I need help very bad and serious help. Me and my Fiance are wanting to have a kid.?

Question

First of all here are the list of reasons we want a child:
1. We are getting married in June
2. We have a home of our own
3. We are able to aford for child and us and still bills an so on
4. We love each other more than anything in this world and we want something that is made by the both of us, to call ours for life.
5. We have alot of friends/family that have kids and we love taking care of them and they always get attached to us. Which would mean we should be very good parents
6. Even though we are only 17 but will be 18 in June, I have ready graduated so I can always spend time with my child. My fiance is homeschooled here at my house sense we live together and he is going to graduate within 2 months and also he has is getting a very good job in a few days which means I can be the house wife and he can work..

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Here is more information / questions. Some things may be repeated because the first set is what my fiance had to say

Okay, we are 17 years old and financialy stable. I am woundering if when i cumz in her should i be very deep insode or just barely in or half wa or what? I have been told anywere but i ned a doctors opinion, So please real anwers everyone. i really also am worried about she could die, she turns 18 june 12 and so shes not going to grow anymore. she weighs105, her height is 5'5....coupld this kill her? Please true answrs only because we are doing this tonight..so please true answers only...Ok this is his fiance now. We have actually tried before but it was the day before my period and I didn't get pregnant. Is that because I was so close to my period? Also I've had Pap Smears and they all came back that everything was fine with me. One more thng thoough and I'm not trying to be nasty but how come everytime's we do try and he cumz in me it always come right back out.ill continue in an additional information....
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One more thng thoough and I'm not tryin

to be nasty but how come everytime's we do try and he cumz in me it always come right back out. Is that bad or normal or like he was asking does he need to go a little deeper or me sit a curtain way that way it doesn't come out. Please serious answers only because we are not playing. We are engaged and getting married in June, our parent are perfectly fine with what we have decided to do

Answer 1

Ok, from the heart: You are far too young to be considering parenthood. Wait a few years. Live your adult life a little, find out who your are, trust me, you don't know yet.

Answer 2

Well, I'm surprised no one answered and bitched about your age. I won't, because I'm 18 and pregnant and know how you feel. My recommendation would be to wait until after you're married so you don't ahve to worry about gaining weight and your wedding dress not fitting. June is 4 months away and you will probably be showing by then. I recommend waiting until you're married (what a fun thing to do on your honeymoon!) not for religious or social reasons but so you will fit in your wedding dress and won't have all the stress of morning sickness, breast soreness (seriously, my boyfriend can't even touch mine at this point!), and extreme fatigue. I'm doing the housewife thing too until I can go back to school, and it's working out for me.

As far as conception goes, it's possible you haven't gotten pregnant yet because you did it close to your period. Most women ovulate about 14 days after the first day of the period, but not everyone's the same. Also, you shouldn't have sex every day because the more he ejaculates the lower his sperm count is. If you're serious about getting pregnant, you can always buy an ovulation predictor from a drugstore...you pee on it and it tells you when you're ovulating...and then you have sex that day and you have the best chance of getting pregnant!

As far as the semen coming back out...yeah, that's normal. It's gross and I hate it...but it's normal. Good luck to you in your lives together!

Answer 3

I think you are perfectly fine ... some of it will come out but some of it will stay inside. If i am not wrong, for ladies, the most fertile period is 2 weeks after your menstration. You may want to try then, not just before or after as there might not be any eggs in your womb. Or you could get a ovulation kit from the local pharmacy to be more accurate.
And also, i think its better to let nature take its course especially when it comes to such things. The more persistent you both are in getting a baby real quick adds unnecessary stress to the both of you. And you probably aren't enjoying the sex too. When you both are stressed, its probably more difficult to conceive. Relax, light some candles, play some music and go with the flow. Go for a holiday... My son and daughter were both conceived during vacations... Good luck!!!

Answer 4

I don't know about the other stuff and I hate to say I know this but it is normal for the *** to come back out if you a dead set on getting pregger then don't go to bathroom right after sex also not trying to be nasty but give it time to move along , seriously though you guys should wait not because I think you are too young but because you and him should live alittle married stable life for a while a life that is for you and him wait a couple more years (like 20-22) Give yourselves the chance to have some fun in life together Good Luck

Answer 5

Depending on your menstrual cycle you should be able to assess your ovulation date, usually if your cyle is between 26 and 32 days, your ovulation takes place between day 9 and 19.
You should start counting from the fist day of your periods.
As for the way to have the intercourse. You should lay down for at least 20 min after he cumz, furthermore if you have your orgasm as well, a contraction takes place in your uterus, which will push the sperm further in... so good luck.
PS: it's normal that some of the sperm will go out, nothing stays in except the lucky on that made its way through.

Answer 6

thats great that you are financial stable and are responsible about bills and all that.

the thing about kids is that they are always there and will never go away. at 17/18 are you ready to gain all that weight, stretchmarks?

babies require constant supervision, are you willing to give up your social life quite yet? at that age there is so much more stuff you're going to want to do than sit home every night with your baby. saying "oh my mom will take care of it" isn't a for sure thing. would your parents be fine with watching your child while you go out and party many weekends?

babies cost A LOT of money with how quickly they grow out of clothes, formula, special foods, diapers, immunizations and checkups, etc. do you have enough money already set aside to cover this?

just because you are getting married doesn't mean you have to have a kid. yes technically it is the next step, but not necessarily immediately. babies are fun and all, but are you still going to be so in love with that bundle of joy when it wakes you up for the 6th time that night crying and screaming?

im not saying OMG DON"T HAVE IT but I want you to seriously think about how it will affect your lives in all aspects and think long term. how secure is the job that he has? what will you do if he loses his job for some reason and you have no source of income?

also, if you're asking questions like how he should c*m in you, are you sure you're ready to have a kid? usually by the time your'e ready to be having kids you understand how c*m works.

best of luck with whatever you choose

Answer 7

"to be nasty but how come everytime's we do try and he cumz in me it always come right back out. Is that bad or normal or like he was asking does he need to go a little deeper or me sit a curtain way that way it doesn't come out. Please serious answers only because we are not playing."

Serious, not playing: more education and maturity is required before you have children.

Answer 8

i think it';s not the right time for u to have a kid, cuz ur still young and ther are still many things that ucould happen but if u really want , it's up to u, follow ur heart's desire.,

Good luck and God Bless:)

Answer 9

try inserting a tampon i did..and now im 6 weeks pregnant