HIs Ex is refusing visitation rights, but she has no Problem taking his Money.?

Question

And the courts of that State (PA) will do nothing to assist the father. The Ex wife in question is even having the children call her BF Daddy.
It is agains written laws in the state of PA for this to happen, but the courts repeatedly rule in her favor, tell her "Bad Girl, here's the slap on your hand".


So, My question to you , is this...Seeing as how she is refusing his rights, and the courts are not helping him (AT ALL!)

Do You think He should have to Pay Child Support?

rs that make sense grammatically.
LC, They do have joint custody, but she is completely refusing us. ANd Yoursandmine, this ha been going on for almost 3 years, yes, 3 years since he has gotten to see his children.
Jennifer Anne, you assume I am in the middle of this, I am not,But as ahis wife, and a mother myself, I am involved, but, I am just on the research end. No, the courts and police departments there will do nothing to assist, he has not been allowed to see his children in 3 years. Birthday presents he buys, she says are from her. I am a divorced mother myself, and I could never fathom not allowing my ex to see his kids.
PAradox, how much good does it do when it goes towards her new car payment?Oh, and Mrs Garfield, I did Love Your answer. At this point, I couldn't agree with you more. But I did have to go with a different answer.

Answer 1

That's a two-edged sword. If the mother isn't keeping to her part of the bargain (visitation rights), the father is entitled to reduce or withhold child support - but then he might be hurting his kids.

If I were you, I'd invest $50 bucks in a session with a good divorce/custody attorney, who should be able to help you out.

Answer 2

Paying child support is an obligation of the non-custodial parent. No matter how big of a pain the ex-whatever may or may not be. I would suggest getting another lawyer. And maybe getting joint custody or full custody of the children. As the father he does have rights and he needs someone to fight for them....it may be an uphill battle, but it is his children and worth the time, effort and money. Don't give up. I know of a case in PA where the father actually won full custody of a 14 yr old girl because of junk with an ex....it took time, patients and money, but it did work out in the end. hang in there...good luck

Answer 3

First, why are you inquiring if this is a problem he has?
That said....
Yes he has to pay child support. It is his child's right to recieve child support. If he stops paying it, he will be violating his child's rights, a court order, and screwing his chances of ever havign her held accountable for her actions.

It is also his child's right to see and know his father. Keep filing contempt charges when she refuses to allow visitation.

Most police departments will enforce court orders if you have signed, certified copies. Take the order wiht him next time and arrange with teh police to go with him to get his child. That way they can enforce it and if she isnt there, an incident report can be filed and you will have proof she was not where she was supposed to be.

Email, email, email. Do not communicate on the phone or in person. Do everythign you can by email.

NOT YOU--HIM. You have to stay out of it. Period. Unfortunately, you will do nothign but take a bad situation into a worse one.

I am including links to co-parenting and step parenting web sites. Check them out. It is really important to this child that yall do everythign with his/her interestes at heart.

Answer 4

you both need to step back and give it time she will come around she is probably doing it out of spite because u are both happy ! Yes he should pay child support because he did have the children with her so is his responsibility ! Maybe he can go to court and arrange his payments be made in school fees or in someone to the kids knowing she doesn't have a say in how the money is spent ... then he will feel better about paying it ! and maybe sometimes its easier for your relationship if you say to him . I love you and I know its your life but its between you and the mother of your children and just let them to work it out allow him to go see the kids minus you so she doesn't get upset etc .and maybe in time she will see that he is trusting and she will share them with there daddy ! good luck to you all remember always that children deserve a daddy and a mummy that love them ! and they are not just a object to be fought !!

Answer 5

the child support is for the child the father has the right to go to court anytime he feel like it if he want vistitation he need to say why but as i understand it you live in another state and the kids live with their mom also you cant question the kids to see if they are call her bf daddy the old say is if you play you pay good luck

Answer 6

Child support is for the welfare of his children not a reward or punishment for his ex. Pay the support payments the children need it.

As for her there may not be much he can do but continue to take her to court. so sorry, wish you luck with this.

Answer 7

Should he have to? no. Does he have to? yes, or risk getting arrested. I am assuming that he has a court order for visitation? If yes, then he definitely needs a better lawyer (and yes, no one can afford them, but sounds like he needs a good one).

Answer 8

I agree with Cindy Lu-

"Child support is for the welfare of his children not a reward or punishment for his ex."

Answer 9

realisticly yes he should, although it is not right, and the courts should be doing somthing generally they dont, so he will be stuck paying

Answer 10

Couldn't he get set visitation days and vacation schedules?
That's what they have in Michigan.