Does it really hurt that bad the first time for a 12 year old girl?

Question

I'm just wondering. No lectures. Please, I'm a smart girl and I know all the dangers.

Answer 1

I would assume so. 12 is very young, and you body is not physically matured for sex at that age. It would be best to wait until you were older. I'm glad you are informed on the consequences, and hope you make the right decision : )

Answer 2

Okay, you said no lectures so I'll try and refrain. As far as weather it will hurt or not, all I can say is that I lost my virginity at 19 and while it wasn't painful, it was uncomfortable. I was lucky in that my boyfriend and I had been together for a long time and he was gentle and made sure that we had an open communication the entire time. He went slow and kept checking to be sure that I was comfortable. Here's the thing: I don't believe sex should ever have to be painful. I think that happens when the girl is doing for the sake of the guy and isn't concerned about her own enjoyment. Sex is something both people should enjoy. I also can't believe I'm talking about this with a 12 year old. I believe that you are a smart girl. I also know that smart people are capable of making less than perfect decisions. (I'm smart and I've made more than my share.) I didn't wait until marriage to have sex for the first time. I'm fine with that. But I did wait until I found a partner I trusted and thought I could have a future with. ( 9 years later and we're still together by the way.) I also know that that is not the norm and that I got lucky. But if it hadn't worked out, I was still ready. B/c I waited until I felt I was ready and was sure that it was something I wanted to do. I'm worried that you may be doing this for someone else and not yourself. In fact, when I was 12 I had no desire to have sex. Just be careful and realize that having sexual feelings doesn't mean that the next step is sex. I really hope you rethink your decision and that you have someone you can talk to about this openly. Your first time only happnes once. It won't make a relationship stronger and in fact makes things more complicated. And that's okay as long as you're prepared to handle all that goes along with the very adult issues having sex entails. If you do go through wih it, please educate yourself and be sure he uses a condom. Also look in to bitrth control. In an ideal world I don't think kids should be having sex, but I also know that education and preparedness can prevent STDs and kids having kids. Look in to planned parenthood for help. Best of luck with whatever you decide.

Answer 3

you say no lectures, and that you are smart. You also say that you know all the dangers. Well if you know all the dangers, then why do you need to ask this question? I ain't gonna lecture you, because i am only fifteen myself (and proud to be a virgin), but i will say that just saturday i met this girl that was 13 with a little boy. He was cute, but because of her having a child at such a young age, she couldn't finish school or anything like that. She doesn't regret having her son, but she did say that she regretted having sex. She also informed me, that it was her first time. All it takes, is ONE time. She now has to wait some 5 years to go back to school so that she can even finish middle school! Now, since you are smart, i will ask you a question; Is it really worth the risk?

Answer 4

Well, if you're that smart you'll know it's NOT cool to be contemplating sex while you are still an underdeveloped child and yes, it really CAN hurt that bad.

If it's giving birth you're talking about then absolutely it can not only hurt it is downright dangerous, girls under 15 are nowhere near fully mature and are 5 to 6 times more likely to die in childbirth than a woman in her 20's, and so are their babies. If you became pregnant you will have to have specialist obstetric care as this would be deemed an extremely high risk pregnancy.

Plus - whoever you have sex with will be breaking the LAW. I am sure you'd want your boyfriend in jail??

Answer 5

Its different for all girls. But, let me just say, I know you say you are smart and don't need lectures, but in all reality, if you were that smart, you'd realize that if you're worried enough about the pain to be asking the question, then you are NOT ready to have sex. When you are ready, and the time is right, it will happen, and you won't be worried about the pain. And, if you're 12, then hopefully that won't be for years to come. I know you don't think this now, but you are just a child. Slow down!

Answer 6

Depends on if you think labor will hurt. A 12 year old can't even get a job much less contemplate caring full time for a child, it happens and if you aren't capable of supporting yourself with your middle school education then you shouldn't do it. And by all means I hope it hurts so you might not do it until you're old enough to understand what you're doing. If you were smart you wouldn't post this in yahoo answers and expect not to get a lecture.

Answer 7

what in the hell are you thinking? you dont have a clue of all the dangers and smart is not a word i would use for you right now. smart would be concentrating on your education and being the very best YOU can be. you dont see it yet because you are so young but you will realize when you are older that women have it very hard in this world. and the thought of you getting pregnant and not having a formal education will say volumes to your future child. NOT a good example if you even care. you get you straight. your hormones are a wreck right now at 12. figure yourself out and get to know and love who you are and what you want to become before you even think about messing your life up having sex. there are way tooooo many myths out there that too many young girls fall victim to when it comes to sex. please hold off. if you are as smart as you say you are, dont contemplate sex for a good while yet.

Answer 8

I understand why you don't want lectures but, I think 12 is too young for a "first time" to begin with....my first time was 23, it hurt and I knew what to expect....I would assume that it would be more painful at 12.

But as a mother of a 9 yr old --- please think twice about it...there are too many girls starting at such a young age and regretting it later on.

Answer 9

Yes. It hurts worse than anything out there. Maybe not so bad when you have sex, but the next day or week when you realize you've been USED as a sex toy! Emotional pain doesn't go away with an IB Profen either. Perhaps the childbirth pain will go away with a pain killer though... but you could TEAR in labor (yes, your ******)... something to think about.
There - that's how it is!

Please, for your own sake, don't make a dumb choice!

God bless you!

Answer 10

sure does. 19 year old girl. o it hurts alright. for the first about 10 times. it actually hurts more for a 12 year old who is not fully developed.