at the age of 18 cleared the medical entrance exam, could not join as family condiions did not allow, loved like mad for 2 years at the age of 24, she walked our for money/some still unknown mysteries. "Age 25, father in hospital asks to marry, son obeys, the most dissatifactory life follows. Age 28 another dream disillusioned, after teaching for 4 years in a govt. school, realised that it was a slow professional death as it was a non competitive enviornment.... at this stage... looking for a reason to live..... can you give one?
2007-02-22 18:28:30 · 6 answers · asked by Brave Heart 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow u're one tough guy, u know that. But then look at it. U're been to hell and back yet you survived didn't you, so carry on as it is. Since you're married do you have any kids. If Yes, there's your reason to live. If not then you have to take charge of your life. Your 28 now. Live your life to your liking. Ok you're tired of the teaching job, try to look for another. If you can't find other job, well then whenever your free or on weekends do something which you want to do. I sincerely hope that u're happy with your mrs. otherwise i've no idea wat to say. Sometimes we are in such a place that we are unable to make any change in our life but then it doesn't mean we have to be miserable in it. Talk to your mrs maybe she will be able to give you an idea as wat to do. wish you all the best.
2007-02-22 20:27:42 · answer #1 · answered by Akki's Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Another example, at the age of 18, father had an major heart attack. Left the stuidies, started earning. gathered up strentgh. One year later, joined distance education programmes. At the age of 22, realised that those certificates were not from any affiliated universty and hence not valid anywhere.
Financially in weak condition. Workd hard. Wandered to about plenty of places in India, as my job took me. At the age of 25 parents forced to get married. Held them up for 3.5 years and finally got married at 28. Just after that, my contract expired, had to withdraw from the job. Found a partner and ventured into a business. Partner vanished with the nominal income generated and left me out here with debts.
Today, at the age of 30, gathered strength once again. Worked hard, recovered the business, cleared the debts, just entered a financially not very well set, but steady life.
The key to success, hope, hardwork, and perservance.
Your love walked away was the past. It's your weakness if you are still backlogged in your past. Married against will. But once married you have to accept it and understand your responsibilites. Love our wife and family. Nono competitive environment in profession - at least you have a stable Job. Competitive environemnt induces the risk of being fired. They run after cheaper ways to get the job then. The environment is 200% stress untill you are short listed (to be fired).
I had the same mentallity when I was 22. I wanted to study, go for the masters degree in aeronautics. Once I found my dream shattered, I felt like I should have died. But just at some time then I had a dream. It was about a girl. In the dream I was listening to her story.
She narrated, "My father's dead, mother's ill, and I have a younger brother. I am not highly educated. I need to take care of my mother and educate my bro. That's my dream. My mother too wants the same. Everywhere I work people wanna use me. They offer money. I never accepted inspite of these problems. i don't wanna lose my values. I can face life the way it comes but not at the cost of my values. My mother would be the only mother in the world, who has asked her daughter to stay unmarried and sell her body. I just hear those words everyday, yet without a single complain, prepare myself to face the ruthless world for the day. Till now I have managed to live, take care of our expenses and yet maintain my values. And I know I can do it for lifetime. Just because I know I must do it, I believe can do it..."
This dream changed the whole mindset of mine. Never ever did I feel helpless against any circumstances, never ever did I lose hope. Cos if she can do it, I was always in a better position.
All the best...
:-)
2007-02-23 18:00:57 · answer #2 · answered by plato's ghost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thinking of past love after the marriage is waste of time....
If thought of it at the beginning then should have stopped that marriage.. when that didn't happen then better stop thinking of past the and live for the present... no point in disappointing the married partner
2007-02-23 03:04:03 · answer #3 · answered by Raj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget all, plan,think with high attitude, you will reach the high:
After your satisfied work environment you try for other activities.
2007-02-23 02:35:22 · answer #4 · answered by ar.samy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...only YOU can give yourself " a reason to live"
...sometimes you have to be "bad" to be happy.
2007-02-23 02:32:36 · answer #5 · answered by R J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes ,your one and only hobby.go to that way.
2007-02-23 02:34:52 · answer #6 · answered by Dighi_143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋