he slept with my friend, in my house, while i was at work...?

Question

i was with this guy, and we had been having problems, well last weekend i found out that he had slept with my friend, someone who i saw as a lil sister, in my house while i was at work... i broke my heart and i was angry of course, i lost a friend and a bf at the same time... but for some reason.. i cant get this boy out of my head... i miss him.... i want to forget about him and move on with my life, but right now i cant even function at work... all i can do is cry.... wut do i do??? how can i get over him!!!! i dont any friends, the only person that i can talk to is my little sister.... but she is only 16 and really doesnt know much.... someone please help me... i need to get my life back on track.

Answer 1

You are not alone. Many good people have been wronged. It is so hard to trust people nowadays. The best thing is to let go, I know this will hurt. I have been through the same situation. Its better to cry and let go, than to spend the rest of your life suffering in silence with this man. Your pain will only be temporary, but its better than to suffer for the rest of your life.
I prayed to God and I was so heartbroken, I never realized my ex girlfriend was such a slut (sorry). I forgave her and realized I had to move on. God helped me to get over the pain. I stopped focusing on a girl's physical appearance and I began to focus on her personality and character. Thank God, I found the one, she might not be a Miss America, but she has a good heart that loves God and me.
I hope this helped you. Don't give up, its okay to cry. God is great and He will help you find true love. I will be your friend and I will continue to pray for you.

Answer 2

Aww, of course you are broken hearted! And being betrayed as you were makes it that much worse.

No one gets over something like this in a week or so. There will be more anger, missing him, and tears. I know it is not comforting or even comprehensible to you when people tell you that you will heal, but that it takes what appears to be an unpleasantly long time. And there may always be a resdue of dull pain when you think about it years from now.

The danger here is not accepting your pain, because then you will decide that it is obvious that you need to have him back. YOU DON"T!!!

Please hang in there. Talking to your sister may give you comfort and release, if not advice, so try it. And see if you can't cultivate some casual girlfriend relationships.
Now is a good time, because so many girls will be able to relate to your situation and are just as anxious as you are to have someone to talk to! Best of luck

Answer 3

Hes not loyal. You were having problems anyhow. You can do without him. As for your friend, you mentioned she is younger. Maybe he took advantage of her as well. maybe she needs a friend to talk to now too. In any case he will do the same to her.
You have shed enough tears.
Some girls just like bad boys,and that's why you still think about him, but you need to get your mind on other things. Have some fun. Meet some new people, Stay busy. Do things you enjoy. You'll meet someone else. Focus on your work at work. Do a good job. get satisfaction from that.Make yourself available. Just don't take anything that comes along. Move slow at first when you find someone new.

Answer 4

There's only one way to go through it and that's to go through it. When the tears come and the time is appropriate, hang on to those feelings and just cry. Tears are liquid feelings and the more you release the better you'll feel. If you feel angry, be angry and get a pillow and pretend it's him and beat the stuffing out of it. There will be all sorts of feelings. Just continue to grieve the loss and feel all the feelings.
And, when you are feeling better work on making sure you don't let a turkey like that into your life again.

Answer 5

You totally have a right to feel the way you do, it's more than normal-give yourself a break. Crying is the best medicine for ya right now, Gee, you have been disrespected by two people you care about, and you felt they cared also about you, PLUS you just got a huge dosage of rejection. Rejection is one of the worst emotions a human being will ever feel in their life time. Your thinking the right way tho, it is the right thing to move on, actually the only thing to do. If you care and love yourself, which I sure hope you do, you'll be patient with yourself, and let time go by. Believe me, things will fall into place for you, this thing that just happened to you, was just a stepping stone, and a lesson for you to learn by. Look forward to the future, good things will happen!!

Answer 6

Wake up sweetheart and smell the sulfer!! This was (emphasis on WAS) a guy that cared more about the next conquest than you or her or probably even his next meal. He is a horn dog and not worth a second of your time. If you really believe this is going to cause problems long term you need to find someone to talk to other than your sister. Possibly a professional or even consider your mother. You may be surprised to support you get..... good luck.

Answer 7

U defiantly cant go back to him, don't be a sucker for punishment. Talk to ur sister, you'd be surprised at what someone else's perspective is, 16 is old enough to give u an outsiders point of view, especially if u are close. U need to vent, and get it out of ur system, that's they only way u can get back on track, is to unload your burden, on a listening ear.

Answer 8

Been there done that several times RUN RUN RUN RUN and don't look back. Once a cheater always a cheater! No that's not true it depends how far he goes to apologize. Get out of that relationship for now it's not healthy for you. You don't deserve that someone will make you #1 no God #1 you #2 then you have a winner

Answer 9

YOU DONT NEED HIM!!and i really hope that you do not forgive either of them!! i know it is hard to move on and let go, been there done that. but time will heal if you let your heart move on and just pray! pray to be strong.... im not all religious either okay but when this happened to me (but thankfully not with my bestfriend) i prayed for stregnth and it helped i guarentee. but just dont let it get to you enjoy life. you dont say how old u are but maybe your sister wont hurt totalk to/ or at least she can lend an ear?

Answer 10

To get someone out of your head will take time, but I suggest thinking bad thoughts of him and not good. It will make you angry enough hopefully to move on. Hope this helps.