How do you handle a boyfriend who cares about you but never shows it?

Answer 1

I'm in the same boat girl. I had a serious talk with my boyfriend and spilled my guts. I let him know in plain English what I needed. He agreed to be more affectionate. He still doesn't verbalize his feelings but he does it in other ways like huging me more, holding my hand, rubbing my back etc. Everyone is different so you can't expect him to show he cares the same way you do. Ask him to figure out what he would feel comfortable with. If he says he will try I would give him time and not criticize him, however if he shrugs it off like its nothing drop him cause everyone deserves to be showed love. Good luck!

Answer 2

If you ever find the answer to that question let me know. But here is advice that I've been given to help me in the EXACT same situation. Guys don't show affection the way that women want them to, and they aren't all open about their feelings. It's been proven that women need to be told "I love you" or hugged or kissed at LEAST 5 times a day to feel emotionally secure. Now I'm not saying that is true for ALL women, but I can relate to that. But any way, you can't make him change and make him show he cares about you, I've been with my boyfriend for 2 and 1/2 years and he still is not good at it. But I have found (and I don't know how you are so no offence if this doesn't relate to you) that when you act more independently, or kinda back away from him, wait for him to call or ask you to do something or kiss you first, you know, that they will go a little further to get close to you and show that they care, it might sound weird but maybe try backing up a little and let him come to you. Men are attracted to independent women.
Good Luck

Answer 3

Sounds like his words don't match his actions. Does he think that he shows it, and it just isn't what you want? Maybe you have some ideas of how he should show it. What it comes down to is this...
If he truly is not showing you that he cares, he treats you disrespectfully and/or doesn't value your feelings or opinions....he is playing a game....
on the other hand if he is showing you that he cares, just not the exact way that you want him to or think that he should, maybe you need to take a step back and let him show you in the way he wants to.

Answer 4

"Handle"? Isn't that what You do with animals rather than people You are supposed to care about? I have a fair idea why He is so reticent to show He cares for You. It is because You are treating Him like a "boyfriend" instead of a 'Boyfriend'.

Answer 5

wow...i definitely know what you're talking about. Dont nag and say you never care or anything but tell him that you know he cares about you but you wish he showed it more. guys tend to keep a lot of things in and they are pretty simple so he might not think he's doing anything wrong. and give him examples what you like...just try not to sound annoying, etc

Answer 6

If he never shows he cares about you, how do you know he does

Answer 7

Not to be harsh, but it sounds like you want him to care about you when he really doesn't. Believe me, if he did care about you he would have no problem showing it.

Answer 8

He may have been emotionaly stunted by his lack of emotional support from parents or others...... He may not know how to show or do emotional...... If you feel strongly about him and you know he does about you, then YOU teach him gently HOW... keep on showing him how it is done, and eventually he will learn.... maybe not in the same way you show your emotions but in his own way......... God bless

Answer 9

Just give him some time maybe he's too shy or has never been in a similar relationship or any relationship before.

Answer 10

It sounds like he does not know how to be a boyfriend.