I couldn't understand why my boyfriend cheated on me countless of times. I have done so many sacrifices for him and have given him all he wants. Everytime he did, we'd break up but he manages to win me over. Now, I can't help but nag at him because I don't trust the things he says. He says he loves me. Sometimes I feel it but most of the time I don't. The three years we've spent together has been a cycle of breakup-makeup. I'm really tired of it. What can I do to make him stop?
2007-02-22 20:56:04 · 17 answers · asked by loise17 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well if you break up with him for good, then he can't cheat on you any more.
you deserve better.
2007-02-22 21:00:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend cheated on you countless of times because you allowed him to. If you had set your boundaries from the first time, as in not have him back, he wouldn't have had the chance to try again. It seems to me as a "broken glass" kind of situation. Personally I would never be able to trust someone again after a betrayal, unless the circumstances were extenuating and I'm still saying that just for the sake of not being absolute...I understand that you love him, but he has not respected you. He cheated and he lied, he's made you suffer and more than once?!? What else is there to say? Please, show yourself some respect and find a man worthy of you and capable of a steady, trusting relationship without all the breakup-makeup bull.
2007-02-22 21:09:22 · answer #2 · answered by Dennis K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The honest answer to your question is....you need to build your self esteem and then you won't allow him to do this to you anymore. You are worth more, than a boyfriend that is constantly unfaithful to you and can't keep his trousers zipped. This may all sound cliche` - but he does this to you, because he knows you'll always forgive him. He's a very selfish, immature person. I can't even call him a man..sorry. You have to believe that you deserve someone that is respectful of your feelings and wants a serious commitment. this guy has broken down your strength & the love you once had for yourself. When you're truly tired of it, you'll get your life back. If you want to make him stop, don't take it anymore. care about you and let him get herpes all by himself.
2007-02-22 22:30:10 · answer #3 · answered by mangosmoothie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a girl but I have to answer this question for you. Seriously, dump him for good! I truly understand that after you are witha guy for like 3 years, you grow very attached to them, and breaking up is incredibly hard. I have been through it. But if you can't trust the person, you can't be with them. It seriously just like being tied down. He tells you he loves you, that is possibly true, but obviously he doesnt love you enough, because he lets a girl come between you and him, if he can overlook you for some other girl, than he is just not good enough for you. You need to respect yourself first of all, that would help you get over him. Tell yourself that you can do much better, seriously I really think that you should just break him loose, to go date any other girl he wants. You shouldnt have to nag at him, just go off and party! To clubbing, dancing with you friends, enjoy yourself, after all you have been tied down and sacrificing for 3 years right ? Just let yourself goo, go have some fun and meet new people.
You shouldnt have to deal with guys like that.
take care hun
Saphire.
2007-02-22 21:04:02 · answer #4 · answered by Saphire04 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have never really cheated on a women, so I can really tell from that point of view. But this big wig, Shrink said on national TV here in the states, when ask why men cheat "because they can"
If you don't understand that I will make it a little longer. He doesn't respect you, He knows you will take him back, and he doesn't care how you feel. You will never make him stop, the only thing you can do is to walk away and not look back, in which he is out of your life, forever. sorry but its true.
2007-02-22 21:04:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You cant make him stop, hes formed a lovely little pattern and treated you like a doormat for 3 years and youve always taken him back, honestly you are at fault for taking such a man back. A leapord doesnt change his spots, hes a leapord.
Darl, show him the door and keep it closed, move on, you deserve better than this.
Why do you allow yourself to be abused this way?. You have to look after yourself.
Breaking up is never easy but you know its what you have to do. Your situation is never going to change with this man. .
2007-02-22 21:14:17 · answer #6 · answered by Leah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you can do that.
Its your behaviour that makes him cheat on you. You have become his personal property and he knows whatever he might do or you break away from him, he will be able to pacify you. A person never values anything which is easily available.
Become more authoritative, act little pricy with him, do not care about him and he will be running after you to make up with him.
2007-02-22 21:22:03 · answer #7 · answered by shrimal_sandeep 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only thing that will make him stop is you
Get rid of him that way he stops cheating on you but will soon get a new victim and cheat on her or him.
Cheating is in his blood. Dont fight it
RUN before he gets you a disease. A bad disease
2007-02-22 22:28:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheat always a cheat in my book. When you truly love someone there is no way you could ever cheat on them. You need to recognize this and find someone who will love and honor you the way in which you deserve to be.
-NmD!
2007-02-22 20:59:38 · answer #9 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
most guys like the chase than the catch,try things that will make him very jealous,like having guys appreciate you in words before him,like giving someone else all the attentio which you once gavehim..let them be make believe though he will come begging and turn a new person...,,,
2007-02-22 21:15:26 · answer #10 · answered by xcapee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋