i have relationship (friendship & love) from last 1year, she already have 1 boy friend from last 9-10 years, when i came in her life she said they have sacrifised the love bcoz there parents are not allowing and he is her past. she said she loves me and then we have relationship. but still she is in contact with that guy, now she is saying that he was never his past, he has maintained the relationship with him as there was a 1% chance of being together & she dont want to cheat him, what do i do? (she says she loves me lot & i do believe thats true)
2007-02-22 18:06:43 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
THIS IS A DELICATE ISSUE, BUT LET ME TELL YOU SHE IS USING YOU AS A TIME PASS. SHE IS TAKING ADVANTAGE OF YOUR LOVE AND ATTENTION THAT YOU ARE GIVING HER. NOW YOU NEED TO BE A MAN AND TELL HER THE TRUTH THAT IS SHE LOVES YOU SHE NEEDS TO BE FAITHFUL TO YOU AND COMPLETELY GIVE UP THE PAST BOYFRIEND. BUT IF SHE IS NOT WILLING TO THEN I ADVISE THAT YOU MUST KEEP YOUR SELF RESPECT AND SELF ESTEEM BY DUMPING HER. JUST HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH HER. LEAD A LIFE OF A STRONG INDIVIDUAL NOT A WEAK MAN. SHOW HER THAT YOU ARE STRONG NOT WEAK BY YOUR DECISIONS. I DO NOT MEAN TO SAY THAT U TAKE A DRASTIC STEP..JUST BE STRAIGHT FORWARD WITH HER AND MOREOVER I DO NOT REALLY FEELS THAT SHE LOVES YOU SHE IS JUST SATISFYING HER EMOTIONS BY SAILING IN TWO BOATS AND I TELL YOU SHE IS ENJOYING IT.... REGARDS, CLIFFORD ...CLIFFORD_COOKE@YAHOO.CO.IN
2007-02-22 20:45:24 · answer #1 · answered by clifford_cooke 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think this is going to be very hard on both of you. I congratulate her for being honest with you. The truth is you and her could be together for the next 20 years but she will always love him more and she will always at any given chance to be with him...leave you. Your best bet is to tell her that you love her but that you realize she will never be 100% happy with you and end the relationship. This will feel terrible for you...but it will still feel better than knowing she'd rather be some place else and that you are only her #2. It is unfair because I can tell that you love her, but life is hard my friend. Good luck.
2007-02-23 02:14:32 · answer #2 · answered by aprildin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i think maybe she loves u but....reason she still be in contact with that person is long relationship that they had.. u see as u said they had relationship for 9-10 years...its huge...therefore it could be very difficult for her to forget him so easily...ur relationship started a year ago...maybe she now considers him as friend but loves u....u need to relax...& iam damn sure if ur love is 100%, one or another day she will be urs forever... its good that both of u r in same office... now u can know her better and trust me while talkingto her look into her eyes if she loves you u will feel it... dont think that both of u being in same office is tragidy..when it comes to work u must only think about work...and keep faith on urself
2007-02-23 02:33:24 · answer #3 · answered by nitin s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see it upon u
u have to react according to situation and what ur heart say
if i was in place of u i would say to her " go to ur true love " and forgot her love and be friend with her and if u r her true love than she will come back
and i know u would not able to handle it but face the reality and let them be happy atleast it will serve happiness to two lifes
2007-02-23 03:43:42 · answer #4 · answered by kamal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK SHE IS TRUE,BUT FRIEND WE SHOULD NOT BELIVE ANY ONCE WORDS,U KNOW IT TAKES A WHOLE LIFETIME TO KNOW ABT ANYONE,UR DECESION ON BELIVING WAS WRONG,SHE CANT MARRY TWO,I THINK U SHOULD LEAVE HER,BCOZ HIS FIRST boyfriend had a elder relationship than u,she will select him not u,so leave her,she may cheet u once again,leave her and u may find many more in country which u live.
2007-02-23 02:19:53 · answer #5 · answered by prem the luv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact on anshikarawat1992@yahoo.co.in
2007-02-23 02:20:12 · answer #6 · answered by anshika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to get her fire before she gets you fired. she will even sleep with your boss. don't listen to her and keep distance til she get fire. the boss with always be bias for the girls that's why u should get her fired first. nice guys finish last and if your nice to her u'll be sleepin on the streets.
2007-02-23 02:19:35 · answer #7 · answered by Live&Learn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she never fall in love with you .go to in your own way,there is some body made only for you.so just chill.
2007-02-23 02:53:49 · answer #8 · answered by Dighi_143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i dont know its just to much drama but all i can say is go up to her and tell her what youve told us
2007-02-23 02:10:31 · answer #9 · answered by ҉Single Chick~a~Dee҉ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im gonna tell ya da truth .................. u isnt gonna be happy wit sumbody when u kno dat dey luv sumbody mo den dey luv u . u will alwayz be tryin to win dey luv fo u but it isnt gonna work........... u can find sumbody else.......thur is mo fish in da sea.......u will find sumbody dat will luv u da same way dat u luv dem........believe me when i say dat.......... i have been thru it!!!!!
2007-02-23 02:27:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋