the women becomes pregnent -but man parenting is not visible.
2007-02-22 16:47:20 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
This is such a hard question to answer I am trying to figure it out myself. I just had twins about 7 months ago. I am married to a hard working man. He always loved kids, played with them etc. But once we had ours he tells me that he doesn't think that he can give me all that I want. I don't know where our marriage is headed now. He helps with the kids because I make him not because he enjoys it. He doesn't seem compassionate with the kids. It really depends on his moods. One day he is fed up with being a father and the next he is playing with them. I feel he is lazy and very selfish puts his wants before the children's needs. I don't know am I asking to much? Don't think so. So is being a father just supporting your children and giving them all they need when asked for it. Or is it suppose to be freely given unconditionally. Now a days I think fathers should do as much as women. I know they don't have the same motherly instinct but they could try to be involved and curious. I mean if something happened to (you) mothers heaven forbid what would the fathers do with there babies. They should be involved in the every day life of being a parent. Its not just your baby or his baby its both of yours.
2007-02-22 20:35:37 · answer #1 · answered by Vanessa D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about the obvious first. Does the child look like the supposed father? Eyes and ears are a great indicator. Then there is a DNA test, but if the man is in the mother's life still, and trusts her, then why even bother.
Being a dad is much harder then being a father. I would suggest that you focus on that, unless the woman is not in the man's life anymore.
Ken
2007-02-23 00:58:20 · answer #2 · answered by Ken B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
good question. but just because a female gives birth dont make her a mother cause there are too many out there who just are baby making machines and dont care. as far as the dad/father thingy goes well you can ask him . question him on the other females hes been with and all. looks can tell alot, DNA, just ask him 1st of all and if he lies and you find out well he ant much of a man must less a father.
2007-02-23 03:33:00 · answer #3 · answered by willwork4u2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's the point when a man puts his children's best interest before his own good times, when he realizes that raising wise and honest children is the greatest thing he has ever done and when he tells his friends and family all the wonderful little things they do. What's with the thumbs down? It's different for everyone.
2007-02-23 01:00:08 · answer #4 · answered by D'Arcy P 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just because a woman gives birth to a child does not make her a mother. It takes more than giving birth or donating sperm to be a parent. A parent is made by caring for and support a child and or spouse. A father is made by supporting, loving and being there for his children, the same with a mother.
2007-02-23 02:15:14 · answer #5 · answered by tylw85 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Generally if a man has a little crumbsnatcher or anklebiter following him around calling him Daddy, you're good to go on the assumption that he is a father.
If he doesn't then he's just a donor and that doesn't count.
2007-02-23 00:51:24 · answer #6 · answered by Nationalist 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
how he is with the baby/child and the look on his face when he has them near.the loving words he speaks to comfort and sooth the child and making sure his but works every day to put a roof over their head, shoes on their feet, clothes on their back and food on the table
2007-02-23 00:55:53 · answer #7 · answered by Sunshine 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think once he begins to show responsibility. Caring for her during her pregnancy... preparing for the arrival and responsibilty of being the male figure to the baby.
2007-02-23 01:00:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
happens all the time.
There was sme gal who went on Jerry springer for over a dozen paternity tests and they still hadn't figured out who the daddy was. There were too many candidates...
2007-02-23 00:51:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
When he doesn't think of himself all of the time and starts to put more money into the bank than into himself.
2007-02-23 03:31:26 · answer #10 · answered by Confused & Young 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋