Ok, my question is: If you already have someone who loves you and cares about you, why do you get scared and run away from it? Why do you have to find someone else when you already have what you are looking for?
How come the person you already have isn't good enough, if you loved them then something was right. true? So why give up on it and throw it all away because your scared and then go look for it again, so you can run from it again? Why can't you be happy with the person that you are with, if they love you and care about you, shouldn't that be good enough? I just recently went threw this and i feel like im not good enough, i'm not enough. It's like my love and care for him didn't matter. So if you could please just tell me why when you already love someone, you have to go look for something that you already have. It would help alot & thanks.
2007-02-22 17:17:51 · 14 answers · asked by linderlou2006 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I take it you were on the receiving end of one of these?
In short, many younger guys don't want the commitment. They want to be free to sleep with whomever they choose. It takes a while to get that out of their system. They feel they need to live life before settling down. Younger guys tend to treasure their freedom above all else.
Of course that's a generality and not indicative of all men. But most guys 25 and under probably fit into that category.
2007-02-22 17:26:47 · answer #1 · answered by PhosRik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because people always want something that they cant have. its not just men, women do it to. a lot more young people (people under 30) are wanting to enjoy life more and focus on there careers first then worry about everything else. love, marriage, and family isnt that same as it was 10 or 15 years ago. it also came along with woman's rights. Men feel threatend by women now days. other that that men can be very stupid and half the time they dont even realize what they have done until they have already done it.
2007-02-23 01:24:15 · answer #2 · answered by Andrea 14369 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The hard truth in this is it wasn't true. Its not that a man will run from something that was "perfect" for himself in the love department. If he ran than there was a good reason for it and stands to reason he was not the one for you. There is nothing you as a person can do for that, it is just something that happens. Perhaps someday you will find a better understanding of why and you may even look at it as a blessing. Love is not easy, thats for sure.
-NmD!
2007-02-23 01:23:04 · answer #3 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a guy, I can't give you a conclusive answer as to why other guys do this.
While I've never really had a woman love and care about me, and therefore never had the opportunity to "run away from them", I believe that I wouldn't do this.
However, guys who have more luck with women may wish to continue "playing the field" and worry that getting involved in a deep, meaningful, relationship would prevent them from doing so.
2007-02-23 01:27:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is only my own experience...
I find women are not that attracted to me while I am single and looking.
But I find someone (finally) and lo and behold, half the women out there are suddenly interested too (and I mean interested !!!).
I am not joking, this happens every time, within DAYS.
So what's a guy to do, been lonely for years and all of a sudden he can pick and choose, what would you do?
The good news is that later on, as the relationship settles down, this problem goes away.
But that's just me.
2007-02-23 01:23:58 · answer #5 · answered by netthiefx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi....
This question depends upon what kind of relationship the guy shares with the girl.If its a relationship based on true love and trust guys are less often willing to go and seek the company of another woman.
Many guys` girlfriends dont wanna go to bed with them and make love so....this is one main reason that they`ll look for more open women who are willing for one night stands.
As for me......I m in love with this girl and she loves me very much too.And theres not a chance of betrayal or mistrust between us.But many guys wont be like me.Its all in the chemistry that exisits among them that matters
2007-02-23 01:27:22 · answer #6 · answered by the_stunner>>> 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the reason is because he thinks he's not good enough for you. If he really loves you than he just wants you to be with someone who is better than him. I know that because I do the same thing.
2007-02-23 01:28:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should buy the audio tape Men are from Mars and Woman are from Venus. It has more stuff about woman then men but you'll find it very helpful in the way men think. Especially why we pull away. I totally started to understand woman much better and what I was doing wrong.
2007-02-23 01:21:46 · answer #8 · answered by Jackel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well have ya heard the saying the grass is greener on the other side? this applies to all things. as a guy i have to say that its not a community effort to ruin woman. although i need not say that we have all thought of it. love is not blood or spaghetti sauce, it doesn't stain your clothes or exist materially. when you think you see it the other may not. as unfortunate as it may be, the word love is used for many reasons more than its intended meaning. i feel that your lesser half has set you free, now spread your wings and be gone....
2007-02-23 01:30:06 · answer #9 · answered by makmachine2000 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have had three women do that to me. I would like to know the answer to that one. I think it is because they did the exciting bit and now it has worn off. Sounds like he wants to start courting againe so he can get the excitment back.
2007-02-23 01:26:40 · answer #10 · answered by jcbstuart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋