I havent had sex in over a year and four months and Im scared that when the moment arise when I meet a girl that I would be a dissapointment for her and not meet up to her standerds. How can I prevent this from happening.Im a Christian and only want to have sex again when Im married but lets face it when it happens sometimes I just cant resist the temtation. Please help.
2007-02-22 18:17:32 · 11 answers · asked by Jacques G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
STAY STRONG!!!!
I am a virgin and plan on waiting till marriage. I have an incredible boyfriend I've been with for a year who is willing to wait for me.
Wait for a girl like that...
It's so worth it.
God has a plan for you and will bring you the right one in His time. Just have faith in Him. God will give you the strength to wait... if you let Him...
2007-02-22 18:21:44 · answer #1 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you've had sex before then you should know that if you and the woman care about each other and you're not her first then she'll understand that the first time is almost always a bit of a dissappointment on the guy's side. A mature woman understands that you'll be eager and so excited that you may come quickly and maybe not take as much time with the rest of her as you should. This is normal. Some guys are better on first times, and others nearly cry with frustration, but if she cares about you then she'll overlook a bad first experience and let you get a feel for her.
But in most of my experiences, a good woman will almost always say that if you love each other that the sex won't be bad, but just a good time in the construction of the relationship to look back on fondly.
Women aren't stupid. They know that if you care about them that you'll be nervous because you want to please her, be accepted by her.
2007-02-22 18:27:37 · answer #2 · answered by Big Happy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you have a talk with her and let her know that the person you want to be with must respect the fact that you are trying to be a good Christian, and make love to the woman that will be your wife. I think if she's understanding and loves you no matter what she will understand if your performance if off at first, but afterwards it will be just like riding a bike. Good luck in your celibacy til marriage.
2007-02-22 18:22:10 · answer #3 · answered by bdancer43 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
offer to God you addiction.He can heal you.
In Christianity, we are taught that the sexual act is a pleasure reserved for married couples. This is God's grand design. Sadly, secular and modernistic views (whe call "the world") presents otherwise: "do as you feel!"
and that, my brother, is baloney.
As Christians, we too are tasked to have Self Control.
This is a virtue that separates us humans from dogs. we can say no if we really want to.
2007-02-22 18:27:43 · answer #4 · answered by j_timberLate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stick to your no sex again till mariage it may be hard, but its the right thing to do! then you will not have to worry about it...it will be with your wife nad you knwo that she already loves you enough to marry you even without sex.
2007-02-22 18:23:39 · answer #5 · answered by christy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
simple ....dont be tempted by ''flesh'',for its pleasure is fleeting and some times it costs you more than you know, a person who can control their temptations is a rock against the storm of life
2007-02-22 18:24:14 · answer #6 · answered by gry w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to be so anxious, and if you do perform poorly, don't make excuses. It'll make you look lame and she'll find it unattractive!
2007-02-22 18:21:20 · answer #7 · answered by Stan Darsh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Refrain yourself from sex till you get married, and ask God for repentance.
2007-02-22 18:21:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Masturbate before sex youll last longer.
2007-02-22 18:21:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
if u tell her then it wont matter to her bacause she will understand if u mess up!
2007-02-22 18:39:57 · answer #10 · answered by grown n sexy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋