but i got like 6 months ago and i wasn't depressed but just accepted what happened ,i think i didn't value myself a lot....but why could this be, i feel so emotionless....
2007-02-22 15:29:28 · 14 answers · asked by Getroman 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Rape is one of those things that leaves victims scarred long after the actual event. They begin to second guess themselves...Did they encourage it, did they somehow ask for it? Did they actually enjoy it? Was it rape or actually a date? Why couldn't they have seen what was coming and so on?
There is no cure, only acceptance and understanding that you were a victim... after what can be a long long time. I once had a patient who was so guilty because she remembered her own orgasm's, while her father raped her as a child at 11-17. She thought she wanted it!!!
Not true of course! What causes men to rape? It is a multifaceted answer, but essentially it starts with resentment toward women, and ends up being a control thing. Showing they are superior, that they can make their victim do anything they want..and so on. It gives the rapist, a sense of power, but the cost to both sides, is enormous on an emotional level.
Men who are repeatedly raped in prison, often are never able to accept their masculinity again, and often commit suicide, or other acts of self mutilation.
Get counselling fast, it won't solve the problem overnight, but it is the only viable solution.
2007-02-25 05:14:02 · answer #1 · answered by Boston Bluefish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lack of emotions, especially when a person has been traumatized, is a sign of deep emotional trouble. You suffer from low-self esteem because you say that you didn't value yourself. What has caused this? Did you have an abusive parent or brother? Something has happened to you to numb your emotions. Something in your upbringing made you tune out as a protective measure. After all, if you don't feel the emotional pain from something, it can't hurt you. I would get a good therapist so you can find out what happened. If you don't remember, your mind could be blocking it. I'm so sorry to hear that you were raped. That's so very traumatic for women. Most women would go through a period of depression, that's normal. The fact that you did not, is another sign that you've put up a wall around you to protect yourself from hurt and pain. I hope you can get it worked out with therapy. God bless.
2007-02-22 15:39:24 · answer #2 · answered by Gayle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone deals with bad experiences differently. Some women are able to deal with rape more easily than others. Just depends on the lady. You could be really in touch with yourself and know that it wasn't your fault. Or, you could be burying it and that's why you seem emotionless. I know that if it was me I would want to address what happened and talk about it with someone so that I could for sure put it past me. Sometimes when you bury something without dealing with it you develop problems in other areas of your life like eating more, drinking more, or doing drugs. I am not saying this is you, I am saying that some people react to that that way.
2007-02-22 15:35:28 · answer #3 · answered by Serinity4u2find 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone deals with trauma in different ways. It sounds like this is having an effect on you, since you mention that you feel emotionless. That in itself is a defense mechanism, and a way for you to deal with this.
You really need to seek counseling to make sure that you recover from this.
I too was raped, and for several years just pushed it to the back of my mind and thought that it was just a thing that happened. Two abusive relationships later, and depression down the road made me realize that it had more of an impact on me than I though.
Seek help now, rather than waiting. You owe it to yourself to get the right help so that you may live the rest of your life in a positive way.
2007-02-22 15:41:08 · answer #4 · answered by star22 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I could hug you I would.
Talk to someone professional when you feel up to it. I'm so sorry that happened to you.
You're not alone and feeling emotionless is one of the ways women who have been raped feel. I know, I've been there.
Don't feel less about yourself. You're a lovely person and whatever problems that guy had, he had no right to do what he did to you.
You deserve a good, safe, happy life. I really hope you find this.
Never let them beat you down!
2007-02-22 15:54:50 · answer #5 · answered by toe_jam_on_toast 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"i feel so emotionless"
and it obviously upsets you that you aren't feeling upset...
these are symptoms that you ARE having some issues. The easiest thing to do is pretend it didn't happen and to detach from your emotions... you don't want to feel... it hurts too much... and letting yourself hurt makes it feel like you're letting the person who hurt you CONTINUE to hurt you, emotionally.
But you have to talk about it and find your emotions. If you don't deal with them they just build up. I hope you will talk to a therapist or support group.
Good luck, and I'm sorry that you had to go through what you went through. Now comes the toughest part - accepting not just what happened but also your EMOTIONS and then healing.
2007-02-22 15:36:37 · answer #6 · answered by fluffomatic24 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really should seek some professional help. Rape is a traumatic event, and if you're feeling emotionless, that may be your coping mechanism. Just remember -- you did NOT deserve this, and you need to regain your sense of personal value. Good luck to you.
2007-02-22 15:33:53 · answer #7 · answered by la buena bruja 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when girls do get rape they do react in diffrent ways a lot of girls get really sad or they block it out like nothing happen and that is not good either. i say u need 2 talk to someone and that will help
2007-02-22 16:38:58 · answer #8 · answered by crystal w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The emotionless feeling is actually the trauma. You need therapy to get past it or it will cause problems.
2007-02-22 15:33:24 · answer #9 · answered by notyou311 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Having lack of emotion is a symptom as well. I would get some counseling. The link below is a great resource that can help.
2007-02-22 15:33:38 · answer #10 · answered by Heather K 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋