Sex with married men?

Question

I had an affair with a married man few years ago (I was still single then by the way). Till today I can't forget the passion that we'd once shared! It is so much pleasurable compared to boyfriends or even husband! He just know how to hold me and caress me. Do you have an experience like mine to share? Please... no offense but just want your opinion. Not critic time!

Answer 1

No i did not. But thought of sharing some of my friend's experience with you. Yes you are definitely right. Sex with married men are usually better because they learn a lot from ex gf and esp their wives. They don't get that steamy, intimate passion from the wives anymore and longing to have that passion again.. so they turn to someone else. Usually younger single, attractive girls, who want nothing but enjoy good sex. It is a big plus for these married men as they are do not need to committ themselves... which is exactly what they are looking for!
The moments of intimacy remains part of you because you couldn't get that from your husband and therefore, the memory is haunting you. Try it with your husband and that so-called passion of the past will slowly fade away. Don't dwell in the past. Cherish "it" with your husband and i'm sure, you won't forget it for the rest of your life!

Answer 2

Here is the deal. As a man who has used that same story it may be just that. Without you talking to his wife and finding out the truth you are going on his word and that may be enough for you but in all honesty to answer your question of are you so awful? No. But you are wrong. He is married. If the sex was so brutal and he has talked to her and she still will not do anything it is his problem for staying there and his error for getting some strange (that would be you) on the side. I have done it and it is wrong. My wife was not a very sexual person. I am. I would tell her to improve and do certain things that I liked and minimal effort was made. I used that excuse to cheat. I was wrong. So is he. You are wrong for contributing to that. If you want good sex there are many a men out there that are single. Deliberately or not you could be wrecking a marriage that is okay. How? It may be good in her eyes. He may tell her all the right things then turn around and bone you. So, let him know that when he gets divorced to look you up.....until then you are not sharing the poon because it's morally wrong.

Answer 3

Well, generally a married man has had more time to learn about his wife's body and therefore learned what "works". that's why he seems to be adept at holding, caressing, etc. The thing to remember is that your memory is generally more favorable than the actual situation was. I suggest you spend the same amount of time encouraging your spouse in the area of intimacy and stop living in the past. By spending time on your current relationship, the memories of the past will diminish. There's a great intimacy builder out there called "Simply romantic nights" which helps you create dates that set the stage for success with intimacy. By focusing your energy on your spouse, you'll find that the memories with him will outweigh the pleasure you remember from the past relationship. Give your husband a chance, before he starts using what he's learned from you on someone else....

Answer 4

Yes I do. I had an internet fling with someone I know, which grew into alot more over time. He was already cheating on his wife, so I guess I didn't feel so guilty about it.

We have only ever been together twice, over the past 2 years, and yet I still cannot forget him. We are quite closely connected through work and sports, and It is hard to put him out of my head when we spend so much time around each other.

Answer 5

A woman that will enter a relationship with a married man is seriously immature. They fall for dumb lies, or even worse...they know what they are doing and do not care what they are doing to someone else's life.
What you see as passion is only lust. The lust that has left the married man's relationship. He's coming to you for the kind of sexual relationship that he misses from when he first met his wife.
You're nothing but a surrogate, nothing more. It's called "being used". He's not worth anyone's time which is probably why he's not getting it from his wfe the way he wants it in the first place.

Answer 6

It has always been an excitement to take risk. The higher the risk, the higher the excitement will be. Especially doing something that might got us into trouble. It is just a sense of satisfaction in avoiding getting caught-in-the-act.

The feelings will definitely sway to the dark side if you are caught doing "it". Unless you prefer to get caught, then it is a different story at all.

Answer 7

That was fantasy time ... not real life. Do you really like sharing something with a cheat? Come on ... be honest with yourself. I'm one hundred percent certain that not only was that passionate man cheating on his wife he was also cheating on you. He.was most likely doing the same thing with a couple of others who maybe asking the same question as you are.. I'd call him a Lothario.

Answer 8

I slept with a married woman, my boss no less, I had no trouble sleeping at night. In todays society, marriage is a thing of the past for 80% of people. Just look at the divorce rate and how many couples cheat.If you think of relationships by natures standards, one suitor would be ridiculous. We weren't meant to be with just one person all our lives.

Answer 9

I think that the passion you and he felt came partly from partaking in someone you couldn't "have", I think it is mental which automatically will play out physically. The thought of being caught can be thrilling. I am not judging you...but I do wonder...if it was so "passionate" and "great" why he chose his wife over you?

Answer 10

I think its just the excitement of being with someone your not supposed to be with. It's taboo. Becareful because it is just a fantasy world that is not real. Its funny because once that person becomes unmarried that excitement dies very quickly.