my partner doesn't want to be intermate with me any more, i have tried a few things but she makes excuses not to do anything, does anyone have any advice.
2007-02-22 18:16:03 · 16 answers · asked by den w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1. u better speak to ur partner
2007-02-22 18:25:55 · answer #1 · answered by prabhakar_ace 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I think you need to speak with her. Usually girls lose interest in sex when they feel like there is some other kind of problem in the relationship. Are you spending time with her without trying to have sex? Are you asking about how she is and how her day has been? Girls need to feel like their guy wants to spend time with them and not just want to have sex all the time. Try doing some nice romantic things with her and not trying anything on her, just hold her hand or whatever. Buy her flowers and write her cards or text messages etc. If you live together, cook a meal for her or clean the house. Basically, make her feel appreciated and that you're interested in her, not just her kitty kat.
She might also feel like you've drifted apart so she's not that keen on sex anymore. Either way, you need to talk to her about it.
2007-02-23 02:22:39 · answer #2 · answered by Snow White 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she feels unattractive or depressed. do u let her know that she is beautiful or do u just grab her boobs and tell her to do it with you? We women like to be romanced every now and then. Take her on a date, let her know that she looks stunning and that u love her if u do. If ur lucky that might be enough to get her to be intimate with u, otherwise keep reminding her that she is beautiful, offer her ur support if she needs it but most of all dont pressure her or threaten her because that will only make her push u even further away. If none of these things work maybe see a couples councillor or if ur gf is unhappy just try talking to her.
2007-02-23 02:24:37 · answer #3 · answered by suzi Q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't look healthy, den w. You make it sound more than just an occasional rebuke. You know best, but recurring pushing you away could be she's on to something else.
Knowing women a bit, though, they go through these stages at least a couple of times a month. Be patient.
2007-02-23 02:21:59 · answer #4 · answered by free n' dating 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long has it been since she hasn't wanted to do anything -- could it be she's having her time of the month? How long have you been doing it? Could it be she doesn't like the format? Another reason why one lacks interest all of a sudden is if they've suddenly acquired interests elsewhere. Why don't you ask her?
2007-02-23 02:20:44 · answer #5 · answered by GrnEyedBlondeSwede 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's your wife then try to talk to her about it and find out what the problem is...go to counselling together, if necessary, so the counsellor can steer your conversations.
If it;s juts a gf then you'd probably better start looking for someone new because it sounds like your relationship has gone downhill fast. She may even be cheating on you.
2007-02-23 02:20:18 · answer #6 · answered by Big Happy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Initiate something sexy, be romantic with her. Go and buy her some sexy lingerie and she'll wear it for you. Grab her and start kissing her and snuggling and it'll get her in the mood. Put aside a whole night dedicated to romancing her, I bet she'll love it.
2007-02-23 02:19:52 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Interpreted 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
frequently people not interested in intimacy are that way because of guilt or boredom. so she's either cheating on you or she's bored with you.
2007-02-23 02:20:55 · answer #8 · answered by wigginsray 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try anything. Keep on trying. DO NOT give up.
2007-02-23 02:36:00 · answer #9 · answered by Jumbo J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her to read some womens porn " Erotic Romance"...
2007-02-23 02:19:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋