I AM AHINDU GIRL AND I HAVE MADLY FALLEN IN LOVE WITH MY TEACHER WHO IS FOURTEEN YRS. ELDER THAN ME . THREE TIMES I THOUGHT THAT I WAS WRONG AND TRIED TO HATE HIM BUT I AM NOT ABLE TO EVEN STAY WITHOUT THINKING ABOUT HIM FOR A MINUTE . I HAVE 100 EVIDENCES TO PROVE THAT HE LOVES ME TOO BUT NEITHER I SAID ANYTHING EVER NOR HE . CAN U PLZ SUGGEST ME WHAT SHOULD I DO ?
2007-02-22 18:37:37 · 15 answers · asked by IPSHITA 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
DIE ...
2007-02-22 18:43:48 · answer #1 · answered by amazed !!! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Now unfortunantley I don't know the Hindu culture that well, but if you two think that you may have something, who is anyone to stop you from pursueing it? Grant it, and depending on your age which you haven't disclosed, you don't want to jeoprodize his status as a teacher. Now if you're in college and over 18, and your teacher is older then there's nothing wrong with it. I would, keep a relationship like that on the DL(down low). But if you're in high school and this type of thing is going I HIGHLY suggest you find something else to keep you head on. Many teacher have been getting in a lot of trouble fraternizing with their students.
Laterz,
Marcus
2007-02-23 02:44:14 · answer #2 · answered by Marcus M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In your search for a mate you begin with Christ. Sit at His feet awhile in prayer and meditation, making your own calling and election sure, and asking for His guidance and wisdom in finding the "right" companion. Marriage is not meant to be "horzontal" only - just between a man and a woman. There is a vertical aspect to marriage. It is this aspect which brings a balance in any relationship. That vertical aspect is God. A Christian Marriage is 'two hearts' united in faith toward 'One God', who alone is able to keep them from falling into the snare and trap of the Devil.
Take some time to seriously consider what "qualities" you feel are necessary in the individual whom you expect to live closely with for the rest of your life. NEVER judge his or her Christian testimony or experience by church attendance, knowledge or enthusiasm during Bible/Message discussions - watch their actions and/or re-actions to the challenges of everyday living - Do you see genuine humility, faith and absolute trust in God? Are they seeking to please God, first and foremost in all they do?
These qualities are very important if your relationship is to experience love, joy, peace and victory in the midst of the trials and challenges which comes with marriage. Know what you expect to find in your partner after the initial burst of romance and the excitement of being "in love" has settled down to "normal" everyday living of raising the children, balancing the budget and expressing love for one another in more mature ways..
Remember, this is a union that MUST continue so long as life shall last. If you choose a house and afterwards feel it is not suitable, you may sell and buy another; if an employee fails to meet the expectations of the employer, that employee can be replace. But should husband or wife find that they have been mistaken in their choice, there is no alternative open to them. They may deeply and bitterly regret their decision, but there is no place for repentance. "Marriage, according to God's original plan, is a world-without-end bargain". This is God's perfect will.
2007-02-23 04:40:42 · answer #3 · answered by ms. codnit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need therapy. You have a cruch on someone in an authoritative position. This is common, but it also means that you need some counselling to help you see things a little clearer. If your infatuation has you so worked up that you can't go very long without thinking about him then you're suffering from something that needs attention in your life before you try to get into his.
2007-02-23 02:41:28 · answer #4 · answered by Big Happy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is quite natural for a girl of your age to fall into this trap of believing somebody to an extent that you start saying it as love. But it no more than infatuation may be physical or psychological. You may think that he is very considerate towards you take care of you but remember try to find out why he is like that.
I hope if you get a good answer to that you may not have to end up your life.........
2007-02-23 02:50:03 · answer #5 · answered by Sammy76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you say fourteen years? And I believe he must be married too, isn't he? And what's your age?
Fisrt of all religion has got nothing to do with it. The religion allows you to marry your teacher or anyone you love. I believe that's more of an obsession rather thatn love. You see him most the time and admire him. Probably you need to grow up to fall in love...
:-)
2007-02-23 18:04:59 · answer #6 · answered by plato's ghost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Ipshita.Its might not b correct that ur teacher also love u in that way but might b wid other thinkings.Ur craze 4 him can lead him in grave problem.Dont u know matter of Love Guru on Tv news
2007-02-23 04:23:31 · answer #7 · answered by Sania 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You couldn't be with him because he is your teacher, anyway. He could be fired. However, in the future, perhaps you two could be a couple. I'm not an expert on the Hindu love lifestyle, but perhaps you could ask your father for permission, since from what I've heard, he has the say.
2007-02-23 02:41:30 · answer #8 · answered by Drinking from a broken glass.... 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you tell your teacher that you fallen in love with someone and describe that person to your sir in that way that your sir can understand that the guy is not he ,the guy is the another person.by doing some thing like that repeatedly ,and may be your sir will tell you about his feelings,and if he not tell you then you have to do that ,but obviously slowly and a a different kind of manner.you also can ask your sir what kind of gal he likes. like that you can know his feelings.ok,best of luck.
2007-02-23 02:47:09 · answer #9 · answered by Dighi_143 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well..first go to your teacher and propose him...
if he is ready..then no porblem..
but do think of the age factor..14 years is quite a big age difference..
first tell you teacher about this..
then both of you can decide what to do next....
2007-02-23 11:50:22 · answer #10 · answered by ruprekhawati 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be totally illegal for him to even remotely show that he has a crush on you. Don't count on it. As long as you're a minor, and his student... nada chances.
2007-02-23 02:40:33 · answer #11 · answered by ♥ Dragon Rider ™ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋