Every little thing...?

Question

It seems like every little thing seems to send me into a complete rage now, what can I do to stop things from getting to me? I wasnt always so angry all the time but it's getting worse. I am afraid I am going to keep pushing people away and eventually there wont be anyone left...

Answer 1

meditation! it really works and you don't need to be a "spiritual man" to do it, just sit or lay down get confortably and breath.... it really works! good luck.

Answer 2

It is very good that you recognise this problem and want to change it. And you CAN change if you are motivated enough. This kind of rage does not appear overnight out of nowhere, but accumulates as we go through life until it reaches a kind of critical mass. The way to be serene again is a two fold approach. The first necessity is daily meditation even 20 minutes before you start your day (or if you're really not a morning person anytime when you can find 20 quiet minutes.)You will need instruction preferably in person from a qualified teacher, but if not there are good books that teach the techniques. You could look for a simple meditation technique of the samatha (concentration) type, at least initially to train your mind into a peaceful habit. The second step involves daily physical exercise, minimum 20-30 minutes aerobic type exercise, could be walking, walk fairly briskly or whatever else suits you but gets your body really moving and heart working. This works if you stick to it and no pills necessary. Having said that, don't think you will never be angry again, you will, an unfortunate part of the human condition, but this will help create some distance between you and your rage and give you back some control. How much change is up to you to a large extent. Good luck.

Answer 3

There's always a root cause for anger. You need some counseling to find out what's really troubling you and to learn ways to control your temper.

It's a process. There's no magic formula that works for everyone so give it some time. If you're afraid of pushing someone away, then the next time you get angry try a statement like, "I'm feeling really angry right now and I need to go." Let people know that's your limit and attempting to pursue a discussion then isn't healthy. It might help you for now until you can get into therapy.

Answer 4

First off, you should consider other people's feelings and think about how you would feel if you do or say certain things before you respond to people in general. You could be emotionally oversensitive, jumping to conclusions too quickly, or or simply throwing how you may be feeling on others, and if so that isn't fair to them or you. Most people don't know how other people will react when they say or do things, because reaction is a part of life that will never be understood, so also think about whether someone is actually trying to make you upset before you react as well.

Answer 5

And that is what will happen, you will push and push and finally they won't want to be around you. Congrads on identifying this is a problem.

Sounds like you need some "me time", no one asking for anything of you. Get away for a week-end, just you, your music and a book. Not a fix to all of it but a bandage for the here and now and some time to think about what needs to change.

Answer 6

Sounds you are very stressed out. Maybe a vacation would help.
Also you have to find peace with your self. Find out what is the cause of your anginess? Talk about it or write about. Get it out but don't get angry with people doing that. You probably need some spirituality -pray to God ask for some balance, peace and joy and love. It will take time but take control over it before it took control of you.

Answer 7

Go to the gym and put that energy into making yourself fit. Talk to a counselor to help figure out why you're so angry and work through it.

Answer 8

Lay off the Roids

Answer 9

My sister was like that. She told her doctor how she was feeling and he put her on "risperidol", It is suppose to help her with her anger. They want her to attend anger managment. The anger is coming from somewhere and they have groups where you can talk about it. Get all that shet out.It seems to be helping. Maybe you can bring that drug up and talk about it with your doctor.

Answer 10

I bees thinkin to buys a good used shotgun. Dos peebles hav no right to be crappin on you. Make them show some respect.

Answer 11

can you find a tree stump to chop on ?? Or take martial arts classes?? good ways to take out anger without getting mad at others or at yourself..I find that chopping a stump to the music "working in the coal mines" to be very satisfying...