my boyfriend is a very contorl person he will alway in my personal bussiness alway.. i mean like im just a teen girl i like to dress how i like ... and he will alway get on me on this kinda stuff... but that okay though we work that out ... the problem right now is he hated one of my best guyfriend and i cant take that... i care about this this friend so much r even more than him!! friend relationship is stronger!! im sorry but that is how i feel .. and i dont want to lose my boyfriend ... he shouldnt be jealous at my guyfriend we r just friend... some time my guyfriend will talk silly to me but though is just like friend so what can i tell him?? he dont trust me.. i really do care about him so much and i want him to understand that my guyfriend may flirt with me but is all friend... there is nothing else ... i would never ever think of my guyfriend like that ... im in a relationship i dont cheat! what can i do?? girls if u have this kinda problem? what did u do about this?? THANK! =]
2007-02-22 17:53:27 · 11 answers · asked by Syn . 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First and foremost you are too young to be dealing with so many issues. Tell your boyfriend to either get with the program or to kick rocks. Really...you shouldn't have to decide between your boyfriend and your best friend. Personally I think that your best guy friend should respect the fact you are in a relationship and not flirt with you...but he wouldn't be flirting with you if you weren't receptive to his flirting. Flirting can be very innocent, but you need to think for a moment how you would feel if your boyfriend was flirting with his female friend. No matter what though, your boyfriend is not your father and shouldn't be telling you what to wear, how to look, and whom to be friends with. This is a very serious issue, that normally turns into domestic violence or worse. If I was you, I would dump the jealous man and be young and have FUN!!!! Good luck sweetie
2007-02-22 18:03:48 · answer #1 · answered by aprildin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you say :"i care about this this friend so much r even more than him!! friend relationship is stronger!! " that is the problem.
If your boyfriend flirt with another girl just like your guyfriend did to you... what will you think and feel? Put yourself into him position, and you will feel what he feels...
You might not into this guyfriend, but how about this guyfriend? Are you sure he is "just friend"?
I have seem many many cases in this forum - friends in love with friends....
And it will depends on how you judge the relationship, who is more important? Did you over flirt with this guyfriend? Do you need just friends or you need a boyfriend?
To me, jealous is way of love...
Good luck...
2007-02-23 02:05:45 · answer #2 · answered by BB2791 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, here is the deal:
Tell your boyfriend to chill. It sounds blunt, and it might take courage to say it, but perhaps it is what is needed to be said. If he really loved you, he would trust you.
Trust me on this: I was kinda with a very controlling, violent guy, and when he got controlling or angry, I had to take a deep breath and tell him that he was wrong and that he needed to cool it instead of blowing his own head off. (This was said in different ways, and usually nicer ones, lol, but that was the point.) Yeah, he'd get angry with me at the time, but just today he told me that he liked me because I didn't take his crap, among other things. Because I decided to stand up to him for what I believed was right, deep inside he respected me for it.
Also, tell the other guy that he needs to quit flirting with you, even if it doesn't really mean anything. It is disrespectful to your boyfriend, even if he shouldn't get all angry about it.
Good luck! :)
2007-02-23 02:03:02 · answer #3 · answered by Drinking from a broken glass.... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why does your boyfriend mistrust you? if hes controling it could get worse... just be careful... and you shouldnt give up such a great friendship for just one guy... if he doesnt understand how you feel about your guyfriend then you either tell him straight out that hes just a friend and if he still believe you, then he doesnt trust you...it means that he doesnt know the real you and hes not worth staying with...
2007-02-23 01:57:54 · answer #4 · answered by Marsha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen thats not right, he trats you sooooo wrong! because I saw your boyfriend talking to this girl he knows and he shares intimate experiences and has a special relationship with her that you wouldn't understand. Sure she flirts with him a lot and he loves the attention, but you shouldnt mind cause you do the same thing right? Gimme a break duh its not rocket science, guys dont like other guys talking to their girl period....and the same goes for girls just the reasons behind them are different.
2007-02-23 02:03:44 · answer #5 · answered by knowledge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how much you treasure friendship and let him know that you also care for him. Make him trust your words and good luck.
2007-02-23 01:57:09 · answer #6 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore hm, or just talk things out calmly. Get a one of those doc to help u!
2007-02-23 01:56:51 · answer #7 · answered by vvn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that suckss
ive been through that
just tell your boyfriend that you love him to much to cheat
and he is JuST your friend and thats all he will ever be
and tell your boy friend that if he loves you enough he will trust you
2007-02-23 01:56:56 · answer #8 · answered by ceceee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave you boyfriend because if he doesn't trust there can't be any kind of relationship.
2007-02-23 01:56:53 · answer #9 · answered by true-mysteryfrom chinese wish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you want 2 penis at same time.. HAhHahahaa! that's a good one!
2007-02-23 05:27:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋