I pick up my son from day care and he has a cut on his face between his eyes from another child his age. I asked how it happened and was told "its a stage" My question... is it a stage at 2 yrs old? This could have been avoided? Bumps and bruses are one thing but the face? help!
2007-02-22 15:56:45 · 18 answers · asked by DH 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
How the hell did he get 'cut' anyway? Was it with something sharp?
Bites and bruises, sure they happen, But a cut? I wouldn't be happy either and would be asking more questions.
2007-02-22 16:08:45 · answer #1 · answered by Kylie 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well first thing is my children go to daycare and if this had happened it would have went alot further than the provider telling me it is just a "Stage". I would have made sure the other childs parents knew and that they had time out for the child that had done that to my son. Because that's something that needs to be addressed.
Plus if our children are injured even will a bump, bruise, etc. there are accident reports that are filed at the center and we have to sign them and also see that the other parent that's child is also involved also signs it to show that both parents know about the issue and the resolution to the problem.
I would have told them to do more than just call it a "Stage" or else find a BETTER daycare.
2007-02-23 01:06:53 · answer #2 · answered by msheatherd28 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 2 years old i could very easily be a stage. At 2 years old kids don't know what is appropriate ways to express their anger. They bite, they hit, and most of the time they don't realize what they are doing is really hurting the other child. (just wait until you have siblings and see how they fight each other, some days will be worse then cats and dogs.)
However that doesn't mean the situation should be ignored. Ignore bad bahavior and it will continue and the other kid will never learn how to act properly. I would contact the teacher and talk to her about the problem. I would make sure that the teacher and the OTHER kids parents have agreed on a plan to help prevent the problem from reoccuring to often and teach the other child how to vent his anger properly so it doesn't become an ongoing problem.
2007-02-23 00:31:38 · answer #3 · answered by slawsayssss 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have with toddlers in a day care, and sometimes children do hit each other. I wouldn't call it a "stage" like your teacher did. I think what she's referring to is the developmental level of two year olds. You could probably find some information about that online. But regardless, the bottom line is that it is the day care's responsibility to take care of your child. I would not worry about one scratch, but if he is coming home with one or more injuries every week, something is wrong. Our day car had accident reports that were written descriptions of the incident. Maybe you could ask for more details from the staff. I would try to speak with the people in your child's room first because they are the ones who should have seen the incident. If they can't answer you or if the problem continues, I would speak to the person in charge.
2007-02-23 00:08:37 · answer #4 · answered by Becca 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i own a home child care provider and kids that age are prone to hitting, biting, ect.. HOWEVER if the provider was watching him like they are supposed to be than they should have seen it happen and told you exactly how your son got the cut. I had a child who felll and did get a slight cut on his arm. I called the mom right away. i told her he was fine, but i wanted her to know. we also write up injury reports. so the parents and we have copies. she was wrong in telling you it was a stage, because while that can be true it did not exactly tell you what hap pend. Talk with the provider(s). If you don't feel comfy with the answer. i would look for a new provider. I am sorry this hap pend to your son.
2007-02-23 00:05:04 · answer #5 · answered by carriec 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Kids do stuff to each other a lot. It could have been an accident or maybe another kid just got upset and did something. One time, I wouldn't be so worried about it, but if it continues to happen and you let the teachers know and they do nothing, I would look at changing preschools. If this is a reoccurring thing, then I would think that the teachers either aren't paying attention to what goes on or they turn their heads and don't care. Either way, that is not a good situation for your kids to be in.
2007-02-23 00:01:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
They don't want you to make a stink, so they're trying to brush it off. Don't let them. They should be able to tell you which child was the aggressor and exactly what happened. Ask if this child has been involved in an incident like this before. They might not tell you, but sometimes you can learn a lot from their reaction or body language. Whether this is an isolated incident or a this child is a repeat offender can inform how you want the situation handled.
2007-02-23 00:34:07 · answer #7 · answered by a heart so big 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both my kids are in daycare and once my then 2 year old daughter came home with 2 bite marks on her arm. I was told the same thing. Its a stage... I think it depends on how the kid is being diciplined at home when they do this behaviour. May seem mean but when the child bit her, i asked her how it felt and she said it hurt. I asked her if she would ever do that to someone and she said no.. shes almost 4 now and no incidents yet:)
2007-02-23 00:07:20 · answer #8 · answered by midnight_quickie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are willing to put your child in day care then be willing to understand that accidents happen and the carers only have two eyes and two hands.
I WORKED IN CHILDCARE FOR 6 YEARS AND PERSONALLY WOULDN'T PUT MY DAUGHTER IN THERE.Its not the staffs fault most of the time but the ratio's of children to carer its ridiculous. We try our best but it is impossible to be every where all of the time. I suggest that you spend half a day there and watch the staff and children and see what goes on. Because the industry is very poorly paid the staff are generally under qualified if at all and very young. They would give anyone with a blue card a job in Australia. If you cent re has a high staff turn over its not a good sign- But good luck finding one that dosen't.
2007-02-23 00:09:32 · answer #9 · answered by Kellie M 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, that answer was not acceptable. I would insist on a explanation on how it happened in detail. If you do not get one, do not leave your child there again. Take pictures of his face and let them know why you are no longer going back. If they do not know how it happened they are not watching him properly and if they were you would have received a better answer. It could have been his eye. Contact the agency that keeps track of this daycare provider. Document everything dates, names etc. and do not forget to take pictures of his face, in case they try to charge you for leaving without notice.
I had a past experience were a daycare provider who pulled my sons hair out. She said it was cut, so I took him to our family doctor, who put on record the one by two inch bald spot on my sons head was not from being cut it was pulled clean out. He was shocked they would even try and claim it was cut.
2007-02-23 00:11:31 · answer #10 · answered by JAN 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, our 25 month old and his 28 month old cousin get the occasional face scratch usually from finger nails, and I am sure he has done the same to others unintentionally. As long as you are talking about a superficial cut It's totally normal. If it is serious I would be very annoyed and speak w/them about it or go somewhere else, but yes this is the "damage" age.
2007-02-23 00:06:13 · answer #11 · answered by DIRTY SAUSAGE 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋