My boyfriend has been hanging out with his work buddies and at first i thought it was fine but now I think it is more to than what he is telling me. He says that they just go to the bar, go out to grab a bite to eat or play video games but honetly i think it's more. Since he has been hanging out with these new friends he sleeps with his phone, he stays out until the early morning hours and he never answers my phone calls when he's out he always says that he didn't hear it which i dont believe. It's really making me mad because if i'm over his house and his friends send him a text or call hime and asks him to go somewhere with them, then he will up and leave me at his house or ask me if i want to go home. He has never invited me out with his friends or anything. I want to tell him how i feel but i dont know if i am overreacting or if this is truly a problem. we use to do things all the time together now i can count how many times i have been out with him this year-- 3 .
2007-02-22 15:49:15 · 17 answers · asked by Luv2Brie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well it is kind of funny cause he was suposed to spend more time with you and if doesn't think that is right tell him how you feel about the situation and if doesn't listen then just forget about him
2007-02-22 15:52:57 · answer #1 · answered by abeshawiwe!! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it smells like he's cheating on you. Either his friends are setting him up on dates so that they can all go out or he simply says he's going out with his friends when he's out with another girl. If you say he's not answering your phone calls and he never invites you out anymore then you should talk to him. You deserve someone who will appreciate you and likes being with you. Not hiding you and hiding from you. Look don't beg him to change because your putting yourself down and I'm pretty sure you can find someone else. Or you can tell him that if he likes to hang out with his friends so much then tell him that your going to hang out with your friends too and go out together. Don't invite him. You need to have your alone time too. I'm sure guys need alone time, but not like that. So talk to him and if it sound unrealistic just dump him. Go out with friend first before you start dating and when you feel it's time to have a guy in your life then it fine. But do get to know them and don't sleep with them too soon. Good luck and hope you work your things out.
2007-02-22 15:59:05 · answer #2 · answered by shy_gal2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take it from me shortieand i'm a dude that use to do the same thing to my girl,let him go and move on.just as simple as that.if you really want to test his loyalty to this relationship,tell him that you and him need to go your own way.if he questions it and act likes he concern,then express yourself.make him open his eyes to what hes about to lose if he keeps doing what he's doing.so if he agrees with your comment,then make a run for it and don't look back because he plans on dragging you through the mud.if you allow him to keep walking over you,thats what he will continue to do.you are worth more than that,you and every lady that gets walked on.so every lady ready this,you deseve better,so get yourself a good man.believe me when i say this,they still exist.just stop short changing yourself and having to high of expectations and build a foundation of love together.
2007-02-22 16:03:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him how he would feel if u did that to him, then tell him that u would like to go out with them once in a while. u don't want to take his friends away but u need to spend time with him too, or why r u even together?? You're not overreacting I would be pissed.
2007-02-22 15:54:22 · answer #4 · answered by shellbell 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation and it hurt a lot. But you have to tell him, if he loves/likes you he will understand. If you want to hang with him and his friends act if you can join them. If you tell him how you feel and he does nothing about it, I think its time for you to dump him. Whats the point of having a bf who is never around right?
2007-02-22 15:56:22 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds you really have a problem. If he doesn't have time with you then she might not love you anymore. I believe that you're not expecting him to be with you all the time but you need enough time spending together and that's one of the ingredients of love.
2007-02-22 15:58:27 · answer #6 · answered by Albert S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
" wake up" he is no longer in love with you the spark is gone, its time to get on with life, you deserve a better man who would want to make ways to spend time with you , to see you, who makes a point of calling you
why be in that relationship, why love him more than yourself, go and hang out with your friends re invent yourself ,show him what youre worth, and make him sorry for neglecting you!
go and have a makeover , find a better man, a man that would really make you the center of his universe
2007-02-22 15:53:50 · answer #7 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You are the type of person who truly loves... you excuse your partner's actions because you feel so deeply for them. Trust me, speak up now, or you will look back and think badly of yourself later in life.
2007-02-22 15:55:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go out with your friends and do so often.
Do not avoid your girlfriends just cause you have a boyfriend,reconnect with them asap and have a lif ethat does'nt revolve around the boy.
2007-02-22 15:53:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You deserve someone better than this guy. It may be tough, but you have got to tell him how you feel. Get out of it and enjoy your life!
2007-02-22 16:08:30 · answer #10 · answered by lonely236 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋