My son is 31/2. He refuses to potty train. I have tried cheerios(he wants to eat them) I have tried pull-ups, just underware, begging , pleading and even threatening. If I leave him on the pot for 30 min, he sits there... reading a book. Then he gets up and promply pees in his pull-up. Then when he poops, he refuses to tell me. he hides until I smell it, then cries like I am going to get mad at him for his mistake... I don't knw what to do with him. My mother had all girls, and she says we were easy and my mother-in-law adopted my husband when he was 21/2 and already potty trained. Oh, and to make matters worse he is speech delayed and understanding him when he does want to go(rarely) is impossible...
2007-02-22 19:09:00 · 9 answers · asked by lilly j 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
You need a MAN'S HELP!
My top tip:
Put a plastic air filled ball in your loo. It will float in the pan and won't get flushed away. This is where daddy comes in - Basically it is a game (if he is tall enough to reach) to try and hit the ball in the loo a bit like target practice! Daddy may have to demonstrate this, but it makes peeing a bit more fun and takes the pressure off you for a bit. Also if this works, make sure you make a HUGE fuss over him about it, lots of praise and tell him how grown up he is.
2007-02-23 00:41:20 · answer #1 · answered by barenakedlady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have much advice, but just wanted to let you know that we are in the same spot! My 3 1/2yr old son uses the potty fairly regularly at daycare (other kids are a huge motivator), then absolutely refuses to ever use it at home! I've tried bribery, having him watch my husband go, a sticker chart, cute underpants - he is just not interested. It's so frustrating, because I know he can - he just won't!
If I can't get him trained by summertime, I'm going to take a week off of work and let him run around without underwear and see what happens...
2007-02-23 07:26:43 · answer #2 · answered by Karen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he doesn't want to use the potty. Get a booster seat for the toilet and leave him there, supervised of course. My son flatly refused to use the potty and that's how I trained him. I used to leave him hollering on the toilet until he pees or poops and then I used to make a real fuss on what a good boy he is. Be sure to stay near him as he can fall. Stay calm and don't let him see you frustrated. Buy him some nice underpants that he can choose himself. Good luck!
2007-02-22 22:53:15 · answer #3 · answered by jondavesnowy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you're worried but try not to let your son see that..it will make his nervous and that on its own might be delaying the whole process.
My mom has had a day care for over 17 yrs now and I told her about your problems and she has suggested the one she knows always works - day care. The presence of other toddlers and the fun of doing certain activities together has helped many kids develop. Maybe your son seeing other kids 'go' at the same time and being praised for it might want just be the motivation he needs...just make sure you choose a day care with educators equipped well enough to understand that every kid is unique...I am also thinking the presence of other kids might just be the external stimulation he needs to improve on his speech as well.
Good luck.
2007-02-22 22:07:06 · answer #4 · answered by CJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bought my Son underwear with a cartoon chacter that he really liked then I told him he couldnt pee on Scooby (was his choice) and it worked I never used pull ups with my kids because they are confusing to the child those thigs are just like diapers to a kid they cant tell the difference..Try having him help you get rid of the diapers and talking to him about going potty like a big boy No more diapers, Dont get mad about accidents because it will stress him out although it is frustrating try your best, you mentioned that he is delayed in speech he may just come around on this a little later too
2007-02-22 20:36:02 · answer #5 · answered by stacie_collins2001 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is he autistic? It kind of sounds like he may be autistic. He may have some sensory issues that make him resist potty training. There are ways to approach this that are different then "normal" children. Talk to his pediatrician about this. If he is diagnosed as autistic there is the ABA program which could help with potty training.
2007-02-23 08:14:21 · answer #6 · answered by laineyette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try a reward system. I keep a gumball machine with m&m's in it. Everytime they used the potty they would get a couple for peeing and a handful for pooping. Also praise, praise, praise! It worked on 2 of mine and I am starting on the third one. Hope it helps.
2007-02-22 23:10:34 · answer #7 · answered by LAC_27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my son has speech problems he's 31/2 now and i didnt have problems with him my partner what he did to get him potty trained i know it sounds gross but he used to get my son to watch him where he wees or poos so he did them on the potty and i had to congratuate my partner for being a good boy for doing it in the right place also to get him on the proper toilet we had to buy my son a toilet seat if ur son has a favourite animal try and get him that animal on the training seat and see if it works cuz he will see that animal every time he goes to do the business it took my son a week to get him to do his business on the toilet. we have bars on either side of the toilet so he can get on the toilet and hold on cuz he was afraid to sit on it in case he fell in. the only way i know he needs the toilet cuz of his delayed speech he calls it a "t"
2007-02-22 23:19:17 · answer #8 · answered by SUSAN S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My pediatrician told me "relax, he has never seen a kindergartner in diapers". One month later he started using the toilet.
Anyways, your son will use the toilet when he and his body is ready.
2007-02-23 02:07:16 · answer #9 · answered by Fyli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋