Why is my husband so tired all the time?

Question

I'm not sure what to do anymore but I'm to edge and about to fall off. My husband and I have been married for two years and he never really had a solid job before we got together. He works for a mill driving a truck now but he's home every night at about 4:30. Can I include that we've just bought a house, have a newborn who's 1 month old and a 3 year old boy. The whole time I've been on maternity leave he comes in from work, changes his clothes, lays in the recliner or gets him something to eat. I've been with our kids for 2 months straight at home and I'm fine with that but... I had to literally make him get up and feed the baby and he's now got to the point that he goes to bed at 8:30 or 9:00 and of course after I've been here with them all day leaves me to get both of them to sleep. I'm fed up! I go back to work next week and I'm the only one who cleans, washes clothes and dishes and picks up after everyone and does the majority with the kids. He says he's so tired.What do I ?

Answer 1

start with talking to him, Explain how you feel and try to sound unjudgemental even though your really want to just slap him around. If he feels like he's helping you maybe he'll respond better then just doing chores because they're nessecary (some people are too stupid to realise they're nessecary) if that doesn't work, stop washing his clothes or the dishes he uses, let him cook for himself and make his own lunches. I know it might get kinda gross for a while but your not his maid and he should definatly help you with the household chores.

Answer 2

Maybe he sufferers from fatigue or a thyroid issue, instead of berating him you should be looking into medical help. Maybe he is depressed and needs help, it does manifest itself physically. Yes you are the backbone to this family, right now it's he who needs support even though you are doing the brunt of the labor. Once you go to work who will be watching the kids? It's also possible he just needs a break, a vacation, yes having a newborn is stressing for a mother, but many forget the silent father. Talk with your husband, don't argue with him. Try to find the real reason behind his being tired and see if there's something that you can do to help him. You have two kids, you both are in this for the long run, best to try to be happy while you are. Good Luck and God Bless.

Answer 3

I am currently going through this but my son is one and my husband has been tired all year. I am a stay at home mom like yourself but you need at least a two hour window of "me Time" whether it is to take a bath or a nap. I told my husband he must do something, he went to the family doctor and he is being treated for depression, anxiety, and he has sleep apnia. I am not making excuses cause trust me my husband and I fought everyday over his lack of involvement especially when I would not disturb him for 9 hours to ensure him sleep. Sometimes it is medical. We also just bought a house, and were displaced from Hurricane Katrina while I was 6 months pregnant so I had a notion that he was severely depressed and over whelmed with being the bread winner and taking care of a family.

Answer 4

What time does he get up in the morning? If he works 8 hours a day and gets home at 4:30 he probably starts work kind of early.

Taking a nap when he gets home could solve the problem and give him a little more energy at night. Plus, recent studies have shown that taking a nap in the afternoon actually improves health and can prevent problems later in life.

If he's really tired when he gets home the idea of taking a nap should appeal to him. Encouraging him to take nap when he gets home could solve your problems with him at night.

Answer 5

Im not sure how to answer this because this is a normal routine that ALOT of women go through daily. I know because I go through it myself. The woman has always had the most "parenting responsibilities".

I don't know how to advise you to get this to stop, maybe let him know you need some time to yourself and for him to care for the baby some.

It's just Ive seen this and done this for 10 years now so It's a "normal" routine here I just adapted to it along with my full time outside the home job.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

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Answer 8

well i don'tagree 100% with his behavior but he could be overworked
cuz u have a 3 yr old and a newborn
and cost of formula and stuff
is alot
and to boot he is a labor worker and that doesn'tmake alot of money so he i putting more work in to get more pay
to support the babies

Answer 9

SOUNDS LIKE MY HUBBY BEDTIME AND ALL...WE JUST FOUND OUT THE HE HAS SEVERE SLEEP APNIA (IN THE SPAN OF AN HOUR HE STOPS BREATHING 60 TIMES)...I WOULD SEE YOUR FAMILY DOCTOR ABOUT GETTING HIM CHECKED OUT...ITS NOT HIS FAULT...TRY NOT TO GET ANGRY WITH HIM...I INCLUDED A GOOD LINK SO YOU CAN READ UP ON IT. HE IS PROBABLY NEVER EVEN GETTING REM SLEEP CAUSE HE KEEPS JERKING HIMSELF AWAKE. WHICH IS WHY HE IS SO TIRED ALL THE TIME.

Answer 10

I had one like that...I divorced him....been happy for 15 years now