I've been seeing her for a minute now. She's a drinker. I drink and smoke weed. I don't think anything is wrong with smoking weed and I like to be proud of who I am but if I tell her she might not like me anymore. I know it's better to be honest and if she doesn't like me for me then...well ya know. But I just like her so much. Should I take the chance. Maybe she won't agree but she might not judge me either. Maybe we can appreciate eachother's differences. Would it be an automatic deal breaker for you.
2007-02-22 18:12:47 · 20 answers · asked by Lee Edward 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I myself smoke weed every night before I go to bed, yet my husband doesn't smoke and only social drinks. I told him from the get go and he still loves me for the person I am, not the habbits I have, As I do respect him though. Being honost in any relationship is the key to success.
2007-02-22 19:24:17 · answer #1 · answered by Halena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, it would break the deal for me. Druggies don't appeal to me. Weed is illegal and sooner or later, you'll get busted. Hate to burst your bubble there but it's the truth. It might seem harmless to you and hey, if you're still able to have a great life and toke every once in awhile, more power to ya. You should be honest with her but be ready for her to hit the road.
I don't think smoking weed is a difference. It's a habit. Two different things entirely.
2007-02-22 18:19:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were her I'd definitely would want to know, I've been in that position before it's best not to hide it because it will only make it worse for you most girls just like it better when you're open with them and not hide stuff like that. Because my boyfriend smokes weed and at first I didn't like it but it didn't change the way I felt about him because I'm still with him and have been for 2 years. I think you should just be honest with her and if she doesn't like it then maybe it wasn't meant to be. But I'd let her know asap!
2007-02-22 18:26:38 · answer #3 · answered by ~jess~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not go out with a guy that smokes weed, mostly because I would want to date someone with more sense than myself, lol. (But, if we were already together, I'd give him a chance, even if I just might try to break him of his habit.) However, your girl deserves the truth. I wouldn't be very pleased if I didn't know that my boyfriend smoked weed until I caught him high with another girl, or something.
2007-02-22 18:23:04 · answer #4 · answered by Drinking from a broken glass.... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. It's so fine. I think most guys smoke weed. If you're smoking throughout the day then it's a bit much, but if it's only once you come home at night I don't think it's a big deal at all.
Maybe you could broach the subject by asking if she's tried it, or whether she wants to have a smoke at the end of a big night out. From her reaction you'll be able to guess whether she's going to be okay with it or not.
What you really have to be prepared for is what you're going to do if she's not into it. Are you prepared to cut back or quit to keep her? Because if she hates it, that's what she's going to ask...
2007-02-22 18:18:30 · answer #5 · answered by Snow White 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I appreciate your honesty and you real question. I am really sorry that you don't feel you can be honest to her about this. I think he reason you are a bit scared is because deep down somewhere you know that doing drugs is wrong. I am sorry boo, but this is a 100% deal breaker for me because I want my man to be strong and to be a role model in the community. I also think forward, if we were to have children how can you teach them that drugs are bad,,,when you yourself do them. Yes weed isn't crack, but to me a drug is a drug is a drug. Good luck and I hope all goes well. But remember honesty is key to a great relationship.
2007-02-22 18:19:32 · answer #6 · answered by aprildin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be a deal breaker for me.
But I guess some people wouldn't be bothered by the fact.
Either way, you need to be honest with her. It's best that you tell her the truth, and see what happens rather than wait until you have an established relationship and then break the news.
2007-02-22 18:17:58 · answer #7 · answered by star22 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lots of girls smoke pot, or are at least cool with you doing it. I dated a guy for two and a half years and I was the one with the regular habit, not him, and everything was fine. The question is... do you really want to be with someone who would end it over a little marijuana usage? Don't hide who you are... I'd find that much more unattractive. Especially if you started dating her and then she found out that you'd been hiding it... a couple months in. That would be a MUCH bigger deal.
2007-02-22 18:20:12 · answer #8 · answered by raerose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her. She has the right to know if you are doing something around her that is illegal and could harm her if you are around her high. What is more important to you? Smoking or the girl? And if you answer smoking then you should really think about what you are doing to yourself and if you have a habit that you need to worry about. Good luck.
2007-02-22 18:20:17 · answer #9 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that would break the deal for me. i mean if i wanted to die of cancer by filling my lungs with smoke then i would stick my head in a bbq or something. i am not this girl that you are seeing though. i would tell her because you should always be honest when in a relationship. that is part of that whole liking someone and deciding that you are going to date is so that you can trust one another and be honest with one another.
2007-02-22 18:17:41 · answer #10 · answered by Alli 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋