how do i say no to family that cant help themselves. i feel like a doormat for my husbands family and i dont know how to say no when these people are very pesitant.
2007-02-22 16:30:05 · 9 answers · asked by fazugosgirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Eventually you will start saying no when they have really pushed you to the limit. My bf's family is the same they are real pushy and always used to walk all over me until i got up enough courage one day to fight back and now they know they can't push me around anymore. You need to stand up for yourself and don't rely on your husband to do it for you. This is something you need to do yourself.
2007-02-22 17:01:44 · answer #1 · answered by jimmy_chick78 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband. Tell him how you are feeling. Communication is a big key factor in marriage. If you can't communicate with him with how HIS family is making you feel then you have no chance of this getting any better. It is hard to tell someone no. Your husband should help you it is his family but he can't help if he doesn't know what is happening or how you feel about it. If that doesn't work try talking to his family about how you feel. What can it hurt? Good Luck
2007-02-22 16:37:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this may sound simplistic but this will work, the next family member that call just say no. After you feel the relief of saying no it becomes easy. Trust me I know because I was just like you once and have no regrets of changing.
2007-02-22 16:35:13 · answer #3 · answered by sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard I know, but eventually, you just have to learn to say no to some things. Be honest with them, tell them you have problems of your own too. Maybe you could come to a compromise (ie you scratch my back I'll scratch yours). Good Luck!
2007-02-22 16:36:47 · answer #4 · answered by VodkaKween 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every adult can help themself just as well as any other adult can. Why would one adult have to support another adult? So, you and your husband must agree to say no. Otherwise, yes you are a doormat.
2007-02-22 16:59:03 · answer #5 · answered by 4HIM- Christians love 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the club. It is hard to say no to them, however you have to learn to treat them the way you would treat your own. I would also suggest maybe talking to your husband and find out how he says no to them!
2007-02-22 16:34:04 · answer #6 · answered by Corrine L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thy will calling you mat soon well when thy call you tell them your doing some thing. i know thy will not stop. when you do thy will hate you
2007-02-22 16:35:48 · answer #7 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say NO!...or less frank-occupy your agenda more so that there isnt as much room for their agenda
2007-02-22 16:33:14 · answer #8 · answered by MrMeT00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your husband only he can help.
2007-02-22 16:32:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋