Heres the issue here. Theres this girl i liked for a while and we both professed our love for each other, but the problem with her is she feels that somedays she loves me as a friend and somedays as a lover. Apparently this is due to a her last serious relationship and how her boyfriend left her for some stupid reason. I assume she fears to commit because she doesnt want her heart broken again. Ive tried to prove i can commit , but im getting the feeling im getting played the thing is though ive decided that I dont want to leave her because i do have feelings for her but jsut to prove her wrong and make her happy. Now i would like to know what your people's feedback especially from Woman and if any of you gals ever been in a predicament such as this
2007-02-22 18:59:43 · 13 answers · asked by marmelade_man 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
...the only way to "get her" is to "let her go"
...she needs to SEE that you need MORE and are willing to DUMP HER if she has "issues"
...set your own BOUNDERIES and see if she can honor them- if she can't she isn't WORTH keeping.
2007-02-22 19:12:54 · answer #1 · answered by R J 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At the very least, this relationship is unhealthy.
It sounds like this girl has some issues that she needs to work out for herself, and the more you push, the more you will drive her away from you.
She doesn't know what she wants right now so the best thing to do is to cut her loose and let her figure it out. If she hasn't just fallen totally in love with the relationshp by now, then she probably won't in her current state.
So end it now. Let her go. Then maybe some day she'll figgure out that you were a good thing and maybe her mind will be in the right state to accept you completely. Right now you're asking for pain and it can only end badly.
2007-02-22 19:05:16 · answer #2 · answered by Big Happy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is playing the same thing as lying?? Sounds to me like communication is a issue..You need to just tell her how you feel and let her make the decision on what she wants to do in this relationship. Sounds like you have decided you care for her so just tell her.. If you truly are interested time is not an issue, and in time all will come around, and you will know..If time is the only thing you loose than dang man she is worth it right.. If your in a hurry move on..I hate it when men rush things. Maybe she doesn't even knows she loves you yet.. And maybe your not sure either.. Otherwise you would have said you loved her in your question. So have fun date take your time..
2007-03-02 18:34:26 · answer #3 · answered by fnbug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it definately is an issue. I feel you should stick with it just a little bit longer. Say maybe a month or so. If things dont begin to improve then it would be better to say goodbye. It may hurt, but these are some issues that she needs to work out. It may help her to see a therapist. It sounds like she has deep emotional scars if her past relationship is getting in the way of a potential meaningful one.
2007-02-22 19:04:50 · answer #4 · answered by //// 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have, and its not easy...as you may be figuring this out. You shouldn't do things just to prove another person wrong. If you love her and she doesn't know how she feels then you gotta move on. Life is too short to wait around for people to not make up their minds....You may love her, but with the way she is treating you...she's not showing you the same. Your heart means something too. You shouldn't let people go stomping all over it. There are other people that would love to know you and be with you with all of their heart......don't spend time on something that is going nowhere.....from a female's point of view.
2007-02-22 19:22:55 · answer #5 · answered by mrs_me19 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Too hot and cold. Either you love someone or you don't. Its pretty simple. You can't turn it on and off like a tap. This girl has some serious issues, and i'm guessing she isn't completely over the last guy. Move on.
2007-02-22 19:04:22 · answer #6 · answered by loza500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah....I've been in that situation twice. From the man's side that is. Turned out to be that the girl was a jaded wench who was just sabotaging the relationship both times. I don't go for lost causes anymore and I'm much happier.
2007-02-22 19:03:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 01:27:10 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she's playing you, I believe she's scared to get in a serious relationship. But another thing she's not ready for a relationship, you see that way you can't ever tell her anything because all she's going to tell you is that you're not her man. I walked in her shoes once.
2007-03-02 15:00:53 · answer #9 · answered by nutty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when a girl has her heart broken it's very hard to give it to someone else to put back together...i have been in the same situation where someone really hurt me and the next guy i dated after him i tried really hard to love him with all my heart...but all my heart wasn't there to love him with...a broken heart takes lots of time to heal and even then it is never completely healed...give it time if you love her eventually she'll realise that you are not her ex...and if she doesn't then you'll know you'll feel it...good luck sweetie..i know how it feels to love someone with your whole heart and only to have them love you with half of theirs
2007-02-22 19:06:46 · answer #10 · answered by countrygirl6183 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋