y husband is taking me away for my birthday. I have two baby boys one 9mth and the other 20mth old i have never spent a day without them and feel i need a break but the only people to leave my kids with is my mum but in the whole 20 months ive had kids she has never once gotten down on the ground and played with either of them, i know she would look after most of their needs like feeding and changing them, am i selfish in leaving them with her? Even though i feel if i dont get this break i will go insane and that wont be good for anyone i dont want my kids to stress?
2007-02-22 15:55:32 · 10 answers · asked by Kenny K 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
you shouldn't feel bad at all, you definatly deserve a break every once in a while.
Just because she doesn't get down and play with them when your around it doesn't mean she never will, or that she doesn't want to.
When I visit my sister and my new niece (born in december) I'll hold her and stuff when people are around but I'm not really comfortable. As soon as my sister steps out for a cigarette I'm goofy uncle guy... I guess I just feel weird talking to an infant who can't really answer back when people are looking. It's easier with my older nieces and nephews cuz they play back. Maybe when you step out she'll loosen up.
2007-02-22 17:34:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not being selfish. You have to take care of yourself so you can take care of your kids. Someone us mommies need a little time to be a wife for a little bit. Trust me, you have a 9 month old and a 20 month old, I'm sure you deserve a break.
2007-02-23 00:08:15 · answer #2 · answered by mommyof2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please don't take this wrong--you need breaks more often than this plan you and your husband have. Those boys need to have mom and dad go out for an evening for a couple of hours each week, if you can. I don't know when you are planning this "get away", however, if there is time before this big get away, please prepare them for this, by going out for a couple of hours. It will help them to understand that yes, mom and dad go out for awhile, but they do come back. Have a good time, wish you and your family the best. Take care.
2007-02-23 00:21:06 · answer #3 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not selfish in leaving them with her. All moms need a break from time to time. Your kids probably are not going to stress although it sounds like you will. For one thing it's only for a little while. For another, she raised you right? It sounds like you turned out OK. Go on vacation with your husband and ENJOY YOURSELF!!!
2007-02-23 00:01:37 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you leaving them for a little while is going to hurt anyone. I'm sure it'll do more good then harm. As long as their being looked after and being taken care of play is optional. All mom's need a break and maybe it'll do good for your mother too to have time alone with her grandchildren. Good luck
2007-02-23 15:32:19 · answer #5 · answered by Melba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is so sweet :) but you know your kids are not stressing you are silly. was your mum good to you as a child? and you trust her as to their basic care? if yes ,,, you need to take a break you cant do everything on your own for your boys, you sound like you are a very good mother and protective :) but sweetie you and your husband need quality time alone every now and then ,, just to keep your sanity :) i hope you decide to go and remember your boys are in good hands and enjoy you lil break you are finally getting,,, much luck sweetie
2007-02-23 00:04:25 · answer #6 · answered by mala 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a break and more than likely deserve one. Just because your mum doesn't get down on the floor and play with them doesn't mean she won't care for them fully. If you trust that she raised you properly then your children are safe with her. Go relax.
2007-02-23 02:17:50 · answer #7 · answered by tylw85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not being selfish at all!! I think you should definitely go and have a great time - the kids will be fine - there's no need to feel guilty!!
2007-02-23 00:16:39 · answer #8 · answered by Zabes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mother's need a break, your children will survive a couple of days without being cuddled and played with -they will be fine
Enjoy your trip!
2007-02-23 08:13:46 · answer #9 · answered by Maroo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to go and have some alone time with your husband and I think your children will be fine after all your mom raised you and you are obviously OK.
2007-02-23 00:04:49 · answer #10 · answered by lexingtonwoman44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋