What I think happened although I do not have hard evidence to prove is that my boyfriend double booked last weekend. He had made plans with me and he also had made plans to go to a game with his buddy. Instead of telling me the truth and risk me getting angry at him, I think he caused an argument with me to get out of his little mess. I am not sure if I should address it or not b/c I really don't have any real proof that this really happened. Its my intuition. I am upset because if he did this, he was not honest with me but manipulative. I just want him to know that he can tell me the truth and if it is an honest mistake trust that I won't get angry. What should I do? Let it go now or mention to him what I think happened? I don't want him do do what he did in the future.
2007-02-22 14:14:53 · 5 answers · asked by Cutie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, don't listen to these guys. Your boyfriend may be smart, but you can be smarter. First off, don't get angry or emotional. It will just feed him and make you look like the idiot. Calmly say something like, "Next time you double book a weekend between me and your friends. Just tell me. Don't start a fight with me." Then walk away. If he wants to fight it, just ignore him, and whatever you do, don't yell back. If he continues this behavior, then I'd suggest breaking up with him. No one should treat you that way.
2007-02-22 14:24:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about your situation. You should try calling animal control, or some other local agency that deals with animals. Explain the situation to them, letting them know that this man is responsible for horrendous animal abuse. In the meantime, you and your mom should get your pets and get out of there. Quietly find a place you can all go to be safe (maybe a friend or family member's house, or a shelter of some kind). Please, don't let this man hurt you and your loved ones any more. If the police won't help you even though they know he's hurt you and your mom in the past, maybe you can get him arrested on animal cruelty charges. At least that would give you ample time to get far away from him. I wish I knew some better advice to give you, but I hope this helps in some way.
2016-05-24 00:51:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, as you said, you value honesty, so that is exactly what you should use. Don't be accusatory, but just ask him if that's what happened, cos you had a feeling about it. Tell him that you aren't and wouldn't be angry, but would like him to feel comfortable enough to tell you everything in the future without fear of you getting mad. I'm sure he'll respect your honesty and reciprocate.
2007-02-22 14:22:00 · answer #3 · answered by salstick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smart guy! You sound like a control freak. He's your boyfriend, not your possession. It's a shame that he has to "avoid" telling you the truth that he'd rather hang out with his friends and have some fun.
2007-02-22 14:17:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is smart, i'm going to have to start using that one.
2007-02-22 14:18:48 · answer #5 · answered by Wham 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋