My husbands family think he's spare part's : question once again.?

Question

My husband is a P.V.A. (product of violent assault) child who's mother got raped and had him to give him up for adoption.
Under Ca. Law adopting parents must be informed of is P.V.A. status under the full disclosure laws at the time, that said he did not get adopted and was a ward of state growing up until he join Navy!

His mother ask by third party if he would donate bone marrow 8 yrs. ago , so he did , then again through 3rd party ask if he would again give bone marrow, and once again he did, and we paid our end of procedure 6yrs ago. 5 years ago he was ask to donate skin by his mother through 3rd party and he did took it around the waist he joked instead tummy tuck. Now once again through 3rd party he's been asked to give part of his liver for a sibling and he has agreed but my husband has problems eating animal protein so he eats very little meat and has to take these horrible protein horse pills twice a day that make him sick , and has many side effect as well. --- part 2.

e must take tablets for at least 60 days before transplant.
I am a Christian woman and love and support my husband and have done so for almost 13 yrs. ( he's 6 yrs.younger) my second marriage his first. I really can't stand seeing my husband sick like this all the time and it's been only 2 weeks now. I'm grateful to his mother for not aborting him because he has been my life scene's I met him. I love him with all my heart and we are finally going to have a family of our own so I would like a family history but his mother wont send information on his family history. My husband can give skin bone marrow , and now a portion of his Liver and this woman wont send a basic family history! I'm so angry that I have had very harsh words with 3rd party who is a family member and told her to stop coming to my husband for body parts. The DR. who is seeing him has taken of medication witch means the transplant must be delayed or canceled if not responding to medical care! ------Look for part 3

His family has said horrible things about him because the DR. has a taken him off the drugs and they think it's retaliation for what I said to 3rd party! None of this is true, he's a good person he donates his time to homeless shelter, he give to charity's, he's good and decent & honest. Even after everything he's been through as a child he's my best friend (he tell me that everyday) and I love him for saying it.
I really don't want him to go back on pills ,but if he doesn't he might not be able to do transplant, and my husband feels he owes something to family, but I say he's paid more then his share. I know this is selfish but I really love what I have and want to keep him safe. I know it not Christan thing to say but if they see him for only SPARE PARTS then they can go to hell. What to do I keep praying and asking for help and forgiveness My husband has bent over backwards to help these people. P.V.A. a child MARKED like that god forgive me I hate them all.

Have a wonderful paster she's fantastic!
I would like to clear something up though, my husband goes to my church with me because I go, he does not believe in organized religion . He believes in faith and if you want to call that Christianity then so be it, he says , but he goes to church with me and I'm very proud to call him my husband!
He says he wants to help because he would be giving something positive to a negative situation and does not blame his mother for what she did.
I'm sorry if I lead you astray I'm really upset but understand my husband wishes. I just want to be able to have a children, and grow old with the man I love so much.
We have been through allot and have always been each others best supporter and I would not do anything to hurt that!

I just need to know am I being selfish, not to lose husband?
Jesus says render on to Cesar what is Cesar, and render onto God what is gods, but he's the love of my life.

Answers please and pray

Thank you & god bless you all!

Answer 1

Enough is enough Your husband must think of his own health and family before he give anymore undeserved considration to these people who are only family by blood and not acting like family at all they will continue to take advantage of him when he in fact owes them nothing. Make him see this and stop endangering his health for people that clearly do not care about him and never did care about him. I pray God will let him see the truth of that and spare himself more grief. He needs to cut these leeches loose

Answer 2

ok your question was so long i didnt finish reading it yet but girl i am telling you i can't believe that his mother has done such a thing. I can understand her going through a third party to contact him the first time because sometimes children dont want contact between the biological parents. he should have refused when she contacted again through a third party i cant believe the gall of some people i would be very upset. as for your husband taking medication that is making him sick he needs to quit taking it maybe it's gods way of telling him hey you have done enough for this lady let someone else help this time. GOOD LUCK.

Answer 3

I think he's done enough. I mean they seem to be using him as a Donner shelf. a liver donation can't be a non serious operation. A Family history would be the least of the considerations that should be extended to your husband. make this clear to the third party, i don't think he's under ANY obligation to under go the liver donation at this point. Treatment thus far has been sub-human.

Answer 4

ok your question became see you later i didnt end analyzing it yet yet female i'm telling you i'm no longer able to have self assurance that his mom has accomplished this style of factor. i will comprehend her dealing with a third celebration to touch him the 1st time by way of fact now and back little ones dont want touch between the organic and organic parents. he could desire to have refused while she contacted back by using a third celebration i cant have self assurance the gall of a few human beings i could be very disillusioned. as to your husband taking medicine this is making him ill he needs to give up taking it perchance that is gods way of telling him howdy you have accomplished sufficient for this female enable somebody else help this time. sturdy luck.

Answer 5

'Enough is enough. He has done so much and more already. His first responsibility is to you-his wife. And since the mother has not given a family history for medical reasons for your benefit, she shut the door herself. If he is being asked to give part of his liver, and has given skin and bone already. Is she taking good care of herself? Sorry, but it is time to be there for you. The Bible says "For this cause, shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife, and the two shall become one flesh". I'm glad he is so nice, and generous, but his first responsibilty is to you, and your marriage. I wish you both the best. Take care.