I taught my son some ninjitsu after he was being bullied at school. I am high ranked at ninjitsu and taught him some advanced tactics and moves. Anyway he hospitalised a child after school the other day. Who fault is it? Mine for teaching him? His for doing it? Or the bully for bullying him?
2007-02-22 17:53:51 · 25 answers · asked by jonathonspanks 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Well considering your son may end up in jail it's your fault. The first practice of martial arts is not to fight in the first place, and if you were smart you would of only taught him basic defensive tactics. The bully could of been dealt with in other ways, if you are being serious you are a very irresponsible parent and will likely lose custody of your child to the state.
2007-02-22 17:59:54 · answer #1 · answered by tylw85 4 · 2⤊ 4⤋
I totally agree with CJ.
I'm in Taekwondo and I have been in many self defense classes. So If I beat someone up who's to blame? My masters? No. I think it was totally right of you to teach your son defense. I know the second my children are old enough they will be in TKD. If the bully started it, it really should be his fault, not your sons. Boys will be boys. When a fight starts neither is going to back down until someone gets hurt because they're usually considered a wimp if they do. It's sad but it is very, very true. You should talk to your son and ask him if there was any other way he could have handled the situation, and if there wasn't - Did he have to go so far that he had to have him hospitalized? A few simple locks and holds can prevent him from actually hurting someone. Maybe you should teach him those for next time. :) Hope I helped you!!
2007-02-23 02:13:39 · answer #2 · answered by Laura787 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would put an equal split on all three of you. You taught your son some tactics that were probably a little too powerfull for him. Your son didn't stop when the bully was not gonna be able to fight any more. The bully was picking on your son, possibly hurting him, and starting fights.
2007-02-26 22:25:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's great that you taught your son to stand up for himself. I have two step kids that I am looking at putting in martial arts to teach them self control, self esteem and self respect. I think you need to work on your son's self esteem more then his skills in fighting. If he can stand up for himself it will do him so much better then if he can beat another child down. My step-son learned bullying and he stopped once a child stood up to him and said no and put him back in his place. I believe the other child told him that No he will not accept him treating him that way, and if he did it again, he would tell all the teachers and make sure his parents found out so he would be in so much trouble, he never would do it again. He ran home to tell us about how he was being a bully and what the kid said and apologized. Since then the school hasn't had a problem since, and since he has made many friends by working on being nice to them.
2007-02-23 02:09:23 · answer #4 · answered by breannejk 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's great that you taught him how to stand up for and protect himself, but did you also teach him to only use it when the situation demands it? Or to respect others? or when to stop? or how about trying NOT to fight in the first place? if you didn't include all (or any) of this stuff in your "lesson" then yeah, you are at fault. Because a bully is going to be a bully, that is his/her parents problem. And yes your son did the fighting, but YOU taught him, maybe he got the wrong impression from your lesson, like he might've thought that you WANTED him to go and fight the guy. It's not your fault for teaching him, but it is your fault for not teaching him everything. But it the rare case that you did include that mentioned above in what you taught him, then you need to have another talk with your kid, because that would mean that he too is now turning into a bully.
2007-02-23 03:23:24 · answer #5 · answered by Confused & Young 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think it is your fault. You know he was being bullied, and you taught him to fight, so you must of know something like that was coming. But, dont feel bad. The other kid should not of been bulling him in the first place!!
2007-02-25 15:56:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those who are not ninjas are to blame for messing with a ninja.my brother taught my nephew some ninjitsu skills, of course this backfired in another way, he is now very stealthy and especailly difficult to find around bath time.He climbs a lot more now and does a lot of jumping out of trees.
2007-02-23 04:03:52 · answer #7 · answered by Richard J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son was pushed twice and then punched in the chest and after the punch he clocked the kid in the eye and the kid had to go to the hospital for stitches. Ready for this? The kid that started it didn't get in trouble and my son was either to be expelled or drop from school and try to enroll somewhere else. They blamed it on my son completely, and personally it was in my eyes self-defense, but because he is a big kid and has had lots of other little things he has done prior, they just put it on him.
2007-02-23 02:04:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is good you taught your son some defense tactics. I wish my dad had done it for me.
The warrior is responible for his own actions. From Word to fist it is always his choice.
Did you teach him that peace is the best way?
Did he do it to show off or was his life really in danger at thirteen I really dought if any kid really has to fight . There are ways to deal with it at school.
But as we all know in the real world sometimes we have no choice.
Good luck,
peace
lr
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2007-02-23 02:06:14 · answer #9 · answered by sapboi 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I know it sounds politically incorrect but good for you. That kid will probably never bully him again - your son stuck up for himself. Your son is the one who put the kid ;in hospital, so your son is responsible, but who can blame him if he is sick to death of being a push over for bullies. I don't believe that any of the fairy floss policies for dealing with bullying works in our schools & that is why bullying (&kids) are getting out of hand. I'm with you on this one.
2007-02-23 05:34:50 · answer #10 · answered by Mishell 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋