Question about Natural Miscarriage......?

Question

I went to the ER Monday because I had started bleeding at seven weeks pregnant. After spending five hours there the doctor told me that I was having a miscarriage and that it will continue naturally. At first the cramps weren't very much and I was able to handle them. The last couple of days they have been a little worse, but not much. I can usually take some pamprin or something and I am fine for a few hours. Co Workers say that the pain is my fault because I didn't take any time off from work. I didn't take any time off because the doctor didn't tell me too and at first the miscarriage didn't bother me, but yesterday all I could do was cry but when I was at work keeping busy I was fine. Still the same for now.

Anyways, I want to know how long can it take for a natural miscarriage to complete? I just want it to be over so I can move on and go back to being my normal self and stop feeling like I am bothering my fiance and best friend with not acting "normal".

I did say that the coworker said the MISCARRIAGE was my fault infact they are trying to convince me it isn't. I said that she said the PAIN from the miscarriage is my fault because I haven't slowed down and taken time. I keep going about my business trying to feel normal.

my fiance has never said I bother him, it is just how I feel, everytime i start crying I try to tell him i am sorry and he just holds me tighter saying it is okay

Answer 1

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So sorry for your loss. I had a natural miscarriage at 5 weeks. I hurt and bled for 6 days. I was so tired that i did lay in bed for the 6 days i was having a miscarriage and then about a week after that i done the same.

Answer 2

First off, I am so sorry for your loss.

Second, it is not your fault!!! Miscarriage in the first trimester is normally due to a mistake of nature. It is nothing you did. And the cramps you are feeling are not because you are working so hard. If work keeps your mind off of things, then it is probably more help then anything else, so ignore those ignorant people.

A miscarriage can take a few days or it can take weeks. This is why most doctors will do a D&C. If you do not miscarry soon, I would go to an ob and request this procedure as it will speed things up a little. The increased pain is most likely because you are close to passing the fetal material--I recall when I went through a miscarriage the pain and the cramping increased greatly close to the time I passed the baby. Then it eased soon afterward. You will continue to bleed for several weeks, however. This is normal unless you begin to pass large clots. If this happens or if you start to run a temperature, go to a doctor immediately.

Again, I am sorry for your loss.

Answer 3

Sorry , first of all your co worker obvisouly doesnt know what they are talking about. Miscarriages happen more than people think, some women dont even know that they are pregnant until that happens. Miscarriages happen for a reason, your body wasnt ready, maybe you were on a medicine at the time. Everyones body is different with the miscarriage. There is no normal in losing a child in anyway. I had 8 miscarriages and each one was different. Two of em I didnt even cramp. Just rest and take care of yourself, if you over do it with the stress and trying to get it over with it will do damage to your body.

Answer 4

I am sorry for your loss. Do you have emotional and/or medical support for the crying aspect? (There could be some hormonal factors and some grief factors.)

If you lost your baby at 25 or 30 weeks and you lifted heavy boxes all day at work, then they might have some call to say that the pain was due to your not having taken time off work. At 7 weeks, I don't think so. (Please discuss this with your doctor if you haven't already.) Conjecture and speculation: I think miscarriages which occur that early have to do with combinations of genes which are incompatible with life. :-(

Has your fiance said outright that he is bothered because you are not "acting normal"? Flee now, while you can. I have never been married, but the last I knew the vows said something about "in sickness and in health."

Answer 5

hi there, sorry to hear to that. i know the feeling of having miscarriage bcoz i had once already. im 2months pregnant that time but i undergo in d&c. im pregnant again now but it has a complication again. but i dont lost hope. i know there is still hope for me and to this little life. and i know you can overcome that too.. always remember theres always a SECOND TRY..

Answer 6

I AM SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS AND THAT YOU HAVE TO PUT UP WITH A HEARTLESS COWORKER WHO DOESNT KNOW WHAT THEIR TALKING ABOUT. YOU WILL BE IN MY PRAYERS.