I want to get some and fear my disclosure will ruin my chances. Plus I don't want to ruin the romantic mood by talking about outbreaks and things like that. Please advise.
2007-02-22 16:23:42 · 37 answers · asked by Mark S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This was a hypothetical question. I don't actually have herpes or any STD. (These are only cold sores.) But I find the number of responses and the emotion in some of them very amusing.
2007-02-22 17:11:39 · update #1
Before to build trust in order to get you laid. But NOT right before because that'll just kill the mood.
2007-02-22 16:26:19 · answer #1 · answered by Tania La Güera 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely tell her before. And don't do it during a "romantic mood". Tell her while out or while on the phone. Check with your doctor and have some facts available concerning herpes and sex.
If you need to "get some" that bad, hire a hooker and use a condom. Herpes is not a feared as it used to be and is controllable. She may surprise you and have little or no problem with it. However, it is HER decision, not yours, to make. How would you like it if you had a daughter and some guy with AIDS decided not to tell her because he wanted to "get some" and thought his disclosure might ruin his chances???
2007-02-22 16:28:49 · answer #2 · answered by stseukn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty sure you want to get intimate, but what did she do to you for you to give her herpes? This is serious you know. It's not like just a cold or the flu. It stays with you. There are medicine for that. You should tell her way before you get intimate with her. If your in a serious relationship or plan on being serious, she deserves to be told, even if your just dating. You should see a doctor about this. Tell them if there is any medicine that will help so you don't pass herpes to your significant other when your intimate.
2007-02-22 16:30:10 · answer #3 · answered by shy_gal2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm definitely terrified and that i think so on my own. I basically found out final week that I examined valuable for hsv1 and a pair of. I even have been with an analogous guy for the previous 10 years and interior the final twelve months found out that he has cheated on me with distinctive women human beings. i'm so scared that i could desire to provide it to my little ones by utilising kissing them and them ingesting with me...i think like my entire existence has replaced. or perhaps nevertheless the nurses, my well-being practitioner, and information superhighway web pages say that a great variety of human beings have it I nevertheless experience like i'm by utilising myself. My self-worth has dropped and that i think like I even have been used up. yet now, My existence is amazingly chuffed. rapid appearing assured Herpes scientific care?
2016-09-29 12:17:30 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are only in it to get off then i suggest that you find other methods of relieving yourself. just hink about how you would feel if she had something worse and didnt tell you. what if she had something that could kill you and decided that she would tell you after just because she was horny. in lamens terms tell her before. you would probably get some anyways just more safely there are ways to have sex even if you do have herpes. dont be selfish. you give her something and you guys break up she finds someone new and gives it to them you could end up infecting 10 more people then you originally planned.
2007-02-22 17:02:47 · answer #5 · answered by fazugosgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U have a problem. U will need to tell her, because she is going to be putting her trust in u. Its so unfortunate that even a condom cant help u in this matter, if she agrees, the best will be for u both to go to ur Doctor &discuse what your options are, if there are any.
2007-02-22 16:40:15 · answer #6 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her BEFORE. There is a way to be intimate without affecting her. (Get the info from your doctor or the websites below.) But she needs to know before anything intimate happens. If you both changed places, and she was affected, wouldn't you want to know?
Also you telling her prior to lovemaking will show that you care about her and her health.
2007-02-22 16:30:27 · answer #7 · answered by chickemama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe in most states it's your Legal Obligation to inform your perspective partner that you have a serious STD. Do the right thing... discuss this issue first. Would YOU want someone to do this to YOU or someone close to you ? I think not.
2007-02-22 16:28:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
are you f**cking serious?... BEFORE!
is it her fault you slept around with some other filthy mole who slept around with some other skanky guy (and so on) and got some nasty disease which WILL be with you for life. do you really think it's fair to not at least give her the option of saying no to the same fate.
and another thing - don't YOU wish the person that infected you had told you first?
2007-02-22 16:37:44 · answer #9 · answered by StockRdHappy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you care anything about her you should tell her first. Why would you want to hurt her like that on purpose. Women perfer honesty even if it is not want you always want to hear. If you do not tell her and she becomes infected,she will probaly never speak to you again.
2007-02-22 16:30:10 · answer #10 · answered by CAROL S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋