I really need to sort my life out? ideas please?

Question

I have been down for quite a long time and its affecting my progress at uni.

I have never been to two of my courses, (i always procrastinate, when i have to go in) I feel nauseated and often have painful stomach upsets (sometimes i vomit) , when i contemplate whether i should go to uni or not.

Everytime i miss uni, my family verbal and psychologicaly abuse me.

im seriously going mess up this year if i dnt sort myself out.

Im trying to get counselling or anti depressants whatever sorts me out.

I need help, What should i do? Can i get any help? What i do i say?

Serious answers please

Answer 1

Take a break from school for a little while. You need to get yourself in a mentally better space before you can excel at school and really get the most out of it. Continuing to try going every day, and not being able to, then feeling guilty about, then your family being mean to you... that just worsens the problem. It's like a daily reminder of how crappy you're feeling and a daily dose of low-self esteem.

Talk to the dean at school if you are failing. Explain your situation and show that you are seeking help. Do seek some counseling and medication (if your doctor thinks you should do so)

You can get through this but you need to simplify your life a bit right now so you can feel better! Cut out some of the stress. It's horrible when you know you're capable of doing the work, but you are failing simply because you can NOT get to class.

I have been there. Taking a break is worth it. When you get yourself stable and happy you will do well in school and get so much more out of it!

Answer 2

First make an appointment with your GP they can give you anti -depressants if you need them and get a counsellor for free. you could try the uni counsellor if you have some they take a few days to see, then you usually have five hour sessions and then decide if you want any more. Try to find out if E counselling is an option at your uni too then if you don't want to you don't have to see someone you can just e mail them when you need to talk- no commitment. Make sure you get lost of support family, friends, charities ie Samaritans, talk to people on this sight and other depression chat rooms. don't feel you are alone that is the worst thing you can do and it is very common especially to people at uni, i started in sep and got depression in November, it was a big shock but i am getting through it and uni is going back to normal. please get help!! the best of luck to you.

Answer 3

Write down every single aspect of your life that worries you.

Make a pact with yourself that you will do everything you possibly can to change the things that you can and the things that you cant - you have to accept that you cant and move on.

This is what i do when life gets me down and i can feel that ugly black cloud decending over my head again.

Sometimes feeling low and stressed is just your bodies way of telling you that you need to stop, do something different, take time out for you and try to relax.

Think less about the things you cant control and take pride in the things that you do no matter how small.

Dont waste your time looking for meaning and purpose cause you will never find what you are looking for.

Just enjoy being you and appreciate that you are unique and special.

Think - im gonna make my life better for me - and contribute positive step to forfilling that dream!

That what im doing - im on medication for depression and anxiety and i refuse to let this illness win and take control of my life - if you need to talk mail me

((( big hugs and good luck!))))

Answer 4

Dont waste any time get some help quick you are creating more problems by procrastinating. Tell someone professional at school you need some help. They can grant you extensions until you feel better but you have to tell them you have a problem. Right now it appears like skipping with no reason. The bills will come flying at you so fast it will make your head spin. Dont dwell on it do something Today! Because you are going to have huge debt and regret not finishing your schooling later. Trust me..thats where I am right now!

Answer 5

Snap out of it.
I think you will find that the more you go to Uni the better you will feel there.
I used to have a phobia about calling people I didn't know on the phone. Then my job forced me into a position where I had to do it all the time. What happened? It got easier... Every now and then I get a twinge of butterflys - but it soon goes.

Your family are upset because you are wasting time and money by not going to Uni.

If you did not want to go you should have got a job straight from college.

Don't waste anymore time - life is shorter than people think.

It's time to hold your head up - and take things one day at a time.

You have a lot of things to do! Job, Wife, Kids, Mortgage, etc etc.

I suggest you get started. Go to uni and get your qualification. Hopefully you will get a highly paid job and support your future family easily.

Good Luck.... Be strong . ... It will get easier.

Answer 6

It sounds as if you are avoiding classes because of anxiety. The only way to get better is to face it and do what you are afraid of. You will feel so much better about yourself. Also, find some supportive people - therapist, friends, whatever. Parents aren't always what we wish they could be, but realize their opinions are just opinions -- it doesn't mean you are a loser or not worthwhile. Best wishes.

Answer 7

Take time out, even if you get aggro from the family, do it for your self. You are under too much pressure and it could be dangerous for your mental health. Good Luck.Don't think of it as the end of the world ,it isn't education is for life not just for uni

Answer 8

First, Family abuse huh, well let that go you are already out of the house right if not get out, and do you r thing.

Two, meditate, just chill and let your mind see whats right for a while, quitely. Then acctually do. Take a small step and you will see how good it will make you feel to acctually acomplish things. After that you will be alright. Just remember to apply, and meditate to clear out the rubish in your mind.


YOUR MIND

Answer 9

It sounds like you need to detox from the abuse both from your family and also the abuse you are doing to yourself by "shoulding" all over yourself. Be kind to yourself and surround yourself with people who want to support you in finding out what you really need to feel safe and happy. Your body is trying to detox from all the toxins. Give yourself time and space. This is a gift that only you can give yourself.

Answer 10

What do you really want in your life? Decide on some goals for yourself, then plan a course that will take you there. Stay positive in your daily steps toward your goals. Make sure it is what you want for yourself and not just what others want for you. When you are working for goals that you want ,it will all go smoother. You are not going to please everyone, so please yourself. It is your life, not theirs. and dont be afraid to fail. Failing is not the end, it is just a bump in the road to success. Know yourself, and run with your strengths. all you desire is yours, but for the price of effort. The more effort you put in, the greater the rewards.