Yall's advice SUCKS about spanking!!!!!?

Question

Okay if u didn't read my story then u need to go back and read it first other wise, this won't make since. I followed ur advice and apologized to my mom and dad for pushing my mom and that my dad had to spank me. Well, they FORGAVE me apparently and then informed me that im going to spend the rest of my high school years at Hardgrave Military Academy, I was so mad that Started yelling. My mom tried to hug me but I pushed her away and spit in her face. My dad got really angry and grabbed me I was telling him to go away and pushing him. He really just lost it, he immediantly took my to my room and slammed the door. He pulled down my bball shorts and boxers pinned me down on the side of my bed and started whipping my butt really hard with it. I have no idea how many spanks that was but it hurt like hell and he wouldn't let me and kept going. When he stopped he threw his belt at my wall and slammed my door behind him. All I did was lay on my stomach, crying, and rub my butt.

Answer 1

GOOD AND I HOPE IT BLOODY HURTS LIKE HELL.
U REALLY WANA LEARN SOME RESPECT 4 UR PARENTS AND I JUST HOPE UR DAD CARRY'S ON LIKE THIS UNTILL U LEARN NOT 2 B SUCH A SPOILT BRAT

Answer 2

Of course your not overreacting. Your feelings and thoughts are legitimate and very real. How can any reaction based on facts (that you were abused) be an overreaction? I believe in spanking, but I also believe that some ignorant people use the word "spanking" for what is really abuse. A spanking is never done out of irritation, frustration or embarrassment of the child's behavior. A spanking (done correctly) is never used to gain control over a child. When a spanking is done right, it is effective in bringing a child and parent closer together through their shared tears and their love. Many times (almost everytime) one of my children has come to me and hugged me after a spanking and said, "I love you mommy". That's because I don't fly off the handle and start hitting my children just because they do something wrong. I also don't spank them for ever little thing they do wrong. We have certain things we will spank for and our kids know that. Some of those things are 1.Lying 2.Throwing a fit about getting something they want 3. Direct disobedience (I say come here, child doesn't) I'm sure there could be other situations that we would spank for, (profanity, stealing, ...), but these are about the only ones we've had to deal with. I can understand why you have reservations about spanking with an abusive background, and I don't think it's an overreaction. If you want to deal with it, maybe some counseling would be in order. I know a family who has a similar situation where one parent does the spanking and the other parent doesn't spank because he was abused as a child and he just doesn't feel like he should put himself in a position where he might cross a line. I don't know if those are your thoughts or not, but my point is that you don't have to spank. If you do believe that it CAN be an okay tool for child training, and you want to stand behind your husband in his decision, then you both could decide that he will be the one who gives the spanking and you will be the one who supports him in it. This would mean you can still be united without having to do something that makes you uncomfortable.

Answer 3

OMG, your behavior is beyond awful. Too bad that the mighty whippin' just doesn't do anything but make you more bitter and resentful. I'm wondering how you got to the point to where you are at? Have you always had behavior problems? The decision they made was not just based on that one incident, but several.

Anyway, someday I hope you will thank your lucky stars that they decided to send you to the military academy. You might think it's the end of the world, but it isn't. It's the beginning of a new starting point in your life. You will be with other kids that are a lot like you. They will teach you many things there that will mature you and help you learn about respect for authority. In other words, they will make a man out of you, if you will let them and will become a much better person. And if you have mental problems, then they will be able to detect that too and can get you help. It's time you had some respect not only for others, but for yourself.

I can only imagine how heartbroken your parents are. Believe it or not, they do love you. And sending you away isn't easy for them. I know you are mad and want to blame them for your problems, but that is no excuse for how you have been treating your mom. In a year or two, I hope and pray you will look back on this part of your life and try to make it up to your mom and dad. I'll say a prayer for you tonight. God bless you.

Answer 4

I don' t think this is the first time you have behaved like this. Getting in to some bad stuff, fighting, smoking,and not obeying your parents. Maybe if they had not stooped spanking you and had spanked you more often , you would not be acting this way now !!!

Yes, I read your other post, now after PUSHING your Mom, and getting spanked earlier, you go and SPIT on her. You are sooo luck you only got another one !!! I am surprised your not in the hospital !!!! With that said, why don't you try to keep things cool for a day or two, then try to talk to your parents . See if they wont give you another chance, but like I said before I don't think this is the first time you have acted up . So you might be all out of chances.

Answer 5

You "apologized" to your parents. They figured, though, that you had a problem and so were thinking of sending you to the acadamy. Rather than trying to calmly discuss it, you demonstrated how sincere your apology had been ... by yelling, spitting, pushing.


You said: " I have no idea how many spanks that was"

Have no idea how many you got, but for what you did I'd think you deserved at least three times as many licks of the belt ... and they should have been more significant than just "spanks".


You said: "he threw his belt at my wall and slammed my door behind him."

What makes you think it is YOUR wall and YOUR door and YOUR room? Isn't it your Dad's house, etc.? And at least until you turn 18, just think of your Dad owning your butt too!!

OF COURSE he should not use violence in you; and he needs to be teaching you to HONOR your parents. But if he needs to get your ATTENTION then maybe he needs to use something more meaningful than a belt on your butt. Maybe a razor strop like used to hang in barbers' shops.


You said: "All I did was lay on my stomach, crying, and rub my butt."

For what you did, I'm sure most of us could expect to get a butt whipping such that it would be sore enough we wouldn't be rubbing it nor even touching it!! You were crying? Probably just because you were feeling sorry for yourself. Not likely feeling sorry about what you did to your mom and to your dad!! What your dad did to your butt was NOTHING compared to what you did to them!!!

Maybe that Military Academy will use the cane on your bare butt for every hint of disrespect on your part.

Answer 6

It sounds as if pushing your mom is not the first time you've had trouble with your parents. When told about military academy, your first response was not to run away and cry but to spit in your mother's face. It appears this is something they have probably considering for a while. I don't agree with spanking or hitting, but they sound like they are at their wit's end and don't know what else to do with your anger management problem.

Answer 7

I went back and read your other questions. One: You should NEVER EVER push your mother OR spit in her face! you had NO RIGHT! she gave you birth! Two: he had the right to get mad you did need to be spanked Not like that I admit he shouldn't have done it like that but you was being extremely disrespectful to your mother! she loves you has always loved you and you treat her like that? Clearly you didn't get the message from the first time and clearly you still haven't gotten it YOU NEVER EVER disrespect your mother like that! unless she tells you to go get ran over by a car and even then you don't hit her or nothing now if she was to come at you with a knife or something that would be different! You need to learn to control your anger. so does your father.

Answer 8

Oh My God! What is wrong with you!
1ST of ALL, hun u pushed ur mother, got spanked. You spit in her face get spanked.
Do we see a pattern here????? Obviosly If u do somethin to ur mom ur dad is gonna beat the hell out of your a**.

Ur dad spanks u because he loves u . If he didn't he wouldn't of cried. Your dad has had to spank you twice, give him a break, his arm is prob. really sore from using that belt so many times. Military School will straitin u out. A hard belt spanking from ur pa isn't narly as bad as having to meet Big Bubba in Jail. :)

Answer 9

I read all ur questions and BOY u have an anger problem!!! RECOGNIZE AND DIGEST IT!!!!! u need discipline, after ur mistake u have the audacity to repeat it??

u are at the age where u going through a hormonal change, but it is up to the parents how they deal with it. They are showing u love through disciplining u, you'll become a better man for it.

Enjoy Military school.

Answer 10

I think you should consider something you pushed your mother and you spit in her face. You have some anger problems here. I have some friends who work with teens that have the hurts you do I will put you in touch with them if you like. It would be easier than a mlitary academy

Answer 11

Spit in your mother's face?!?!? You better be glad that all you got was a spanking!!! You would be waking up with a sore jaw and a mouth full of soap. You got off lucky!!! Sounds like you need more discipline that he gave you. I am 39 and still can't even imagine yelling at my mother. My kids wouldn't dare raise their voice to me and they are both taller than I am!!!