our friends. Besides we fall in love with someone special who can stand with us for the lifetime. Once committed to each other, you can share your intimacies with this special person.
But lust, you see a sexy girl, the desire pops up; you see a ***** movie the desire pops up. What's love gotta do here?
The problem is that we are too eager to explore our intimaices. This impatience leads to misconceptions. Beware, if too much of attention is paid towards such desires, your relationships would end up nowhere...
:-)
2007-02-23 17:31:46 · answer #7 · answered by plato's ghost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I'm dying to quote here. In the movie "Original Sin" (Banderas, Jolie)-possibly my favorite- Banderas asks his long time friend for the definitions of love and lust. So he answers:
- Love is when you want to give and then give more. Lust is when you want to take and then take more. Well which is it?
- Both. I want to give everything to her and I want to take everything from her.
And there you have it, connection ladies and gentlemen. Might as well call it passion.
2007-02-23 05:22:20 · answer #8 · answered by Dennis K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lust is purely physical. Its all about wat u can see and find sexually exciting.Its a rush of sexual desire for someone (especially of the opposite sex). It could be felt at first sight for someone u know nothing about . Its shallow and often doesn't last and usually leads to wat is called infatuation. It is simply yearning to take... to have... someone's body, to touch or make contact sexually. Lust is all about SEX.
Love on the other hand is not just a feeling or rush of emotions, but a state of being and as such does not appear as fast as lust which could happen in a flash (and as such has led many to believe they fell in love at first site. This assumption is wrong because all u can feel for someone at first sight is attraction or plain lust!). Its not based on looks or just wat u see but wat u've come to trust, understand and believe. Love grows and is established with time. Everything about love (and I mean being in love) is completely opposite to lust. Where lust yearns to have/take, love yearns to share/give. Where lust wants to hurry, love wants to take its time... to understand. Where lust can b described using a few words, love defies definition!
There is no connection at all! The fact that u find ur wife sexually attractive is not lust! That attraction is as a result of the gift of love a nd freedom u both share. When u step out of ur office building and u spot that beautiful, young leggy, sexy-looking secretary of urs and damn u wanna nail her, dats pure undiluted lust!
2007-02-23 06:01:54 · answer #9 · answered by giness 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love=Lust.
If you don't love then you don't lust. and vice versa.
Both complements each other.
Lust is an integral part of love.
Without lust love can't exist for long.
And platonic love.its all in the mythological series doesnot have any place in real world.
2007-02-23 06:21:00 · answer #10 · answered by lost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is
L Love is
O only
V Vigour
E Energy
Lust is
L Love
U Unto
S Sex
T Triggers
2007-02-23 05:15:22 · answer #11 · answered by shrimal_sandeep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋