I have to be a jerk to attract and keep women interested but the jerk strategy results in them not wanting a relationship with me because parents wouldn't approve, religion, they're scared, whatever.
So if I have to be a jerk to get the girl, how do I keep her? We all know that women say they want a jerk but they always seem to respong to the jerks. These good girl go for the "jerk" thing I have going and have an emotional attraction to me, but on a logical level, they are wary of getting involved long term...
What to do?
2007-02-22 17:01:20 · 9 answers · asked by arrow h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
be a good guy. dont be an asswhole because then you'll attract asswholes.
dont play game sif your interested in a good girl then tell her that.
2007-02-22 17:12:31 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People say that opposites attract. There may be some truth to that but people are also attracted to those that share similar qualities. So to attract the type of young lady you want become a young man on the same level. Forget that fact that certain young ladies like jerks. What does that have to do with you? Make a DISTINCTION between yourself and the jerks. Be different. The difference between you and the so-called jerks? The jerks have to prove their manhood. They are WORKING at it. The idea for you is to have a quiet confidence, as if you don't have anything to prove to anyone.You don't have to work at it because it comes natural to you. Be yourself. If you are not a 'jerk' don't try to become one. Anyway, if you tried girls would see you as a fake and even a phony hates a phony. You have'nt met the right young lady. Be yourself. There is a proverb that says, 'He tried to be somebody to please everybody which made him a nobody'.
2007-02-22 17:27:22 · answer #2 · answered by LORD BALTIMORE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the most ridiculous strategy I have ever heard of. If you want someone to be attracted to who you really are, you need to be yourself! Pretending to be someone you're not is only going to result in girls being attracted to your fake persona (and this clearly isn't working out for you). Of course they're wary, who wants to spend years in misery with someone who's mean?
I am a nice girl and a great catch too, and I can't stand jerks. I dated a guy for a while who was really nice most of the time and a jerk randomly sometimes (mostly when he was fronting) and that jerk percentage made me lose all interest.
Be confident but not cocky. Girls aren't attracted to jerks, just how they can often come across and cool and confident. I think that girls like guys with an idenitity, and who have figured themselves out, they have a full life and their own interests and aren't going to act like a psycho every time they see you talking to another guy. Pretending to be a jerk and actually being a great guy is going to make girls think that you have some serious unresolved issues and personality conflicts.
Honestly, just be yourself.
2007-02-22 17:11:12 · answer #3 · answered by Snow White 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its the personality of the jerk that attracts us at first. but then if we want a long term relationship, we want a real man and all. im not saying that you suddenly change from jerk to a total change man, you know what i mean? but do some slow changes to keep the girl you want and get the girl's parent approval. keep the jerk thing alive when there's only the two of you...
2007-02-22 17:07:28 · answer #4 · answered by xyne_love 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Best not to play these kind of head games. Be yourself. Love is never on time and besides, youll have to leave the seat down all the time.
Someday youll meet an angel. It will be worth the wait. Guaranteed.
2007-02-22 17:09:33 · answer #5 · answered by rokdude5 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well attract her with your good jerk qualities. Then when she get to your basement don't let out.
2007-02-22 17:05:47 · answer #6 · answered by daboss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can do it, too (put on an act), and I tried it for several years but had the same experience you did (it never worked out), time and again it happened like that.
sux, but just be yourself, don't put on any acts to attract, and let it happen on its own.
2007-02-22 17:11:31 · answer #7 · answered by netthiefx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WTF is up with this 'nice guy' or 'jerk' bullshyt. What made you think that you deserve a good girl? ...you're not even a man yet!!
how do I know??? ..... A man of characters/principles would not even bother to ask this kind of stupid question! A good man will say "Here I am, take it or leave it!!!"
2007-02-22 17:14:47 · answer #8 · answered by hehehe 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think the solution is to be charming without being a jerk...girls dont like jerks ..but jerks tends to know wut to do in order to attract girls eg , being charming , being the social butterflies
2007-02-22 17:08:36 · answer #9 · answered by Cassie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋