Is it normal for a 14 yr old girl to be depressed for four years?

Question

Three or four years. I am usually a happy person,. but sometimes when something get's messed up or in my way i am in complete depression. I have problems with my family, and Ive contemplated suicide when I was 12 or so. I grew up in a dysfunctional family. It's not hormones too. what is wrong with me? It's like a roller coaster, im happy for afew months and then like two months i get depressed. I'm fearful for my future, too.

most of the time I feel extremely lonely. like something incomplete's me, and i dont feel loved all the time

Answer 1

Growing up can be hard, and it sounds like you have some tough things to deal with. However, being sad for a long time when you don't have particular events to trigger the sadness is not normal. Since you say it comes and goes every few months and it's been going on for years, I wouldn't be surprised if you have a mood disorder. There's nothing to be ashamed about, a lot of people are depressed or bipolar. I wonder if you are bipolar because you says your mood goes in cycles. When you're feeling happy, do you go for a long time without eating or sleeping, or you feel like you have so much energy you could do anything? I think you should talk to a doctor and get this checked out. You don't have to feel sad all the time.

Answer 2

Alisson, I know actually what you are talking about. I grew up in a dysfunctional family and was depressed from a young age until I was diagnosed with chronic depression. You speak about you cyclical mood swings and I have had them too. I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder and have been on medication for a long time and I am doing well. This is not something I hide from people because it is genetic and all it amounts to is chemicals in your brain not working properly. Hence, the need for medicine. I am not stating that either of these diagnoses are what you have, but I firmly suggest you see a therapist or a psychiatrist. When I got my medications stable I didn't think about committing suicide, in fact, life is very precious and beautiful to me now. And I believe it will be for you again too. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 3

It is not uncommon to feel this way. So many people are depressed, confused about the future, and hurt by dysfunctional family issues.

If you have contemplated suicide, then you really need to seek help. Trust me, there is much to live for, you are only 14 and you have many years to come - happy ones too. You just need to figure out how to deal with what is making you sad and depressed. Please speak to someone, and try to get yourself in to counseling soon. Talk to a parent, a trusted adult, school counselor, call a help line. There are so many people out there that can help you, you just need to reach out to someone.

Good luck to you. And just remember that there is hope, and you are not alone.

Answer 4

you know what...what is normal?? really??? ill be honest here, i had a terrible violent childhood. and I spent a lot of time depressed i guess you could say....lots of people grow up in dysfunction so you are not alone...but..if you are feeling like you want to kill yourself then this depression needs to be treated. you need to talk to a doctor if you cant talk to your family about it, just take yourself in and tell them you are feeling like committing suicide....how you feel will pass, and things will get better and you can get treatment ie: talk to others like you in a support group, go on medication, see a psychologist....depression effects people of all ages and it is not a good feeling to have..perhaps you have a mental disorder that can be helped...

my point is, talk to your family, friends, school counseller, a teacher anyone and get help, because as hard as life is some times there is also a lot of good out there....and as shitty as your life is seeming now, in 10 years you will have the life YOU want for YOURSELF....you can make things the way YOU want them to be.....good luck..please take my advice

Answer 5

Oh dear, I've felt the same way from the 7th grade up until a high school freshman. But now that I'm a sophmore I've had more confidence and I've got tons of friends. Friends are all you need. Make as many as possible! Life's a b*tch; you must deal with it.

Answer 6

It is not completly unheard of for people that young to become depressed, it happened to me. I would not go as far as to call it normal though. You need to discuss your feeling with an adult who can help you. What is your relationship with your family? Is there a teacher you can trust? Or a school couselor maybe? If all else fails a friends parent would work to.

Answer 7

Hon, I strongly suggest going to see a therapist. I am not a licensed therapist, so I can not make a diagnosis. I don't know where you live but you could ask your doctor for a referral to a therapist that specializes in children and teenagers. Maybe where you live has a community mental health center you could try. Good luck.

Answer 8

Oh gosh. what I can say: write in a journal, try playing with your pets if you have some, talk to a guidance counselor, you know, all that normal stuff. I know, being 14 is seriously hard. you must tell someone about your problems. all of your problems. lots of girls have been there before, you're not alone at all. Hang in there and lots of sympathy from me! xoxo ~whatevbookwrm687~

Answer 9

Sweetheart, it isn't normal for ANYONE to feel depressed for four years. You need to talk to your parents, a school counselor, or someone you can trust. You should really see a doctor who can talk to you and help you.

Feeling suicidal isn't a normal part of "just feeling down." you need to talk to someone.

I wish you luck. It will get better if you just hang in there!

Answer 10

I don't think its normal, though not necessarily uncommon. You should defintely think about talking to a councillor or a doctor. Your doctor should know about these feelings, and can likely recommend some things to help you. Lots of people go through the same thing, and need help to stop those feelings.